Comments on: Understanding Our Need for Love

By: Danie

Danie — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 12:15:48 +0000

I truly found this article very interesting as well as the various attachements. I do wonder if maybe one person can be a combination of two if not more of these attachments?

By: annabelle

annabelle — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 16:06:39 +0000

Charles, I think that would be great to some extent, but we would never grow stronger and learn if we didn’t have those heartaches… It sure would seem a lot simpler

By: maggie

maggie — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 11:52:04 +0000

John, I am a woman, and yes we can be very difficult and hard to read at times, BUT.. sometimes women need to feel that they are loved, even tho, they know deep down inside that our partners love us, we still need to hear it and get those hugs and cuddling that some of us need.

By: Charles

Charles — Sat, 31 Jan 2009 18:02:13 +0000

I don’t know. . . sometimes it seems as if everything would be better without the heartache of loving and losing. Anyone else feel the same?

By: Lara

Lara — Sat, 31 Jan 2009 08:18:06 +0000

great read and v interesting comments!!

By: John

John — Sat, 31 Jan 2009 08:13:38 +0000

Women are a complicated lot as most complex relationships stem from this. I am not prejudiced but I do think they find it more difficult to stay happy and content in a relationship than a man.

By: Kimberley

Kimberley — Sat, 31 Jan 2009 08:10:38 +0000

I dont think they would be sadder than loved truly and lost. I am in a relationship today but I still love a guy who walked out on me years ago. I dont voice this to my partner but there are nights when I lie shedding a tear in silence. I cannot get over the memories and I think I probably never will.

By: Shannon

Shannon — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 14:19:00 +0000

Has there ever been any research done on a population that claims to have no love in their lives and how this affects them both physically as well as mentally and emotionally? I would imagine these would be some pretty sad human beings.

By: Pauline

Pauline — Wed, 28 Jan 2009 14:26:27 +0000

I have been involved in a pursue /withdraw relationship before but it was the other way around. I was the avoider while my boyfriend was the pursuer. Needless to say this cycle did ultimately drive us apart because I felt that he always needed so much more than I could give and honestly he knew that he felt the same way. It is nice to know that there is help for those of us out there stuck in cycles like this- I just wish I would have thought more about this years ago before it was too late to mend any of the fences we had already torn down together.

By: Mandy

Mandy — Wed, 28 Jan 2009 10:33:14 +0000

I totally agree that withdrawing and distancing oneself internally in a relationship is not good at all. It happened to me as I was in a long distance relationship with my ex and arguments used to crop up at the drop of a hat and we found rselves movin away from each other. We used to avoid calling, mailing or seeing each other and soon that trend took a more permanent nature. I think withdrawing constantly only leads to a break up.

By: Katy

Katy — Wed, 28 Jan 2009 10:27:19 +0000

good article!

By: Jude

Jude — Tue, 27 Jan 2009 11:31:32 +0000

My wife is an extremely suspicious person. I have a friend who likes me definitely more than a friend. I do not have feelings for her and I only think of her as a good friend, which she is. My wife knows this and she has begun checking all my mails, my mobile and all other means of correspondence. She found some calls from this girl and she blew her top. In fact she blows her top everytime she discovers some kind of correspondence from her. I dont think I should give up my friendship and I am definitely being dishonest by hiding my calls and her calls to me. I dont have any feelings for this friend but I dont think my wife should dictate my friendships or invade my privacy. I dont know if I am right and I would definitely like to know if I am right or wrong.

By: faithray

faithray — Tue, 27 Jan 2009 11:27:56 +0000

I really agree with how you handle the relationship… If you act like you don’t care, then your partner will think you won’t when really deep down you do. And when partners disagree, it seems like one or the other gets defensive and some how that makes one look guilty when their not. Relationships no matter what kind you are in takes a lot of work.

By: Molly

Molly — Tue, 27 Jan 2009 11:24:15 +0000

Thanks for the great read. This really makes sense on relationships and how people deal with them.

By: Amanda

Amanda — Tue, 27 Jan 2009 11:22:51 +0000

I loved this article. Love is a very complicated thing and making a relationship last is a very difficult task. It helped me understand the tone of my arguments better or how I should make my differences of opinion more open.

By: Laticia

Laticia — Tue, 27 Jan 2009 11:11:50 +0000

I really enjoyed the tips and suggestions in this piece. It is also good to know the different types of people and their attachments and helps us realize where some relationships are coming from.

By: Breana

Breana — Tue, 27 Jan 2009 11:09:24 +0000

Great article and I can relate to some of the Attachments. I really don’t know which one I would belong in, but I definetly think my husband belongs in the Anxious type. I tend to not show my emotions (love or sadness) on the outside and take things for granted until someone opens my eyes.