Comments on: The Internal Storm http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/10/02/internal-storm/ <<exploring healthy therapy & counseling>> Fri, 09 Jan 2009 13:39:59 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Sarah Jenkins http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/10/02/internal-storm/#comment-12137 Sarah Jenkins Thu, 16 Oct 2008 15:42:59 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=907#comment-12137 Jose, Ha Ha. Yep, being able to relax, hey, that's a great "problem" to have! I'll take it! :D Jose,

Ha Ha. Yep, being able to relax, hey, that’s a great “problem” to have! I’ll take it! :D

]]> By: Jose http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/10/02/internal-storm/#comment-12127 Jose Thu, 16 Oct 2008 11:53:53 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=907#comment-12127 So I guess I am the only couch potato on the site who has no problem at all with relaxation? So I guess I am the only couch potato on the site who has no problem at all with relaxation?

]]> By: Sarah Jenkins http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/10/02/internal-storm/#comment-11973 Sarah Jenkins Tue, 07 Oct 2008 17:47:15 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=907#comment-11973 Thanks for all of your responses! Amy, I am really glad that you were able to see how our egos sometimes want us to hold on, even when intuition tells us something different. It, certainly, can be quite the battle between the soul and the ego. Nevertheless, when we see those "now" moments, the soul can speak to us, and we are better able to listen. Davison, Of, course, I can't tell you what to do. But, it does sound like something you are willing to explore. (This site has lots of amazing therapists, perhaps you could find one in your area to connect with.) I can tell you that you brought up a great question and many of my clients struggle with how to relax, often finding it more aggravating as well. For some, a relaxation response can be more anxiety producing, especially if they have a history of trauma of some kind. It is as if the brain struggles to relax because it doesn't feel safe too. Mathew, Yep, you are right; let's face it, "how" we relax is not universal. If it was, we would all lose our uniqueness. I'm glad you brought that point to this post! Thanks for all of your responses!

Amy,
I am really glad that you were able to see how our egos sometimes want us to hold on, even when intuition tells us something different. It, certainly, can be quite the battle between the soul and the ego. Nevertheless, when we see those “now” moments, the soul can speak to us, and we are better able to listen.

Davison,
Of, course, I can’t tell you what to do. But, it does sound like something you are willing to explore. (This site has lots of amazing therapists, perhaps you could find one in your area to connect with.) I can tell you that you brought up a great question and many of my clients struggle with how to relax, often finding it more aggravating as well. For some, a relaxation response can be more anxiety producing, especially if they have a history of trauma of some kind. It is as if the brain struggles to relax because it doesn’t feel safe too.

Mathew,
Yep, you are right; let’s face it, “how” we relax is not universal. If it was, we would all lose our uniqueness. I’m glad you brought that point to this post!

]]> By: Sarah Jenkins http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/10/02/internal-storm/#comment-11971 Sarah Jenkins Tue, 07 Oct 2008 17:39:57 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=907#comment-11971 Thanks for all of your responses! Amy, I am really glad that you were able to see how our egos sometimes want us to hold on to something. Often, when intuition tells us something different. It, certainly, can be quite the battle between the soul and the ego. Nevertheless, when we see those "now" moments, the soul can speak to us, and we are better able to listen. Davison, Of, course, I can't tell you what to do, I'm not in a therapist role with you. But, it does sound like something you are willing to explore. (This site has lots of amazing therapists, perhaps you could find one in your area to connect with.) I can tell you that you brought up a great question and many of my clients struggle with how to relax, often finding it more aggravating as well. For some, a relaxation response can be more anxiety producing, especially if they have a history of trauma of some kind. It is as if the brain struggles to relax because it doesn't feel safe too. Thanks for all of your responses!

Amy,
I am really glad that you were able to see how our egos sometimes want us to hold on to something. Often, when intuition tells us something different. It, certainly, can be quite the battle between the soul and the ego. Nevertheless, when we see those “now” moments, the soul can speak to us, and we are better able to listen.

Davison,
Of, course, I can’t tell you what to do, I’m not in a therapist role with you. But, it does sound like something you are willing to explore. (This site has lots of amazing therapists, perhaps you could find one in your area to connect with.) I can tell you that you brought up a great question and many of my clients struggle with how to relax, often finding it more aggravating as well. For some, a relaxation response can be more anxiety producing, especially if they have a history of trauma of some kind. It is as if the brain struggles to relax because it doesn’t feel safe too.

]]> By: Mathew http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/10/02/internal-storm/#comment-11965 Mathew Tue, 07 Oct 2008 09:38:51 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=907#comment-11965 if i wanted "all is calm" I would probably join a monastery. I dont think everyone can sync in with that. My calm is chilling in my room listening to Metallica. my mom would probably get a heart attack if she tries calm "my way". if i wanted “all is calm” I would probably join a monastery. I dont think everyone can sync in with that. My calm is chilling in my room listening to Metallica. my mom would probably get a heart attack if she tries calm “my way”.

]]> By: Davison http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/10/02/internal-storm/#comment-11935 Davison Mon, 06 Oct 2008 12:19:19 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=907#comment-11935 Oscar Wilde is speaking to me this morning. Just yesterday I was wishing for a way just to get away from everything because there are too many distractions at home that just will not allow me to rest, and quite frankly sometimes the calm does bore me beyond belief. I understand the need for calm time and relaxation but it is as if my body will not physically and psychologically allow me this kind of respite. And that is aggravating for my family. What to do? Oscar Wilde is speaking to me this morning. Just yesterday I was wishing for a way just to get away from everything because there are too many distractions at home that just will not allow me to rest, and quite frankly sometimes the calm does bore me beyond belief. I understand the need for calm time and relaxation but it is as if my body will not physically and psychologically allow me this kind of respite. And that is aggravating for my family. What to do?

]]> By: Amy http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/10/02/internal-storm/#comment-11927 Amy Mon, 06 Oct 2008 04:47:44 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=907#comment-11927 This was an awesome read!!! My ego wouldnt let go of a relationship just ended a month ago. I told myself that we were perfect for each other. Familiarity did breed contempt in our case and in my soul I could feel that for nearly a year. We didnt fight but we were just growing slowly and steadily apart and unconnected in every way. Desperate attempts at togetherness didnt help because we had empty space in our moments. When I look back with reason and not my ego, we had a great time while it lasted but it was just not meant to be. Sometimes I feel it was a waste of time delaying the end because we find it so hard to let go of what we think was right in our opinion. This was an awesome read!!! My ego wouldnt let go of a relationship just ended a month ago. I told myself that we were perfect for each other. Familiarity did breed contempt in our case and in my soul I could feel that for nearly a year. We didnt fight but we were just growing slowly and steadily apart and unconnected in every way. Desperate attempts at togetherness didnt help because we had empty space in our moments. When I look back with reason and not my ego, we had a great time while it lasted but it was just not meant to be. Sometimes I feel it was a waste of time delaying the end because we find it so hard to let go of what we think was right in our opinion.

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