http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/therapy-new-year-resolution-lose-weight/ Exploring Healthy Psychotherapy Fri, 10 Feb 2012 01:06:51 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/therapy-new-year-resolution-lose-weight/#comment-27042 Deborah Klinger, M.A., LMFT, CEDS Wed, 27 Jan 2010 03:06:45 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/?p=6055#comment-27042 Michele, you are already a success! I'm glad you're finding so much support here. We're not designed to operate alone; we need connection to and assistance from others, and you're tending to yourself by reaching out and connecting and getting that assistance. Michele, you are already a success! I’m glad you’re finding so much support here. We’re not designed to operate alone; we need connection to and assistance from others, and you’re tending to yourself by reaching out and connecting and getting that assistance.

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/therapy-new-year-resolution-lose-weight/#comment-27012 Michelle Tue, 26 Jan 2010 12:47:56 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/?p=6055#comment-27012 Thanks to everyone who has posted simce my previous comment. This has always been a struggle for me and letting go of those preconceived notions of what you think you should look like are difficult to say the least. But I am working on it and I know that with support like you can get here I can be a success, maybe not a size 6 but a success anyway! :-) Thanks to everyone who has posted simce my previous comment. This has always been a struggle for me and letting go of those preconceived notions of what you think you should look like are difficult to say the least. But I am working on it and I know that with support like you can get here I can be a success, maybe not a size 6 but a success anyway! :-)

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/therapy-new-year-resolution-lose-weight/#comment-27001 Deborah Klinger, M.A., LMFT, CEDS Tue, 26 Jan 2010 01:47:32 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/?p=6055#comment-27001 Eileen, our bodies want to be healthy and this includes being the optimal size and shape and ratio of lean body mass to fat stores for each of us. If we give our bodies the kinds and amounts of food and exercise they need, they will maintain or arrive at those optimal levels. No focus on scales is necessary. It's about living in harmony-- mind, body emotions, spirit-with ourselves. Eileen, our bodies want to be healthy and this includes being the optimal size and shape and ratio of lean body mass to fat stores for each of us. If we give our bodies the kinds and amounts of food and exercise they need, they will maintain or arrive at those optimal levels. No focus on scales is necessary. It’s about living in harmony– mind, body emotions, spirit-with ourselves.

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/therapy-new-year-resolution-lose-weight/#comment-27000 Deborah Klinger, M.A., LMFT, CEDS Tue, 26 Jan 2010 01:38:47 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/?p=6055#comment-27000 Amen! Although for some of us, this is easier said than done. Support from others, personal and professional, is essential in order to heal from disordered eating. Amen! Although for some of us, this is easier said than done. Support from others, personal and professional, is essential in order to heal from disordered eating.

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/therapy-new-year-resolution-lose-weight/#comment-26993 A.George Mon, 25 Jan 2010 20:34:07 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/?p=6055#comment-26993 People should stop stressing themselves about these things and just see to it that their life is full of joy and they are happy with people around them and that they are being a good human being in their life! People should stop stressing themselves about these things and just see to it that their life is full of joy and they are happy with people around them and that they are being a good human being in their life!

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/therapy-new-year-resolution-lose-weight/#comment-26985 Eileen Mon, 25 Jan 2010 17:15:01 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/?p=6055#comment-26985 I do agree that your weight is not who you are, as some of us have been led to believe. But I do think that it is important to continue to stress the importance of a healthy lifestyle. After all we all know that carrying too much weight around is not good for most of us, and that a significant way to improve our overall health is to drop a few pounds when necessary. So while it is not good to always focus on the scale and certainly not ideal for you to base your self worth an what that scales says that you weigh, it is a good idea to be in tune with your body and to strive for healthier living practices. I do agree that your weight is not who you are, as some of us have been led to believe. But I do think that it is important to continue to stress the importance of a healthy lifestyle. After all we all know that carrying too much weight around is not good for most of us, and that a significant way to improve our overall health is to drop a few pounds when necessary. So while it is not good to always focus on the scale and certainly not ideal for you to base your self worth an what that scales says that you weigh, it is a good idea to be in tune with your body and to strive for healthier living practices.

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/therapy-new-year-resolution-lose-weight/#comment-26972 Deborah Klinger, M.A., LMFT, CEDS Mon, 25 Jan 2010 03:53:58 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/?p=6055#comment-26972 I agree, Emrett! I'll add that I believe looks aren't something to be made up for by behavior; rather, they are just different aspects of who we are. I agree, Emrett! I’ll add that I believe looks aren’t something to be made up for by behavior; rather, they are just different aspects of who we are.

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/therapy-new-year-resolution-lose-weight/#comment-26968 Emrett Sun, 24 Jan 2010 22:20:26 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/?p=6055#comment-26968 It is more important to be a good person, a good individual than be aesthetically appealing. Okay, if you look good,then that's great but if you are not too fortunate, make up for that with your behavior and everybody will love you! It is more important to be a good person, a good individual than be aesthetically appealing. Okay, if you look good,then that’s great but if you are not too fortunate, make up for that with your behavior and everybody will love you!

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/therapy-new-year-resolution-lose-weight/#comment-26953 Deborah Klinger, M.A., LMFT, CEDS Sun, 24 Jan 2010 00:18:04 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/?p=6055#comment-26953 You're welcome, Michelle. It is hard to let go of a lifetime's worth of thinking a certain way. I encourage you to focus on listening to and nourishing your body because you value it (and yourself), without investment in any result in terms of shape and size, and trusting that as you do, it will shift to whatever its natural shape and size is. You’re welcome, Michelle. It is hard to let go of a lifetime’s worth of thinking a certain way. I encourage you to focus on listening to and nourishing your body because you value it (and yourself), without investment in any result in terms of shape and size, and trusting that as you do, it will shift to whatever its natural shape and size is.

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/therapy-new-year-resolution-lose-weight/#comment-26946 Michelle Sat, 23 Jan 2010 17:26:33 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/?p=6055#comment-26946 Thanks so much for this insight. I have struggled for years with my weight, always resolving that this was going to be the year to make changes for the better and that never really worked out too well for me. I have decided to let it go but it is so hard! I look at myself in the mirror and do not like the image that I see and always have this feeling that if I could just lose those 20 pounds then all of that would be different but you just never know. So this year I am trying to come to terms with being happy with who I am and where I am right now and hopefully when I get to that point then I can make the choice to lose the weight and to become a healthier person overall. I know it is about so much mre than a number on the scale or the size of my jeans but quite honestly it is just not that easy to let those kinds of things go when those are the numbers thta you have allowed to rule your life for so many years now. Thanks so much for this insight. I have struggled for years with my weight, always resolving that this was going to be the year to make changes for the better and that never really worked out too well for me. I have decided to let it go but it is so hard! I look at myself in the mirror and do not like the image that I see and always have this feeling that if I could just lose those 20 pounds then all of that would be different but you just never know. So this year I am trying to come to terms with being happy with who I am and where I am right now and hopefully when I get to that point then I can make the choice to lose the weight and to become a healthier person overall. I know it is about so much mre than a number on the scale or the size of my jeans but quite honestly it is just not that easy to let those kinds of things go when those are the numbers thta you have allowed to rule your life for so many years now.

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