http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2007/10/09/ambivalence-in-relationships/ <<exploring healthy therapy & counseling>> Tue, 02 Dec 2008 15:56:19 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2007/10/09/ambivalence-in-relationships/#comment-5469 Therapist Hewitt Thu, 13 Dec 2007 15:26:33 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2007/10/09/ambivalence-in-relationships/#comment-5469 Maybe the author is referring to ambivalence between two people rather than within one part of the relationship. One part of the couple wants to continue the relationship while the other is considering terminating it. I like how the author draws the conclusion that being ambivalent in a relationship does not allow someone to feel “mastery over their world.” I think that it is important to recognize that sometimes it is a state of being such as ambivalence rather than the other person in the relationship that creates that feeling of lack of power. Of course, sometimes it is the other person. But, it's good to look at this side as well. Maybe the author is referring to ambivalence between two people rather than within one part of the relationship. One part of the couple wants to continue the relationship while the other is considering terminating it. I like how the author draws the conclusion that being ambivalent in a relationship does not allow someone to feel “mastery over their world.” I think that it is important to recognize that sometimes it is a state of being such as ambivalence rather than the other person in the relationship that creates that feeling of lack of power. Of course, sometimes it is the other person. But, it’s good to look at this side as well.

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2007/10/09/ambivalence-in-relationships/#comment-5443 Therapist Great Neck Wed, 12 Dec 2007 17:10:50 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2007/10/09/ambivalence-in-relationships/#comment-5443 Maybe you are confusing ambivalence for disinterest. I think in this case ambivalence is more of an inability to commit to going in one particular direction with a relationship. It may be that ambivalence is referring to not being able to decide if you want to stay in the relationship or not. The author certainly illustrates how easy it is for a relationship to be soured and, really, ruined by ambivalence. Maybe you are confusing ambivalence for disinterest. I think in this case ambivalence is more of an inability to commit to going in one particular direction with a relationship. It may be that ambivalence is referring to not being able to decide if you want to stay in the relationship or not. The author certainly illustrates how easy it is for a relationship to be soured and, really, ruined by ambivalence.

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2007/10/09/ambivalence-in-relationships/#comment-5405 Therapist Fresno Tue, 11 Dec 2007 21:25:11 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2007/10/09/ambivalence-in-relationships/#comment-5405 Is it possible that ambivalence develops in a simpler way? Maybe ambivalence develops when people don't communicate and continually go in different directions for a variety of reasons including career and raising children. I like how the author develops the connection between ambivalence and how it can cause panic in a relationship. Feeling one partner pull away can certainly cause feelings of uneasiness and immediacy in the other partner. Is it possible that ambivalence develops in a simpler way? Maybe ambivalence develops when people don’t communicate and continually go in different directions for a variety of reasons including career and raising children. I like how the author develops the connection between ambivalence and how it can cause panic in a relationship. Feeling one partner pull away can certainly cause feelings of uneasiness and immediacy in the other partner.

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