Comments on: The Blind Bind Of Male Depression http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/07/male-depression/ <<exploring healthy therapy & counseling>> Tue, 02 Dec 2008 19:56:05 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Garth Mintun http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/07/male-depression/#comment-10325 Garth Mintun Mon, 04 Aug 2008 02:59:18 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=483#comment-10325 Excellant discussion on depression and men. As a psychotherapist in Indianapolis Indiana, often therapy groups are useful to assist men with depression symptoms and to try different behaviors in order to make friends with other men. I find that men's therapy groups also can help educate men about socialization issues that get in the way of emotional intimancy with others and relationships. Often in groups men can practice what they learn in individual therapy. Good blog! Excellant discussion on depression and men. As a psychotherapist in Indianapolis Indiana, often therapy groups are useful to assist men with depression symptoms and to try different behaviors in order to make friends with other men. I find that men’s therapy groups also can help educate men about socialization issues that get in the way of emotional intimancy with others and relationships. Often in groups men can practice what they learn in individual therapy. Good blog!

]]> By: sachi http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/07/male-depression/#comment-9561 sachi Fri, 20 Jun 2008 07:06:20 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=483#comment-9561 I cant tell about male depression...While these days, blogging therapy help for depression. sachi I cant tell about male depression…While these days, blogging therapy help for depression.

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]]> By: Merri Ellen / Depression Writings http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/07/male-depression/#comment-9475 Merri Ellen / Depression Writings Sat, 14 Jun 2008 05:47:00 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=483#comment-9475 Way to go Cory! You will find so much joy and healing in writing about your story and helping other men. For the men I know who suffer, they are lacking in community. Guys when they get together often have to feel like they need to talk big and outdo each other. When do you talk about problems and struggles? There is a huge fear among men to be open and vulnerable with each other. These are the guys who don't want be 'feminine' b/c that's just what women do - not men. Perhaps the internet is a great place for guys to vulnerable while being anonymous. Still there is a lack of true community. So sad. As a woman, it was my girl friends who got me through the black tunnel. Social support is huge! For the married women: love and respect your man even when they screw up. You don't know how desperately your man wants you to admire them and see them as your hero. The social pressure he feels daily is huge. When he does things right, let him know. I've got in the habit of thanking him every time he cleans up the kitchen or whatever. Even though something is common sense or 'his job' to do, still thank him! Thank him for the littlest thing if lately he does very little. You'll soon find that it will grow! Way to go Cory! You will find so much joy and healing in writing about your story and helping other men.

For the men I know who suffer, they are lacking in community. Guys when they get together often have to feel like they need to talk big and outdo each other. When do you talk about problems and struggles? There is a huge fear among men to be open and vulnerable with each other. These are the guys who don’t want be ‘feminine’ b/c that’s just what women do - not men.

Perhaps the internet is a great place for guys to vulnerable while being anonymous. Still there is a lack of true community. So sad. As a woman, it was my girl friends who got me through the black tunnel. Social support is huge!

For the married women: love and respect your man even when they screw up. You don’t know how desperately your man wants you to admire them and see them as your hero. The social pressure he feels daily is huge. When he does things right, let him know. I’ve got in the habit of thanking him every time he cleans up the kitchen or whatever. Even though something is common sense or ‘his job’ to do, still thank him! Thank him for the littlest thing if lately he does very little. You’ll soon find that it will grow!

]]> By: shannon http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/07/male-depression/#comment-9463 shannon Fri, 13 Jun 2008 01:04:26 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=483#comment-9463 some people think depression it is something like a light switch that can be turned on and off. Having been through this myself I know that's not true! some people think depression it is something like a light switch that can be turned on and off. Having been through this myself I know that’s not true!

]]> By: Margo http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/07/male-depression/#comment-9331 Margo Thu, 29 May 2008 22:12:24 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=483#comment-9331 Cory I am so proud of you for taking charge of the situation and deciding to make a step forward again in your life. Your work and efforts are certainly to be commended. Cory I am so proud of you for taking charge of the situation and deciding to make a step forward again in your life. Your work and efforts are certainly to be commended.

