Comments on: New Research Supports Idea that Women are Better than Men at Expressing Emotions and Articulating Problems in Therapy http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/10/01/women-in-therapy/ <<exploring healthy therapy & counseling>> Fri, 09 Jan 2009 13:32:06 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Steve http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/10/01/women-in-therapy/#comment-13105 Steve Sun, 16 Nov 2008 02:21:32 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=903#comment-13105 I think that all of us can openly admit that women are just hard wired with better overall communication skills than men are. There is no big secret about that. It is then no wonder that they continue this trend in the therapy world as well. I think that men have to be taught better ways to share what is going on in their lives, because I think that many men are faced with the same things growing up that I did. We were taught to be the strong silent types, and that is just how we were raised. Little did we know that our future friends and family members would hate us for this! Women are simply better at letting their feelings out, whereas men have to work harder at getting comfortable with doing this. I think that all of us can openly admit that women are just hard wired with better overall communication skills than men are. There is no big secret about that. It is then no wonder that they continue this trend in the therapy world as well. I think that men have to be taught better ways to share what is going on in their lives, because I think that many men are faced with the same things growing up that I did. We were taught to be the strong silent types, and that is just how we were raised. Little did we know that our future friends and family members would hate us for this! Women are simply better at letting their feelings out, whereas men have to work harder at getting comfortable with doing this.

]]> By: AMH http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/10/01/women-in-therapy/#comment-12167 AMH Fri, 17 Oct 2008 17:42:29 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=903#comment-12167 COME ON! this does not have to be this way! men can make the conscious decision to move beyond this and to start learning better ways to communicate than what they have been taught in the past...right!!?? COME ON! this does not have to be this way! men can make the conscious decision to move beyond this and to start learning better ways to communicate than what they have been taught in the past…right!!??

]]> By: Ben http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/10/01/women-in-therapy/#comment-12039 Ben Fri, 10 Oct 2008 14:01:26 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=903#comment-12039 But don't you think that a lot of this is cultural? Men are not raised to be talkers and this carries over for the rest of their lives. But don’t you think that a lot of this is cultural? Men are not raised to be talkers and this carries over for the rest of their lives.

]]> By: Maggie http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/10/01/women-in-therapy/#comment-11937 Maggie Mon, 06 Oct 2008 12:22:59 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=903#comment-11937 Rita I agree with you one hundred percent. Does this research surprise anyone out there? I do not understand why it would. Women are just fine tuned to be better at communicating our feelings and emotions. I think that most men can learn to do this but I do not think that this is mostly their first ingstinct. I too do not wish to sound like a chauvenist, but this is the case most of the time. I can ask my husband a question and maybe get a word or two of a response, while if I ask a girl friend the same exact question she may go on extemporaneously for hours. Men and women are just wired differently. Rita I agree with you one hundred percent. Does this research surprise anyone out there? I do not understand why it would. Women are just fine tuned to be better at communicating our feelings and emotions. I think that most men can learn to do this but I do not think that this is mostly their first ingstinct. I too do not wish to sound like a chauvenist, but this is the case most of the time. I can ask my husband a question and maybe get a word or two of a response, while if I ask a girl friend the same exact question she may go on extemporaneously for hours. Men and women are just wired differently.

]]> By: Rita http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/10/01/women-in-therapy/#comment-11929 Rita Mon, 06 Oct 2008 05:00:41 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=903#comment-11929 Call me "female chauvinistic" but that's not so hard to figure out. Girls DO walk, talk, eat and do a lot more stuff earlier than boys. Dont believe me?? Check wikipedia. A man grunts in reply to any question you ask him and that is his intelligible answer!! When you ask a girl if she likes her barbie, she'd say a million things to that. Plumbing might make her respond with an " I am sorry, I dont know how to fix that". A sentence from a guy wd sound like "Yeah, cool!!" and a word would be "Uh!!" Talking professionally as someone who works with teenagers with addiction problems, its a whole lot easier to understand why a girl does some things but it takes a lot more digging to get to the bottom of "What eats Gilbert Grape??" Call me “female chauvinistic” but that’s not so hard to figure out. Girls DO walk, talk, eat and do a lot more stuff earlier than boys. Dont believe me?? Check wikipedia. A man grunts in reply to any question you ask him and that is his intelligible answer!! When you ask a girl if she likes her barbie, she’d say a million things to that. Plumbing might make her respond with an ” I am sorry, I dont know how to fix that”. A sentence from a guy wd sound like “Yeah, cool!!” and a word would be “Uh!!”

Talking professionally as someone who works with teenagers with addiction problems, its a whole lot easier to understand why a girl does some things but it takes a lot more digging to get to the bottom of “What eats Gilbert Grape??”

]]>