http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/02/10/5-ways-to-start-improving-your-romantic-relationships-today/ <<exploring healthy therapy & counseling>> Sun, 12 Oct 2008 18:35:02 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/02/10/5-ways-to-start-improving-your-romantic-relationships-today/#comment-8501 Maddie Wed, 30 Apr 2008 22:54:51 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/02/10/5-ways-to-start-improving-your-romantic-relationships-today/#comment-8501 What? My husband cannot read my mind? Just kidding. This is where I always get myself into trouble. I just expect him to know what is going on in my head and get mad because his powers of deductive reasoning are not what I wish for them to be. I have to learn how to be a better communicator with him, and then I can stop being so hurt and resentful. What? My husband cannot read my mind? Just kidding. This is where I always get myself into trouble. I just expect him to know what is going on in my head and get mad because his powers of deductive reasoning are not what I wish for them to be. I have to learn how to be a better communicator with him, and then I can stop being so hurt and resentful.

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/02/10/5-ways-to-start-improving-your-romantic-relationships-today/#comment-6965 Rob Thu, 14 Feb 2008 20:25:09 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/02/10/5-ways-to-start-improving-your-romantic-relationships-today/#comment-6965 For me, the most challenging on this list is true forgiveness. I can stop being mad at my partner on a surface level and we can get back to life as normal. But, I can tell that I haven't really forgiven in my heart of hearts. I know that I harbor resentment that will end up giving me more grief in the end. So, I try to work on forgiveness through reading about the subject as meditating on it. For me, the most challenging on this list is true forgiveness. I can stop being mad at my partner on a surface level and we can get back to life as normal. But, I can tell that I haven’t really forgiven in my heart of hearts. I know that I harbor resentment that will end up giving me more grief in the end. So, I try to work on forgiveness through reading about the subject as meditating on it.

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/02/10/5-ways-to-start-improving-your-romantic-relationships-today/#comment-6963 Meg Thu, 14 Feb 2008 20:23:14 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/02/10/5-ways-to-start-improving-your-romantic-relationships-today/#comment-6963 I agree with Sally. The only thing I would say is that you never know what is going to happen tomorrow. If your spouse or partner suffers a sudden death, what will you do? If you don't have any interest apart from your partner, how will you go on and function? It may be worthwhile to explore at least one hobby or interest on your own, maybe even something your wife is totally not interested in. Even if you just start to read about it and don't necessarily act on it now, it may be a good start. I agree with Sally. The only thing I would say is that you never know what is going to happen tomorrow. If your spouse or partner suffers a sudden death, what will you do? If you don’t have any interest apart from your partner, how will you go on and function? It may be worthwhile to explore at least one hobby or interest on your own, maybe even something your wife is totally not interested in. Even if you just start to read about it and don’t necessarily act on it now, it may be a good start.

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/02/10/5-ways-to-start-improving-your-romantic-relationships-today/#comment-6961 SALLY Thu, 14 Feb 2008 20:21:33 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/02/10/5-ways-to-start-improving-your-romantic-relationships-today/#comment-6961 Sam, If it ain't broke, don't fix it! Sam,
If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it!

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/02/10/5-ways-to-start-improving-your-romantic-relationships-today/#comment-6959 sam Thu, 14 Feb 2008 20:21:10 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/02/10/5-ways-to-start-improving-your-romantic-relationships-today/#comment-6959 Under the title of Create Space, I balked. I admit it-I would much rather be with my wife than away from her. Necessity creates being away from her, mainly b/c I have to support my family financially. But, at all other times, we're together. We've been this way for almost 18 years now and it really works for us. When we're not together, all we ever do is think about how much the other would appreciate what we are appreciating. I wonder if this is a problem in our relationship or if our relationship is just the exception to this rule? Any thoughts? Under the title of Create Space, I balked. I admit it-I would much rather be with my wife than away from her. Necessity creates being away from her, mainly b/c I have to support my family financially. But, at all other times, we’re together. We’ve been this way for almost 18 years now and it really works for us. When we’re not together, all we ever do is think about how much the other would appreciate what we are appreciating. I wonder if this is a problem in our relationship or if our relationship is just the exception to this rule? Any thoughts?

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/02/10/5-ways-to-start-improving-your-romantic-relationships-today/#comment-6957 Augusta Thu, 14 Feb 2008 20:18:52 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2008/02/10/5-ways-to-start-improving-your-romantic-relationships-today/#comment-6957 I was struck by the mention of realizing that if you need to express your feeling b/c your partner doesn't instinctively know them, you are ready to trust your partner with your true feelings. This is a very interesting view that I appreciate and will use often with my clients. I was struck by the mention of realizing that if you need to express your feeling b/c your partner doesn’t instinctively know them, you are ready to trust your partner with your true feelings. This is a very interesting view that I appreciate and will use often with my clients.

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