Comments on: Learn to Sit with Discomfort in Your Life

By: Nicole

Nicole — Fri, 23 Nov 2012 16:20:10 +0000

Thank you Jaden, Nancy, Mona, and Erin for taking the time to comment and share your experiences.

Wishing you peace.

By: Erin

Erin — Fri, 23 Nov 2012 12:53:31 +0000

This is a great article, because so often people think that once they begin working on themselves they will feel better instantly, and for 24/7.

It is important to know that we have to feel both the good and bad feelings in order to fully feel, and be in the moment. And feeling all emotions can help people achieve the goals they are working towards.

By: Mona

Mona — Fri, 27 Jul 2012 04:06:49 +0000

Hi Nicole, I feel peace knowing that accepting and allowing life to unfold naturally will give me space to move through the pain and not suffer in resistance. Suffering is optional! Thank you,

By: Nancy A

Nancy A — Mon, 12 Sep 2011 22:15:30 +0000

Accepting where you are is the best way to figure out where you want to be. By avoiding all of your cleverly designed, captivating distractions and letting your real emotions sink in I was able to realize that I’m not happy with where I currently am.

I did the exercise here and I felt panicked as if I was missing a deadline. At first I wondered a simple question, “Why? But soon enough I realized found the answer, it was because I had so many goals set for my self to finish in the next five years and as of right now I haven’t done a think to complete them.

This exercise has helped me realized that is time to start implementing my goals, so they can become I reality.

By: Jaden

Jaden — Sat, 03 Sep 2011 00:27:35 +0000

When you confront the pain and force yourself to deal with it, don’t you think that this is a good thing? The other alternative is to let it fester inside of you and we all have had that experience. Eventually you are going to have to deal with it, so why not do it on your own terms and in your own time? And another thought that I had about this is that we are all such an instant gratification kind of society that we want everything cleaned up just like that. But life is not like that and we all know it. I think that is why so many people have issues with dealing with things head on.

By: Nicole

Nicole — Fri, 02 Sep 2011 19:09:58 +0000

Dear Anna, Russell, MV and Clara,

Thank you for your thoughtful comments.

I chose to write on this topic for the very reason you all responded to: it’s not an easy gig, but you will reap rewards. At the very least, practicing being with discomfort builds emotional muscle and resilience.

At the end of the day, the dark thought or feeling might still be there, but your relationship to it (and to yourself) might have shifted.

Peace.

By: clara p

clara p — Fri, 02 Sep 2011 15:21:17 +0000

the main reason why most of us are not able to do this-sitting with discomfort-is because we have never really spent any time with bad feelings,we’re scared of them and want to avoid them at all costs.so whenever we do encounter them, instead of facing them and growing in strength we run away like cowards. this is what is needed as the first step to be able to sit with discomfort.

By: M.V

M.V — Fri, 02 Sep 2011 03:42:47 +0000

I just think pain,suffering and discomfort actually make us strongerThey give us a challenge to stand up against and can be a good form of exercise to become strong from within.Not saying that it is a pleasurable route but works well nevertheless.

By: Russell T

Russell T — Thu, 01 Sep 2011 20:20:53 +0000

I have come to appreciate the quiet times in life, even when it is not about musing on the things that make me happy. The way I have come to see it is that the time that I have to reflect on the sorrows and the down times, the more given I am to appreciate the good things in my life. So no, that down time and period of reflection does not have to be seen as a bad thing at all. There is always something good to come out of it.

By: anna

anna — Thu, 01 Sep 2011 19:26:06 +0000

I dont think it is gonna be easy to hold on despite the pain or discomfort. but the reward for doing it is huge,I realize what is being said here. it is about gaining something within yourself dispute the discomfort and pain. teaching you to overcome your obstacles to achieve your target!

By: Nicole

Nicole — Thu, 01 Sep 2011 14:26:01 +0000

Thank you Lucy for taking the time to share your thoughts. Laura, I always find it helpful to stay with my breath when things feel overwhelming and remind myself that even if I don't like something I can stand it. Those podcasts really are centering and grounding. Speaking of grounding, you may like the grounding techniques section on my website: http://holisticdivorce.wordpress.com/category/grounding-techniques/ It's like anything else, the more you practice, the easier it gets. Good luck!

By: Laura

Laura — Thu, 01 Sep 2011 02:31:25 +0000

Hope I can accomplish some of this, need to badly!

By: Lucy

Lucy — Wed, 31 Aug 2011 21:49:36 +0000

Let me be honest with you-When I read the title I was like “what?!” but after having read the entire article,I must say thank you because what you have discussed here is just wonderful and is something that can be a fix to a lot of common problems today.