Psychotherapy, Psychology, Mental Health Counseling
I'm a licensed professional.
Clinical Social Worker - C003789
The purpose of psychotherapy is to talk about your inner world where you can learn about your beliefs and how those beliefs drive your life.
The most important factor is rapport. If you feel you can't open up and talk about some of the things that are bothering you then you need to find another therapist. Also, the surrounding is important. Do you feel safe in their office? Does the space reflect peace? I think the environmental factors can enhance or denigrate the process.
It is extremely important to be present with the client without judgement. Demonstrating that their story is important to be heard by being attentive. The client resolves the painful feelings by allowing themselves to admit they are in pain and that I am there to support, validate or acknowledge along with them their experiences. I have found that being patient and having no agenda has to how the client needs to resolve their painful feelings will assist them in doing their work. I have found encouraging them to trust their own process is an effective way to work with clients who are experiencing painful feelings.
This point of view of being "weak or flawed" because they have contacted a therapist is quite common. I tell my clients that it's really the opposite of being weak, that they are someone who has a lot of courage to take their time and money to come into therapy and explore their thoughts and feelings about a variety of things. I explain that it's easy to blame others and that it's really hard work to take responsibility for your own thoughts, feelings and actions.