http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2007/12/04/would-you-marry-yourself%e2%80%94-or-someone-like-you/ <<exploring healthy therapy & counseling>> Tue, 07 Oct 2008 13:47:27 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2007/12/04/would-you-marry-yourself%e2%80%94-or-someone-like-you/#comment-5433 Therapist Glendale Wed, 12 Dec 2007 17:03:50 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2007/12/04/would-you-marry-yourself%e2%80%94-or-someone-like-you/#comment-5433 I think this blog has some very convincing arguments about searching and healing yourself before entering a relationship. This blog goes to further my position that people who are young adults really have no business getting married. If you haven't had the chance to do this sort of introspection, a successful marriage is certainly against the odds I think this blog has some very convincing arguments about searching and healing yourself before entering a relationship. This blog goes to further my position that people who are young adults really have no business getting married. If you haven’t had the chance to do this sort of introspection, a successful marriage is certainly against the odds

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2007/12/04/would-you-marry-yourself%e2%80%94-or-someone-like-you/#comment-5409 Therapist Frome Tue, 11 Dec 2007 21:33:16 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2007/12/04/would-you-marry-yourself%e2%80%94-or-someone-like-you/#comment-5409 I think the author intends the paragraph on observing other people's behavior to be the answer to this question. One further question about observing behavior in others that bothers us: if we work on those parts of ourselves that we find troublesome in others and “fix” those parts, will those parts of other people not bother us anymore? Once we find this inner peace, does that mean we are attracted to or suitable to anyone? If others' flaws no longer bother us, why can't we just be with anyone? I think the author intends the paragraph on observing other people’s behavior to be the answer to this question. One further question about observing behavior in others that bothers us: if we work on those parts of ourselves that we find troublesome in others and “fix” those parts, will those parts of other people not bother us anymore? Once we find this inner peace, does that mean we are attracted to or suitable to anyone? If others’ flaws no longer bother us, why can’t we just be with anyone?

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2007/12/04/would-you-marry-yourself%e2%80%94-or-someone-like-you/#comment-5389 Therapist Franklin Mon, 10 Dec 2007 21:48:22 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2007/12/04/would-you-marry-yourself%e2%80%94-or-someone-like-you/#comment-5389 Well, if you look towards external sources, those sources will be tainted as well due to their own short comings. So, when you mix their view of you with the realization that their view is tainted, you don't get a pure answer to what your shortcomings are anyway. Does that make sense? Well, if you look towards external sources, those sources will be tainted as well due to their own short comings. So, when you mix their view of you with the realization that their view is tainted, you don’t get a pure answer to what your shortcomings are anyway. Does that make sense?

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2007/12/04/would-you-marry-yourself%e2%80%94-or-someone-like-you/#comment-5347 Therapist Falmouth Thu, 06 Dec 2007 23:56:39 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2007/12/04/would-you-marry-yourself%e2%80%94-or-someone-like-you/#comment-5347 How do we really find out what our faults are? I find it hard to do a true self-examination on this. I obviously offer a biased view of myself. Is the only way to do this by looking towards external sources? Or, are there concrete steps we can take to find out what our flaws are without seeking external validation of them? How do we really find out what our faults are? I find it hard to do a true self-examination on this. I obviously offer a biased view of myself. Is the only way to do this by looking towards external sources? Or, are there concrete steps we can take to find out what our flaws are without seeking external validation of them?

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