Comments on: Take Responsibility For Your Feelings http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/06/23/take-responsibility-for-your-feelings/ <<exploring healthy therapy & counseling>> Tue, 02 Dec 2008 20:17:21 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Michelle http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/06/23/take-responsibility-for-your-feelings/#comment-10221 Michelle Mon, 28 Jul 2008 10:47:51 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=527#comment-10221 Taking responsibility for your feelings I believe is a key element that we need to teach our children from a very early age. Many times I see children who already feel thye have no control over what happens to them in life and then this turns into those same feelings as adults. We need to teach them that it is OK to recognize how you feel and give them appropriate tools for dealing with how they feel and give them all that is necessary to work through it. Taking responsibility for your feelings I believe is a key element that we need to teach our children from a very early age. Many times I see children who already feel thye have no control over what happens to them in life and then this turns into those same feelings as adults. We need to teach them that it is OK to recognize how you feel and give them appropriate tools for dealing with how they feel and give them all that is necessary to work through it.

]]> By: Maddie http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/06/23/take-responsibility-for-your-feelings/#comment-10109 Maddie Fri, 25 Jul 2008 18:58:03 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=527#comment-10109 I do not feel that I ever had any true friends in my life until I learned to take responsibility for my feelings and actions. Once I did that I have had more meaningful relationships than I have ever been able to before because I learned to not only trust others but also to trust myself. I do not feel that I ever had any true friends in my life until I learned to take responsibility for my feelings and actions. Once I did that I have had more meaningful relationships than I have ever been able to before because I learned to not only trust others but also to trust myself.

]]> By: Barbi http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/06/23/take-responsibility-for-your-feelings/#comment-10005 Barbi Tue, 22 Jul 2008 23:16:18 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=527#comment-10005 Hi all, Thanks for reading my article and taking the time to publish such insightful responses to it. I really appreciate it. All the best, Barbi Pecenco, MA Hi all,

Thanks for reading my article and taking the time to publish such insightful responses to it. I really appreciate it.

All the best,
Barbi Pecenco, MA

]]> By: Berkeley Therapist http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/06/23/take-responsibility-for-your-feelings/#comment-10003 Berkeley Therapist Tue, 22 Jul 2008 22:38:41 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=527#comment-10003 Do you know how many adults I have encountered in my relatively short career who still cannot take responsibility for their actions and feelings? Too many to count. And this is made doubly worse when there is another in the relationship who is equally culpable. Do you know how many adults I have encountered in my relatively short career who still cannot take responsibility for their actions and feelings? Too many to count. And this is made doubly worse when there is another in the relationship who is equally culpable.

]]> By: Steve Hopkins Therapist http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/06/23/take-responsibility-for-your-feelings/#comment-9971 Steve Hopkins Therapist Mon, 21 Jul 2008 14:31:53 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=527#comment-9971 Making something positive in your life more important than the negative is indeed one of the keys to realizing happiness. But for some people that can be so difficult! They have spent so much of their time focusing on the negative things in life and have rarely given the appropriate time to being grateful for the postive. For some people therapy can help them with this- for others all it takes is a strong relationship to take hold and begin to turn around the way that they think. No matter how it happens, it can truly be a life changing experience when the begin to take responsibility for the things that happen to them in life, to determine that they do have some control over many of the things that happen to them and they then turn this into a healthier way of living all the way around. Making something positive in your life more important than the negative is indeed one of the keys to realizing happiness. But for some people that can be so difficult! They have spent so much of their time focusing on the negative things in life and have rarely given the appropriate time to being grateful for the postive. For some people therapy can help them with this- for others all it takes is a strong relationship to take hold and begin to turn around the way that they think. No matter how it happens, it can truly be a life changing experience when the begin to take responsibility for the things that happen to them in life, to determine that they do have some control over many of the things that happen to them and they then turn this into a healthier way of living all the way around.

]]> By: Austin http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/06/23/take-responsibility-for-your-feelings/#comment-9919 Austin Thu, 17 Jul 2008 22:34:17 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=527#comment-9919 I found great persepctive in this article. It spoke volumes to me with the line thta we have to make the relationship more important than the resentment. For too long I allowed the resent to take over and paid way more attention to this than I did keeping a relationship together. This helps me see things in a new light though. Those are some great tips that I hope to keep with me and continue working on for a long time. I found great persepctive in this article. It spoke volumes to me with the line thta we have to make the relationship more important than the resentment. For too long I allowed the resent to take over and paid way more attention to this than I did keeping a relationship together. This helps me see things in a new light though. Those are some great tips that I hope to keep with me and continue working on for a long time.

