My Approach to Helping
*The first duty of love is to listen.*
We are sensitive beings, which can feel like a burden until we learn to develop our capacities for AWARENESS and CHOICE.
To cultivate our inner lives and intimate relationships we must bring to them the full range of our intelligence and emotional expression.
Flow is possible. Emotional courage, when cultivated, allows us to carry forth our lives with the ease of grace and the power of purpose.
And there are dark times, lost times, seasons of grief and loneliness. We are sensitive being, and we need the care, the guidance, and the sheltering protection of others at such times. Without support our strength grows hollow, and the all-too-human experiences of self-awareness and intimate relationship can become overly critical, fearful and unbalanced, with a gloomy and anxious mood coloring everything.
That's where therapy helps: With the guidance of trusted facilitation we can learn how to appreciate, respect, and deepen into love for ourselves, and those dearest to us. With an open mind and engaged heart we sense who we are and what we want. And this is KEY: we choose what we will focus on, and in so doing reveal a good path going forward.
More Info About My Practice
In my practice I have found that the best way to determine if I can help and am the right therapist for a client is to sit with them. It may serve you as the seeker of therapy to sit with more than one therapist before launching into the work. Over the phone we will discuss preliminary logistics--time, fee, your issue of concern, and any pressing questions you have about my style of therapy. The best way to proceed is to meet in my office. There is no commitment necessary to come in for a consultation.
Our first meeting is a working session: we limit history taking to that which is relevant to your main issues. Often we can clarify the goals of therapy in the first hour, and create a sense of our working relationship.
I recognize that for many people this first meeting is a significant step in trusting that important areas of their life can get better. Among other things it is opportunity to simply express and be heard on matters close to your heart, and to begin to see yourself in a more generous light.
My Role as a Therapist
As a therapist my strong intention is to evoke clarity and compassion in those I work with. There are just too many ways to feel inadequate and bad about ourselves, which dishonors the inheritance of strength and beauty we have available to us. Generosity of spirit lightens whatever burdens we are asked to carry. Where once was shame and grief, the miraculous gifts of joy and gratitude can appear. Life is complicated...but it doesn't have to be difficult. It's a lot easier - something of an adventure really - once we are able to ask for help.