My Approach to Helping
My goal is to help my clients use their special, unique qualities to find solutions to problems, enhance their
relationships, build confidence, and build a healthy sense of self. We identify what your challenges are, when they
developed, and when they are the most troublesome to you. I offer helpful techniques based on your particular
needs to help identify, cope and understand your problem. With insight we go into the root of the problem to help you solve the reason you sought therapy.
In couples counseling I am direct and make the couple aware of their disconnect by pointing out observed behaviors and putting words to body language, eye rolling etc. The way I and the couple develop rapport is by being honest from the start and the couple feeling heard. Sometimes the process is very similar to individual psychotherapy, sometimes it is more like coaching and it is educational. The goal is to initially gather each individuals feelings, thoughts, and conflicts in front of each other, to practice mindfulness and respect while the spouse/partner is speaking. I work with the couple to identify the disconnect and often that may include homework. I believe that intimate connectedness and full respectful living is our birthright and optimal state for all types of relationships.