Comments on: Back To The Future…Not! – Two Essential Self-Calming Skills http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/self-calming-skills/ Exploring Healthy Psychotherapy Fri, 10 Feb 2012 01:06:51 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Becki Hein http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/self-calming-skills/#comment-24907 Becki Hein Tue, 10 Nov 2009 22:21:53 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/?p=5665#comment-24907 Peter, Wendy & Shawn, - I agree with you all! Planning is important. And there is a big difference between planning and worrying. Planning, for a finite period of time, is energy well spent. One doesn't generally get spun into a distressing emotional state during planning. Worrying, however, is a waste of energy. One is expending massive amounts of (negative) energy on an imaginary event. In fact, spending that much energy on thoughts of the future can even cause them to have a higher probability of actually happening. You're better off planning and then letting it be what it is. Thanks so much for your comments! Peter, Wendy & Shawn, – I agree with you all! Planning is important. And there is a big difference between planning and worrying. Planning, for a finite period of time, is energy well spent. One doesn’t generally get spun into a distressing emotional state during planning. Worrying, however, is a waste of energy. One is expending massive amounts of (negative) energy on an imaginary event. In fact, spending that much energy on thoughts of the future can even cause them to have a higher probability of actually happening. You’re better off planning and then letting it be what it is. Thanks so much for your comments!

]]> By: Becki Hein http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/self-calming-skills/#comment-24906 Becki Hein Tue, 10 Nov 2009 22:17:45 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/?p=5665#comment-24906 Barney - It is amazing, isn't it?! In fact, I use that example when I teach people about grounding their energy. It's like when you look at electrical lines, and every so often there is a line leading down into the ground, so that if there is an extra strong burst of charge, it goes safely into the ground. Barney – It is amazing, isn’t it?! In fact, I use that example when I teach people about grounding their energy. It’s like when you look at electrical lines, and every so often there is a line leading down into the ground, so that if there is an extra strong burst of charge, it goes safely into the ground.

]]> By: SHAWN ARMSTRONG http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/self-calming-skills/#comment-24899 SHAWN ARMSTRONG Tue, 10 Nov 2009 17:27:50 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/?p=5665#comment-24899 Although fretting is not too required, thinking bout it in moderation is a good thing... because just like you cannot just close your eyes and drive into a street, you cannot take everyday and longer future as it comes... you will have to plan and think and look ahead to the future. Although fretting is not too required, thinking bout it in moderation is a good thing… because just like you cannot just close your eyes and drive into a street, you cannot take everyday and longer future as it comes… you will have to plan and think and look ahead to the future.

]]> By: wendy thomas http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/self-calming-skills/#comment-24866 wendy thomas Mon, 09 Nov 2009 23:41:52 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/?p=5665#comment-24866 Yesterday was history, tomorrow is a mistery and today is a gift, and that is why it is called the present. One cannot stress enough about how true this statement is... we have little or no control over what is going to hapen in the future and worrying about it is just waste of time... Planning is good...planning is arranging something that is to be done when the future becomes the present, but worrying about it is worthless... Yesterday was history, tomorrow is a mistery and today is a gift, and that is why it is called the present.

One cannot stress enough about how true this statement is… we have little or no control over what is going to hapen in the future and worrying about it is just waste of time…

Planning is good…planning is arranging something that is to be done when the future becomes the present, but worrying about it is worthless…

]]> By: Peter Siddle http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/self-calming-skills/#comment-24857 Peter Siddle Mon, 09 Nov 2009 18:10:28 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/?p=5665#comment-24857 You are so right! While i was reading the article,i was just reflecting back to the times and things i keep worrying about and just realized that most of it is centered around the future and some events that i don't even have control on!Now what is the use of fretting and worrying for such things...? As if my worrying is going to solve the problems or is going to make sure I dont catch the flu;) It is infact more wise and practical to focus our energies on the present and accomplish goals and targets rather than wasting time over things that we have no control on, just as you have mentioned here. You are so right!

While i was reading the article,i was just reflecting back to the times and things i keep worrying about and just realized that most of it is centered around the future and some events that i don’t even have control on!Now what is the use of fretting and worrying for such things…? As if my worrying is going to solve the problems or is going to make sure I dont catch the flu;)

It is infact more wise and practical to focus our energies on the present and accomplish goals and targets rather than wasting time over things that we have no control on, just as you have mentioned here.

]]> By: BARNEY http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/self-calming-skills/#comment-24855 BARNEY Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:57:43 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/?p=5665#comment-24855 Wow...never thought there could be something like a 'earthing' to get rid of negative energy...its just like passing on the extra current to the ground to escape an electric shock! Great technique explained in the article, thanks a lot... and yeah, you can be sure I'm gonna try this the next time I have any 'future distress' :) Wow…never thought there could be something like a ‘earthing’ to get rid of negative energy…its just like passing on the extra current to the ground to escape an electric shock! Great technique explained in the article, thanks a lot… and yeah, you can be sure I’m gonna try this the next time I have any ‘future distress’ :)

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