http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/15/rescue-triangle/ <<exploring healthy therapy & counseling>> Tue, 02 Dec 2008 20:23:12 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/15/rescue-triangle/#comment-9687 carolyn Sun, 29 Jun 2008 01:12:09 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=491#comment-9687 Once you get so accustomed to those roles it is really hard to break free of them. I think it is great that you see this in yourself and it sounds like you are going to make a conscious effort to break out of this mold. Once you get so accustomed to those roles it is really hard to break free of them. I think it is great that you see this in yourself and it sounds like you are going to make a conscious effort to break out of this mold.

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/15/rescue-triangle/#comment-9251 Shannon Mon, 26 May 2008 16:46:30 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=491#comment-9251 Yeah unfortunately I tend to find myslef playing the victim role- I try to tell myslef that I will not do that anymore but I guess it is comfortable and one behavior just perpetuates another. I am trying really hard to break free of that though because I know this puts a strain on many of my relationships. People do not want to have to expect to be my rescuer all of the time and I am tired of needing to be rescued. Yeah unfortunately I tend to find myslef playing the victim role- I try to tell myslef that I will not do that anymore but I guess it is comfortable and one behavior just perpetuates another. I am trying really hard to break free of that though because I know this puts a strain on many of my relationships. People do not want to have to expect to be my rescuer all of the time and I am tired of needing to be rescued.

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/15/rescue-triangle/#comment-9219 Austin Sun, 25 May 2008 18:26:34 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=491#comment-9219 I think that is a very valid point that we all possess the three roles but I do think there is probably one dominant role that we would all tend to play depending on who we are. I think that is a very valid point that we all possess the three roles but I do think there is probably one dominant role that we would all tend to play depending on who we are.

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/15/rescue-triangle/#comment-9165 Delyse Thu, 22 May 2008 17:19:57 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=491#comment-9165 Even though people have a tendency to one position or the other, it is important to recognize that we all have aspects of all three positions within our psyche. The persecutor comes out of the victim but does not want to identify with helplessness (neither does the rescuer). People only change if they want to and it takes enormous courage - even in just identifying that you can see yourself here. Even though people have a tendency to one position or the other, it is important to recognize that we all have aspects of all three positions within our psyche. The persecutor comes out of the victim but does not want to identify with helplessness (neither does the rescuer). People only change if they want to and it takes enormous courage - even in just identifying that you can see yourself here.

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/15/rescue-triangle/#comment-9155 Sandy Wed, 21 May 2008 13:20:13 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=491#comment-9155 Probably not, no more than the victim in any situation can just automatically turn off that natural instinct to behave that way. There has to be that self awareness that what they are doing they are doing to themselves and that they are the only ones who can fix the situation. That will be their a-ha moment but no one can get them to that point but themselves. Probably not, no more than the victim in any situation can just automatically turn off that natural instinct to behave that way. There has to be that self awareness that what they are doing they are doing to themselves and that they are the only ones who can fix the situation. That will be their a-ha moment but no one can get them to that point but themselves.

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/15/rescue-triangle/#comment-9141 Margo Tue, 20 May 2008 19:19:07 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=491#comment-9141 What about the persecutors? Is there ever a way to get them to see how they are harming others with their selfish behaviour? Do they ever have the AHA moment that we want them to have? What about the persecutors? Is there ever a way to get them to see how they are harming others with their selfish behaviour? Do they ever have the AHA moment that we want them to have?

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/15/rescue-triangle/#comment-9117 Jeanette Mon, 19 May 2008 14:34:53 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=491#comment-9117 You have to develop a way to get out of this role. As the rescuer you are going to feel overwhelmed all of the time not only by your own problems but those that others are going to bring to you asking for help with. That can be a tough role to break out of because it not only requires work on your part but it also means changing the habits of others as well. You have to develop a way to get out of this role. As the rescuer you are going to feel overwhelmed all of the time not only by your own problems but those that others are going to bring to you asking for help with. That can be a tough role to break out of because it not only requires work on your part but it also means changing the habits of others as well.

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/15/rescue-triangle/#comment-9097 David Fri, 16 May 2008 19:41:49 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=491#comment-9097 Plain and simple I am the rescuer of the family. Any time there is trouble I am the one that others turn to. I used to be flattered by this but now I must admit that it tires me out. I have my own family and problems to deal with and I do not know how to escape the rescuer role that seems to have been assigned to me. Plain and simple I am the rescuer of the family. Any time there is trouble I am the one that others turn to. I used to be flattered by this but now I must admit that it tires me out. I have my own family and problems to deal with and I do not know how to escape the rescuer role that seems to have been assigned to me.

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