http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/02/26/shame/ <<exploring healthy therapy & counseling>> Sun, 12 Oct 2008 18:21:50 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/02/26/shame/#comment-7123 Erica Fri, 29 Feb 2008 18:42:02 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/02/26/shame/#comment-7123 Basically, the 12 steps would look like any other 12 step program. If you are trying to overcome shame, you would just substitute "shame" for "alcoholism" or whatever ailment you are trying to overcome. Basically, the 12 steps would look like any other 12 step program. If you are trying to overcome shame, you would just substitute “shame” for “alcoholism” or whatever ailment you are trying to overcome.

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/02/26/shame/#comment-7121 SALLY Fri, 29 Feb 2008 18:41:04 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/02/26/shame/#comment-7121 I have never thought of using the 12 steps as a way of helping someone move past shame. What would this sort of technique look like? I have never thought of using the 12 steps as a way of helping someone move past shame. What would this sort of technique look like?

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/02/26/shame/#comment-7119 James Fri, 29 Feb 2008 18:40:06 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/02/26/shame/#comment-7119 I was particularly pleased to see the end of this blog. Not because I didn't enjoy the entry, but b/c I feel that the heart of getting past shame lies in "giving back." When a person filled with shame helps others, they inevitably begin to feel better about themselves. With increased self esteem comes decreased feelings of shame. I was particularly pleased to see the end of this blog. Not because I didn’t enjoy the entry, but b/c I feel that the heart of getting past shame lies in “giving back.” When a person filled with shame helps others, they inevitably begin to feel better about themselves. With increased self esteem comes decreased feelings of shame.

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/02/26/shame/#comment-7117 micah Fri, 29 Feb 2008 18:38:34 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/02/26/shame/#comment-7117 I appreciated the message of this blog entry as well as its style. Very nice writing! But, I digress! The issue of shame is one that I've found to be very vicious in nature. It seems that shame begets shame and that if the cycle isn't broken, a person can end up living a life of constant second guessing. Thinking gets twisted and the person with so much shame ends up being paralyzed and unable to make a decision as to whether a course of action is truly beneficial to him or her. In fact, just thinking about whether a decision is beneficial to the self is often very overwhelming to a person who acts from a place of shame. I am glad to know that there are professionals out there who truly understand the impact shame has as well as appropriate therapies that can help a client move past his or her shame. I appreciated the message of this blog entry as well as its style. Very nice writing! But, I digress! The issue of shame is one that I’ve found to be very vicious in nature. It seems that shame begets shame and that if the cycle isn’t broken, a person can end up living a life of constant second guessing. Thinking gets twisted and the person with so much shame ends up being paralyzed and unable to make a decision as to whether a course of action is truly beneficial to him or her. In fact, just thinking about whether a decision is beneficial to the self is often very overwhelming to a person who acts from a place of shame. I am glad to know that there are professionals out there who truly understand the impact shame has as well as appropriate therapies that can help a client move past his or her shame.

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