]]> By: cory johnson http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/07/male-depression/#comment-9259 cory johnson Mon, 26 May 2008 17:11:22 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=483#comment-9259 I have suffered from PTSD and depression since I was a teenager. To say it has been a long and painful journey of awareness is an understatement. At 43 I have lost my family, business, health , home, money and anything else you might want to throw in. Its funny, its gotten so bad that I have actually decided to fight back. I have had enough of the crap this illness brings. At this halfway point in my life I have decided to dedicate myself to telling my story and making the second part of my life a positive one. I have started a website for men. It deals specifically with depression and the stigma associated with this stupid disease. I have suffered from PTSD and depression since I was a teenager. To say it has been a long and painful journey of awareness is an understatement. At 43 I have lost my family, business, health , home, money and anything else you might want to throw in. Its funny, its gotten so bad that I have actually decided to fight back. I have had enough of the crap this illness brings. At this halfway point in my life I have decided to dedicate myself to telling my story and making the second part of my life a positive one. I have started a website for men. It deals specifically with depression and the stigma associated with this stupid disease.

]]> By: John Olsen http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/07/male-depression/#comment-9257 John Olsen Mon, 26 May 2008 16:53:15 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=483#comment-9257 Why is this type of thing still taught today? I happen to be married to a man who can express his feelings and I think that we have a much stronger marriage than others that I know as a result of this. It allows both of us to better express our feelings and get everything out rather than keeping it bottled up on the inside. Why is this type of thing still taught today? I happen to be married to a man who can express his feelings and I think that we have a much stronger marriage than others that I know as a result of this. It allows both of us to better express our feelings and get everything out rather than keeping it bottled up on the inside.

]]> By: Amyhop http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/07/male-depression/#comment-9161 Amyhop Wed, 21 May 2008 13:31:46 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=483#comment-9161 Yes men are taught very early on to handle things without the help of others. It is such a prevalent notion in society that seeking help is a sign of weakness and this feeds into so many male stereotypes and is perpetuated in many different ways- men can't cry, seek help and advice, etc. It takes either a strong man or a strong family to help someone break out of this mold and get the guidance they need. Yes men are taught very early on to handle things without the help of others. It is such a prevalent notion in society that seeking help is a sign of weakness and this feeds into so many male stereotypes and is perpetuated in many different ways- men can’t cry, seek help and advice, etc. It takes either a strong man or a strong family to help someone break out of this mold and get the guidance they need.

]]> By: maddie http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/07/male-depression/#comment-9149 maddie Tue, 20 May 2008 19:29:35 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=483#comment-9149 Why is it that men often become so oppositional when it comes to receiving treatment for depression? Is it that they are taught from an early age to try to be in control of every situation so that they think they do not need help from others? Why is it that men often become so oppositional when it comes to receiving treatment for depression? Is it that they are taught from an early age to try to be in control of every situation so that they think they do not need help from others?

]]> By: Kyle http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/07/male-depression/#comment-9123 Kyle Mon, 19 May 2008 14:42:44 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=483#comment-9123 I think that you have to risk ending the relationship in order to save his life. If you do not at least try then chances are you are going to lose that person anyway. I think that you have to risk ending the relationship in order to save his life. If you do not at least try then chances are you are going to lose that person anyway.

]]> By: Stacy1 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/07/male-depression/#comment-9103 Stacy1 Fri, 16 May 2008 19:47:36 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=483#comment-9103 Ashley I am so sorry for your loss. It has obviously and for good reason caused you and your family much pain in the past. I feel like I know a male friend who is going through the same things but I just do not have the resources to get him to see that he needs help! How do you do that without destrying friendships or do you have to run that risk in order to save a life? Ashley I am so sorry for your loss. It has obviously and for good reason caused you and your family much pain in the past. I feel like I know a male friend who is going through the same things but I just do not have the resources to get him to see that he needs help! How do you do that without destrying friendships or do you have to run that risk in order to save a life?

