Comments on: Negative Beliefs: Our Adventures in Wonderland

By: Claudia

Claudia — Thu, 21 Feb 2008 16:43:09 +0000

I love this. For me it’s about resistance. Do I listen to what I really want? Or what’s least painful? My conscious mind says HEALING!!! AT ALL COSTS!!! Because I am tired of being abandoned, tired of thinking I’m the bad guy, tired of living life the way I’ve been living it. Something deeper says PSSSSST! You’re fine the way you are. This is a lot of bullshit. Funny thing? I ask the something deeper to validate the conscious desire to heal. ANd I don’t get it.
Claudia

By: Sarah Jenkins

Sarah Jenkins — Fri, 08 Feb 2008 14:48:55 +0000

I’m glad that the blog struck a chord with some of you. Your comments reminded me that so often, learning about the unconscious mind can help us stop judging ourselves so harshly. That, in and of itself, means that we can be kinder to ourselves. Thanks for being so open to looking at this topic!

By: Avery

Avery — Thu, 07 Feb 2008 15:16:28 +0000

Doing something that isn’t good for you is so counter intuitive. It seems that we would all strive to do what is in our best interest and, hopefully, the best interest of those around us. So, it is nice to have some light shed on why this doesn’t always happen.

By: Christie

Christie — Thu, 07 Feb 2008 15:15:24 +0000

I, too, appreciate this blog entry. What struck me was the reason why change is often so hard to make. The second you decide to make the change, your unconscious mind is right there, ready to keep you where you are. And, since we as humans have such a hard time determining what is going on in our unconscious minds, it is hard to make change w/out a therapist. However, once you know this theory, you can start to try to examine some of these things on your own. Certainly food for thought!

By: Heidi

Heidi — Thu, 07 Feb 2008 15:13:15 +0000

I really appreciated the explanation of why children turn abuse into something that is their fault. I had never considered the theory that children always strive to see their parents as good. That is a very interesting thought and one that I will hold with me for a long time. I think that it will have a huge impact on my own parenting. Thank you!!