My Approach to Helping
Using individual, parent, or family sessions, I specialize in helping children, teenagers, and parents be able to talk about and find practical solutions to the problems they face. Because kids often feel uncomfortable when asked a lot of questions about problems they don't want to acknowledge or don't believe they have, I try instead to generate conversations that get to the point, but are compelling enough to draw their attention. I especially like working with kids who resist therapy or who have had disappointing experiences in the past. My approach is collaborative, informal, and focused on problem-solving, and suits any of the following types of issues: academic nonchalance or decline, moody or manipulative behavior, depression/withdrawal/anxiety, problems getting along with peers, poor self-image or self-esteem, unexplained sadness, self-destructive choices, disrespect toward parents (but no one else!), avoiding responsibility, chronic conflict or tension or disagreements at home, emotional distancing between parent and child, poor conduct (aggressive, evasive, intimidating), among others.
More Info About My Practice
I have authored several books, one of which is the popular parenting paperback, Stop Negotiating with Your Teen: Strategies for Parenting Your Angry, Manipulative, Moody or Depressed Adolescent. Another is called, Adolescent Therapy That Works: Helping Kids Who Never Asked for Your Help in the First Place, and is used in graduate schools and by mental health professionals. My most recent book is scheduled for release in September 2012, and is called, The Last Boys Picked: Helping Boys Who Don't Play Sports Survive Bullying and Boyhood. Please visit my website for more information about my work with kids and their parents as well as about other services.
What I Love about Being a Psychotherapist
Few things sadden me more than watching parents and their children distance themselves from one another because they're hurt or angry or offended, when all they really want to do is connect in a way that feels genuine, respectful, and kind. One thing I do love about being a therapist is being in a position to encourage others to see vulnerability as a condition to be cultivated, not avoided, and recognize its understated expression of liberation and resilience.