Comments on: Standing up for Yourself in Relationships http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/08/relationships-standing-up-for-yourself/ <<exploring healthy therapy & counseling>> Tue, 02 Dec 2008 22:09:30 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Barbi http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/08/relationships-standing-up-for-yourself/#comment-10007 Barbi Tue, 22 Jul 2008 23:19:16 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=485#comment-10007 Hi all, Thank you for taking the time to read my article and to publish such thoughtful responses. To Steve H, there are a few more articles at my website www.sdcouplestherapy.com that offer tips on how to confide what you are feeling as opposed to fighting or being critical. I also wrote another article at this site that might be helpful called "Taking Responsibility for Your Feelings" All the best, Barbi Pecenco,MA Hi all,

Thank you for taking the time to read my article and to publish such thoughtful responses. To Steve H, there are a few more articles at my website http://www.sdcouplestherapy.com that offer tips on how to confide what you are feeling as opposed to fighting or being critical. I also wrote another article at this site that might be helpful called “Taking Responsibility for Your Feelings”

All the best,
Barbi Pecenco,MA

]]> By: Sandy http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/08/relationships-standing-up-for-yourself/#comment-9465 Sandy Fri, 13 Jun 2008 01:06:15 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=485#comment-9465 But there are times when you just have to take up for yourslef in order to retain your sanity otherwise there will always be someone out there preying on your inabilities and who will walk all over you. But there are times when you just have to take up for yourslef in order to retain your sanity otherwise there will always be someone out there preying on your inabilities and who will walk all over you.

]]> By: Donna http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/08/relationships-standing-up-for-yourself/#comment-9303 Donna Wed, 28 May 2008 22:35:50 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=485#comment-9303 Some people are just hard wired to be win at all costs kind of people. These are the kind of folks that it can be really dangeraous to argue with because nothing good will come out of the situation. Some people are just hard wired to be win at all costs kind of people. These are the kind of folks that it can be really dangeraous to argue with because nothing good will come out of the situation.

]]> By: Margo http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/08/relationships-standing-up-for-yourself/#comment-9255 Margo Mon, 26 May 2008 16:51:01 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=485#comment-9255 It is often pointless to keep an argument going just for the sake of "winning" but that is what I do and I know there are others out there who do the same. When I am getting nowhere I need to learn to be a big anough person just to let it go and try again later and maybe by that time things will have cooled down a little and I will better be able to make my point. It is often pointless to keep an argument going just for the sake of “winning” but that is what I do and I know there are others out there who do the same. When I am getting nowhere I need to learn to be a big anough person just to let it go and try again later and maybe by that time things will have cooled down a little and I will better be able to make my point.

]]> By: gamecock96 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/08/relationships-standing-up-for-yourself/#comment-9159 gamecock96 Wed, 21 May 2008 13:28:40 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=485#comment-9159 I have to admit that I have a very hard time not being critical to others in some way either when I have to stand up for myslef or even when they have to stand up to me. I am working so hard to break this habit but I have been doing this my whole life and these habits are super hard to break! For me it has been the realization that I do behave in this way that makes me step back, take a deep breath and focus on other ways that a situation can be resolved. I have to admit that I have a very hard time not being critical to others in some way either when I have to stand up for myslef or even when they have to stand up to me. I am working so hard to break this habit but I have been doing this my whole life and these habits are super hard to break! For me it has been the realization that I do behave in this way that makes me step back, take a deep breath and focus on other ways that a situation can be resolved.

]]> By: stacy 1 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/08/relationships-standing-up-for-yourself/#comment-9145 stacy 1 Tue, 20 May 2008 19:23:54 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=485#comment-9145 Then I think that it is definitely time to let that person go. If you are with someone who does not support and love you enough to try these steps then they are truly not going to be good for you in your life. These are easy things you can do to stand up for yourself but there are some who are just not going to have any part in this. Take my advice and keep on going when you encounter this kind of person and leave them behind for good because they are not going to help you support a healthy relationship or lifestyle. Then I think that it is definitely time to let that person go. If you are with someone who does not support and love you enough to try these steps then they are truly not going to be good for you in your life. These are easy things you can do to stand up for yourself but there are some who are just not going to have any part in this. Take my advice and keep on going when you encounter this kind of person and leave them behind for good because they are not going to help you support a healthy relationship or lifestyle.

]]> By: Ashley http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/08/relationships-standing-up-for-yourself/#comment-9121 Ashley Mon, 19 May 2008 14:40:15 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=485#comment-9121 What happens of you have a partner who is just not willing to use any of the above seven steps? Is that when you know that this may not be the right person for you? What happens of you have a partner who is just not willing to use any of the above seven steps? Is that when you know that this may not be the right person for you?

]]> By: David http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/08/relationships-standing-up-for-yourself/#comment-9101 David Fri, 16 May 2008 19:45:20 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=485#comment-9101 But you have to take up for yourself! There are times and situations where I know this has to be hard for some people but we have just got to get over it! We have to keep our own sanity and that means taking as much time for oursleves as we spend giving to others. But you have to take up for yourself! There are times and situations where I know this has to be hard for some people but we have just got to get over it! We have to keep our own sanity and that means taking as much time for oursleves as we spend giving to others.

]]> By: Shannon http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/08/relationships-standing-up-for-yourself/#comment-9083 Shannon Thu, 15 May 2008 12:03:44 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=485#comment-9083 UGH! I hate confrontations and that is what standing up for myself often feels like. It makes me feel like the bad guy when I know that deep down inside what I am doing is right for me. UGH! I hate confrontations and that is what standing up for myself often feels like. It makes me feel like the bad guy when I know that deep down inside what I am doing is right for me.

]]> By: Steve H http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/08/relationships-standing-up-for-yourself/#comment-9067 Steve H Tue, 13 May 2008 11:44:28 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=485#comment-9067 I have such a hard time not becoming belligerent when I am standing up for myself. I just do not know how to do this in a manner which still helps me remain kind to my partner. There is just a part of me that just wants to take up for myself and I always go into the Fight way of thinking. What can I do to make this stop? I have such a hard time not becoming belligerent when I am standing up for myself. I just do not know how to do this in a manner which still helps me remain kind to my partner. There is just a part of me that just wants to take up for myself and I always go into the Fight way of thinking. What can I do to make this stop?

]]> By: sandra http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/08/relationships-standing-up-for-yourself/#comment-9057 sandra Mon, 12 May 2008 22:36:47 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=485#comment-9057 You are so right- my most recent relationship was like this. It just literally sucked the life out of me. I thought that my partner would admire me when I finally found the strength to stand up for myself but unfortunately he did not like this new side of me and left. At the time it felt like the most terrible thing in the world but now I realize that it was definitely for the better. You are so right- my most recent relationship was like this. It just literally sucked the life out of me. I thought that my partner would admire me when I finally found the strength to stand up for myself but unfortunately he did not like this new side of me and left. At the time it felt like the most terrible thing in the world but now I realize that it was definitely for the better.

]]> By: amyhop http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/08/relationships-standing-up-for-yourself/#comment-9055 amyhop Mon, 12 May 2008 22:35:08 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=485#comment-9055 We have all probably been in a relationship at some point in our lives which was unhealthy and for some reason made us meek rather than strong. There are some great points included in this article for how to be a stronger person within a loving and committed relationship and is definitely worth a look from anyone who finds themselves in a situation where their partner is taking advantage of them. We have all probably been in a relationship at some point in our lives which was unhealthy and for some reason made us meek rather than strong. There are some great points included in this article for how to be a stronger person within a loving and committed relationship and is definitely worth a look from anyone who finds themselves in a situation where their partner is taking advantage of them.

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