http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2007/10/02/what-to-do-if-your-spouse-won%e2%80%99t-go-to-counseling/ <<exploring healthy therapy & counseling>> Tue, 02 Dec 2008 14:01:11 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2007/10/02/what-to-do-if-your-spouse-won%e2%80%99t-go-to-counseling/#comment-5499 Therapist Indianapolis Thu, 13 Dec 2007 15:39:01 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2007/10/02/what-to-do-if-your-spouse-won%e2%80%99t-go-to-counseling/#comment-5499 I've often seen therapists talking “at the water cooler” who are indignant that someone wouldn't want to come into their office to bare their souls. So, I think that another lesson to be learned is to not take reluctance personally. If someone doesn't know you, how can you blame them for being reluctant to see you? It doesn't make sense, but I've seen it time and again! I’ve often seen therapists talking “at the water cooler” who are indignant that someone wouldn’t want to come into their office to bare their souls. So, I think that another lesson to be learned is to not take reluctance personally. If someone doesn’t know you, how can you blame them for being reluctant to see you? It doesn’t make sense, but I’ve seen it time and again!

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2007/10/02/what-to-do-if-your-spouse-won%e2%80%99t-go-to-counseling/#comment-5497 Therapist Huntington Beach Thu, 13 Dec 2007 15:37:42 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2007/10/02/what-to-do-if-your-spouse-won%e2%80%99t-go-to-counseling/#comment-5497 I like that the author gave some concrete suggestions for encouraging a partner to go to therapy. I have found that the reluctant partner, once in the door, is often the one who does the most work and sees positive changes in his or her own behavior. The challenge, of course, as this article states, is getting them in the door for that initial session. But,as the author notes, it is very important for at least the willing partner to come in and talk things over. That way, at least one person is committed to improving the relationship. Once the reluctant partner sees positive change, he or she may be more willing to go to therapy. I like that the author gave some concrete suggestions for encouraging a partner to go to therapy. I have found that the reluctant partner, once in the door, is often the one who does the most work and sees positive changes in his or her own behavior. The challenge, of course, as this article states, is getting them in the door for that initial session. But,as the author notes, it is very important for at least the willing partner to come in and talk things over. That way, at least one person is committed to improving the relationship. Once the reluctant partner sees positive change, he or she may be more willing to go to therapy.

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2007/10/02/what-to-do-if-your-spouse-won%e2%80%99t-go-to-counseling/#comment-5455 Therapist Hebden Bridge Wed, 12 Dec 2007 17:16:59 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/2007/10/02/what-to-do-if-your-spouse-won%e2%80%99t-go-to-counseling/#comment-5455 To add another reason someone may not want to go to counseling: he or she may be afraid that the therapist will coerce him or her into talking about past painful situations. Or, the partner may be afraid that some secret such as an affair will come out in the open. If any of these fears do arise, it can be very difficult to break through them. To add another reason someone may not want to go to counseling: he or she may be afraid that the therapist will coerce him or her into talking about past painful situations. Or, the partner may be afraid that some secret such as an affair will come out in the open. If any of these fears do arise, it can be very difficult to break through them.

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