Comments on: Mommy Guilt, Part II: Case Illustration

By: Carolyn

Carolyn — Tue, 17 Jul 2012 19:32:05 +0000

I think that a lot of times women feel at odds because they are overwhelmed by the whole experience of being a good mom especially to a young baby. It is a brand new experience and no matter what the books tell you it is kind of hard to know what to do all the time until you actually get to experience it for yourself. the most important thing is to always try to surround yourself with friends and family who care about you and your well being and who will be there for you when you need a little time out for yourself.

By: Rochelle

Rochelle — Tue, 17 Jul 2012 15:39:47 +0000

I couldn’t comment from personal experience but my very best friend is a first time mother, and even though she has years of experience as a child care provider and infant mental health specialist, she still carries with her guilt of not knowing what to do at times. I guess I think that because she has so much experience (personal and clinical) that she would not feel guilty or so burdened but I suspect those feelings come from a the social fabric which has sent her the message, time and time again, that she has to be ‘super mom’ all.the.time.

And then we get together for coffee and remind each other that we’re simply moving through our lives the best way we know how…

By: cecilia

cecilia — Mon, 16 Jul 2012 17:59:38 +0000

Is there no daddy guilt?
Again, everything piling up on the moms!

By: Willow

Willow — Mon, 16 Jul 2012 11:23:00 +0000

At least this was a mother who knew that she needed help, although she wasn’t sure exactly how to make this happen.

There are many other mothers in this type of situation who don’t even realize that there is something bad there beneath the surface, they don’t know how to ask for help.

And the people in their lives refuse to see that there could be an issue.

By: Tessa B

Tessa B — Sun, 15 Jul 2012 23:03:54 +0000

Are we confusing depression with fear and unpreparedness? Because if that’s the case then there are some simple solutions for getting over that. If this is a clear case of post partum depression though, this is not something that you can just overlook. What if she did go off the deep end and then become one of those moms in the headlines? We can’t afford to ignore something, not until we are sure of what it is and that we are offering our help to the parents in need.

By: jade

jade — Sun, 15 Jul 2012 14:39:48 +0000

sometimes when we are under stress or are depressed we tend to view things in a negative light, no matter what it is.here the mother has been good in her role but she still has doubts.I think a regular habit of positive thinking can help us avoid and overcome such thoughts where there is no real need of self-criticism but we are doing fairly well.

By: OWEN

OWEN — Sat, 14 Jul 2012 22:34:12 +0000

I’ve had big depressive episodes in the past and it really does make you think about things that you normally wouldn’t…there is that constant worry in your mind and its just so hard to escape that feeling…I am hopeful women like Cameron get help ASAP because it can get even worse soon after a baby when you have already been through so much on a physical and a psychological level.

By: Robyn

Robyn — Sat, 14 Jul 2012 20:47:54 +0000

I don’t believe all of this petty whining that this girl Cameron made in this presentation!
This is an obvious ploy to get attentiion when she thinks that it is being diverted from her by the birth of her child!
Wasn’t there anyone who could see through all of this manipulation and see her for what she was, namely selfish?
Yes she may have come through this alright and thankfully so did the baby but I get very annoyed reading all about these so called tales of mommy guilt or blues when to me what most of it sounds like is some desperate ruse to get a little bit of attention for themselves.

By: Meryl

Meryl — Sat, 14 Jul 2012 19:51:12 +0000

why do most women burden themselves with things so often? If you’re doing fine with your baby (or anything under consideration) then there is no need to see others or imagine and think too much putting yourself under stress, just calm down and work on things as they comes, you’re gonna fine, ladies.

By: Kayla

Kayla — Sat, 14 Jul 2012 13:31:11 +0000

One of the biggest things that I see a lot of moms doing is comparing themselves to others and how someone else would manage a situation.

Who cares what they do? If you are handling something and you know that it is doing your child no harm, than that’s enough.

Any time you try to measure up to someone else you are never going to feel like you are living up to what or who they are. But if you would relax and take comfort in the fact that you are doing the very best that you can, then that should be enough.

By: Selena

Selena — Sat, 14 Jul 2012 11:02:46 +0000

For many women that whole mommy guilt issues is perpetuated by a husband who tells us we are not doing enough. In the case of Cameron though it looks like her husband is eager to tell her the things that she is doing right, even just the watching her son play. I think that most of us have thought at times that we are either not good enough for this role or are not prepared for it, but I think that we all need to cut ourselves a little slack. Being a parent is not easy, but if you just sit back and let it happen, most of the time it will come naturally to you. And give up on trying to be so perfect. No one is, but that doesn’t mean that you are not the perfect parent for the child that you have been given and blessed with.