Monique Vazire, Psychotherapist in Mountain View, 94040

Monique Vazire, MA

Profession(s):
Psychotherapy, Marriage & Family Therapy, Counseling
License Status:
I'm a licensed professional.
Primary License:
Mariage & Family Therapist - 42868

My Approach to Helping

Do you sometimes ask yourself: ~ How can I stop feeling angry, disappointed, or frustrated in my situation? ~ I tried everything, nothing works in the long term. What can I do? ~ Why are relationships so unfullfilling? During sessions, you are gently guided to recognize the parts of your Self that have conflicting, often incompatible goals, perspectives, and beliefs. Those parts often pull you in opposite directions - "I really want ice cream, but I also want to lose weight," for example - and criticize you for not being more responsible, productive, etc... The various parts of yourself fight for your compliance and try to convince you that their point of view is the one you need to follow. By inviting your own Self to be in the lead - not the therapist's- you become able to see yourself though the eyes of the unconditionally loving Self you really are. This helps you understand and step out of the inner battles "high-jacking" your mind, leaving you exhausted and puzzled as to why you don't reach your goals, or why you lose your self-control. While you focus on each part of yourself with curiosity and love, those inner parts start collaborating with each other under the leadership of your Self. This approach to the psyche combines many interventions from other models (Gestalt, psychodynamic, etc) with a spiritual approach that places the Self in a leadership role by treating each Part as a "real" personality inside that is capable of relating in harmony with the others. "

More Info About My Practice

Being an immigrant myself, and born from parents who gave me the gift of knowing you can have wisdom without formal education, and having been married with a person with an eastern and muslim upbringing, I enjoy working with people who are from different cultures, religions, ethnicity, socio-economic background, etc. My practice is informed by the teachings of Abraham (Esther Hicks).

Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With

Anxiety, feeling insecure, lack of self-worth are the most common issues that underlie most of the discomfort and difficulties that people suffer and struggle with. Often those feelings are due to the gap between what is perceived as realistic or possible and what is hoped for in life. Having a high hopes for our life helps reach for more satisfaction and learning how to achieve and manifest those hopes is one goal of counseling.

My Role as a Therapist

My role as therapist is to become a co-therapist with my client who gradually feel more and more confident and learn to help those parts of themselves that are not yet up to speed with the wisest and happiest parts of themselves.