]]> By: Jeni http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/06/23/take-responsibility-for-your-feelings/#comment-9873 Jeni Mon, 14 Jul 2008 15:59:42 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=527#comment-9873 But you have to be careful too. My husband has cheated at least three times that I know of and I thought was pretty secure in the relationship. Not so much anymore. But you have to be careful too. My husband has cheated at least three times that I know of and I thought was pretty secure in the relationship. Not so much anymore.

]]> By: Nikki http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/06/23/take-responsibility-for-your-feelings/#comment-9835 Nikki Wed, 09 Jul 2008 22:53:26 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=527#comment-9835 Trying to get there. . . this artcle helps me see that a lot of what is going on in a current relationship may not completely be the fault of my significant other. Thanks for the advice. Trying to get there. . . this artcle helps me see that a lot of what is going on in a current relationship may not completely be the fault of my significant other. Thanks for the advice.

]]> By: Jillian http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/06/23/take-responsibility-for-your-feelings/#comment-9739 Jillian Mon, 30 Jun 2008 18:49:55 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=527#comment-9739 There are so many women that I think this article applies to. We allow ourselves to become so caught up in a relationship that honestly I think we foregt about who we are and what we are all about. It is time for us to regain our strength and continue to be the strong independent beings we were meant to be. There are so many women that I think this article applies to. We allow ourselves to become so caught up in a relationship that honestly I think we foregt about who we are and what we are all about. It is time for us to regain our strength and continue to be the strong independent beings we were meant to be.

]]> By: Sandy http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/06/23/take-responsibility-for-your-feelings/#comment-9701 Sandy Sun, 29 Jun 2008 19:48:43 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=527#comment-9701 Sounds like she does need some help in this area although this will be a little touchy to try gwith her as a sister in law unless the two of you are very close already. I hope that things work out. Sounds like she does need some help in this area although this will be a little touchy to try gwith her as a sister in law unless the two of you are very close already. I hope that things work out.

]]> By: Shannon http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/06/23/take-responsibility-for-your-feelings/#comment-9673 Shannon Sat, 28 Jun 2008 23:51:11 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=527#comment-9673 My sister in law is so jealous of my brother sometimes that it really does threaten to ruin their relationship. She had a tough upbringing and i am sure that this leads to a great deal of insecurity within her that she then expresses in this way. I am thinking of sharing this article with her and hopefully helping her work out some of those feelings before irreparable harm is done. My sister in law is so jealous of my brother sometimes that it really does threaten to ruin their relationship. She had a tough upbringing and i am sure that this leads to a great deal of insecurity within her that she then expresses in this way. I am thinking of sharing this article with her and hopefully helping her work out some of those feelings before irreparable harm is done.

]]> By: Kyle http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/06/23/take-responsibility-for-your-feelings/#comment-9647 Kyle Thu, 26 Jun 2008 12:08:14 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=527#comment-9647 My wife and I have never experienced this- we have always been able to lead our lives as partners but with other friends as well. I guess it makes me question the solidity of a relationship where you have to feel jealous over a partner's actions when there is no reason for feeling that way. Now if someone is cheating-OK. But just going out with friends every now and then? That is silly. My wife and I have never experienced this- we have always been able to lead our lives as partners but with other friends as well. I guess it makes me question the solidity of a relationship where you have to feel jealous over a partner’s actions when there is no reason for feeling that way. Now if someone is cheating-OK. But just going out with friends every now and then? That is silly.

]]> By: ashley http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/06/23/take-responsibility-for-your-feelings/#comment-9629 ashley Wed, 25 Jun 2008 18:50:58 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=527#comment-9629 I think that there are many who go through these same issues, who feel almost jealous that their loved one has something going on and they do not. that is why it is so important for both parties in a relationship to maintain friendships with others and to feel that they have a life that does not solely revolve around the love relationship, and that it is OK to have friends that are separate from that. I think that there are many who go through these same issues, who feel almost jealous that their loved one has something going on and they do not. that is why it is so important for both parties in a relationship to maintain friendships with others and to feel that they have a life that does not solely revolve around the love relationship, and that it is OK to have friends that are separate from that.

]]> By: amyhop http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/06/23/take-responsibility-for-your-feelings/#comment-9607 amyhop Tue, 24 Jun 2008 12:18:24 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=527#comment-9607 This article spoke to me on so many different levels because as I was reading it I said, hey that's me. Whenever my husband has something to do on the weekend that does not involve me I get a bit angry. OK a lot and I have never been able to determine why. This helped me see that there are ways that I can communicate this to him rather than just being mad and him having no idea what is going on. Thank you so much for printing this. This article spoke to me on so many different levels because as I was reading it I said, hey that’s me. Whenever my husband has something to do on the weekend that does not involve me I get a bit angry. OK a lot and I have never been able to determine why. This helped me see that there are ways that I can communicate this to him rather than just being mad and him having no idea what is going on. Thank you so much for printing this.

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