]]> By: ashley http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/07/male-depression/#comment-9085 ashley Thu, 15 May 2008 12:07:12 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=483#comment-9085 We have all known someone in our lives who has suffered from prolonged bouts of depression and seen the myriad of ways that it has affected their lives and those of others around them. My brother was one such victim. He ended up taking his own life after struggling for years with this debilitating disease and then trying to mask this through drug and alcohol use. If you see this happening to a family member of yours the time to stop them is now! Help them find the help they need and deserve before your family experiences the pain of what we have had to go through. We have all known someone in our lives who has suffered from prolonged bouts of depression and seen the myriad of ways that it has affected their lives and those of others around them. My brother was one such victim. He ended up taking his own life after struggling for years with this debilitating disease and then trying to mask this through drug and alcohol use. If you see this happening to a family member of yours the time to stop them is now! Help them find the help they need and deserve before your family experiences the pain of what we have had to go through.

]]> By: Donna http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/07/male-depression/#comment-9071 Donna Tue, 13 May 2008 11:48:36 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=483#comment-9071 That is very brave of you. Depression can be such a debilitating thing, and for you to get past so many of the issues that are present in many males is admirable. Thanks for sharing that with us, and i am glad that it sounds like you are in a good place right now. That is very brave of you. Depression can be such a debilitating thing, and for you to get past so many of the issues that are present in many males is admirable. Thanks for sharing that with us, and i am glad that it sounds like you are in a good place right now.

]]> By: Steve H http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/07/male-depression/#comment-9069 Steve H Tue, 13 May 2008 11:47:19 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=483#comment-9069 I have suffered from a bout of depression a couple of times in my life and I would have perished I think without the help of a good psychiatrist. Now don't get me wrong- I did not exactly show up at his doorsteps with bells on because I was adamant that I could battle this thing by myself. But I have some really great friends who helped me see otherwise and helped me find the hekp I needed. There is a stigma to any mental illness still in this country so I always try to be open and honest with others about what I have experienced in the past in the hope that it may help someone in the future. I have suffered from a bout of depression a couple of times in my life and I would have perished I think without the help of a good psychiatrist. Now don’t get me wrong- I did not exactly show up at his doorsteps with bells on because I was adamant that I could battle this thing by myself. But I have some really great friends who helped me see otherwise and helped me find the hekp I needed. There is a stigma to any mental illness still in this country so I always try to be open and honest with others about what I have experienced in the past in the hope that it may help someone in the future.

]]> By: Austin http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/07/male-depression/#comment-9061 Austin Mon, 12 May 2008 22:41:14 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=483#comment-9061 It is hard for women to understand but men are just like that. We think we can solve our problems on our own without the help of others! I know that has to be frustrating to some of you but I know that even I am the same way and it drives my family (mostly women) crazy. It is hard for women to understand but men are just like that. We think we can solve our problems on our own without the help of others! I know that has to be frustrating to some of you but I know that even I am the same way and it drives my family (mostly women) crazy.

]]> By: Jeanette http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/05/07/male-depression/#comment-9059 Jeanette Mon, 12 May 2008 22:39:54 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=483#comment-9059 I myself have suffered from a bout of depression right after I first got married, and I know this made my husband just feel terrible. But he helped me thru that dark time, so when I saw him struggling with some of these same symptoms about two years ago I too tried to help him but he did not want to hear any of it. He thought this was somehow a sign of weakness. He finally has come out of it but i am convinced he could have had a lot easier time if he would not have been so antagonistic about treatment and allowed a trained therapist help him thru this troubling time. I myself have suffered from a bout of depression right after I first got married, and I know this made my husband just feel terrible. But he helped me thru that dark time, so when I saw him struggling with some of these same symptoms about two years ago I too tried to help him but he did not want to hear any of it. He thought this was somehow a sign of weakness. He finally has come out of it but i am convinced he could have had a lot easier time if he would not have been so antagonistic about treatment and allowed a trained therapist help him thru this troubling time.

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