My Approach to Helping
I believe that Sex Therapy is Couples Therapy, and Relationship Counseling, it is Life Coaching, and most importantly it is the bridge between body and mind. Sex Therapy may appear on the surface to focus on the passions (or lack there-of) of the genitals, but for me Sex Therapy ties in our mental psyches, our egos, to our physical and our metaphysical, to our relationships with ourselves and with others, to our personalities, our identities, our histories and ultimately our lives. In my office Sex Therapy is holistic, encompassing healing from the inside out, often starting with the body and then linking us to the mind and is solution focused. As a sex therapist I will try to help you develop clearly defined issue/s and goals of therapy, plans to work on that issue and resolve it, or find a way to make whatever problems it causes have less of an impact on your life and sex life. It is very common that sex therapy will start out with a focus on a specific sexual dysfunction or major sexual communication problems between partners, but once the layers are peeled back, some very basic disconnected thought patterns will be revealed. My goal is to reconnect you to your entire being. Your goal is to achieve Mind-Body Attunement. Sex therapy may be brief, lasting anywhere from a few sessions to more than a dozen sessions, but for more deep rooted problems treatment may be long term and last for several years. Sex therapy is usually directive. I will be be an active participant in your treatment, asking questions and often giving direct suggestions, homework exercises (both physical and mental), and psycho-education in an effort to support your goals throughout the therapy.
More Info About My Practice
Generally since I specialize in sex therapy, I am chosen over a general psychotherapist, psychologist, psychiatrist, or other helping professional, when the issues are very specifically sex related, or when sexuality seems like a central part of the issue. Some examples of issues that bring people to sex therapy are: Sexual trauma Lack of orgasm Difficulties with erections or ejaculation Problems with differing levels of desire in a couple Difficulties resulting from infidelities Sexual concerns as a result of illness or surgery This list is not all-inclusive, and if you think you are interested in talking with a sex therapist, I will spend at some time on the phone with you to determine whether or not I am the appropriate person to be meeting with. Please note however, that during the course of treatment in the case of Sex Therapy, there will often occur exploration of history, childhood, previous relationships, and past experiences which may also uncover significant emotions, communication/relational patterns and lifestyle habits that have been learned throughout our lives. I often utilize cognitive questioning or narrative understandings in the session to help you work through these issues, have cathartic release and move forward in a more healthy and productive manner. Thus, treatment is often is focused on your relationships, your past, what you have learned and internalized and what ideals you've created, what patterns you've manifested in your life, and the gamut of underlying sources which contribute to the surface problem. Sex or sexuality concerns may be the physical manifestation of a psychological condition. I do believe that for these reasons Sex Therapy is for Everyone. Please do not hesitate to contact me if you have any other questions regarding Psychotherapy and Sex Therapy, and Mind-Body Attunement.
What I Love about Being a Psychotherapist
I love working with couples. Having had my share of long term relationships, I have a lot of insight in what works, what doesn't and why we sometimes act the way we do in relationships. I also love working with sexual issues, in tandem. I find that there are a lot of myths and mis-education around sexuality, as well as a lot of embarrassment in talking about it, and shame and guilt about our feelings in terms of sex and sexuality. I think this all stems from and perpetuates our inability to talk about sex. Talking openly about sex is one thing I share with my clients, in a non-judgemental, corrective emotional experiential space, where we can talk about anything and I will be the sounding board for my clients.