http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/marriage-communication-you-dont-understand/ Exploring Healthy Psychotherapy Sun, 21 Mar 2010 17:02:48 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9 hourly 1 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/marriage-communication-you-dont-understand/comment-page-1/#comment-23071 Martha Thu, 01 Oct 2009 14:07:58 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/?p=4516#comment-23071 It is so difficult to get over winning in arguments. We love our long drawn emotional battles so much that we grow insensitive over the years. I think that leads to distance. All the things we dont say to make up for our wrongs and all the things we do say when we are not right. It is so difficult to get over winning in arguments. We love our long drawn emotional battles so much that we grow insensitive over the years. I think that leads to distance. All the things we dont say to make up for our wrongs and all the things we do say when we are not right.

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/marriage-communication-you-dont-understand/comment-page-1/#comment-22676 Rita Sat, 26 Sep 2009 02:58:08 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/?p=4516#comment-22676 I have been surfing the net constantly to sort what I thought is a complex issue in my life. Looks like lots of us sail in the same boat. Any way it was really encouraging to read this article. It set me thinking about our tendencies for emotional reactivity. Having understood this I still wonder where to start as the distance factor in my case stands at 6 years. We have managed to stay civilized in our conversations but not close. I have been surfing the net constantly to sort what I thought is a complex issue in my life. Looks like lots of us sail in the same boat. Any way it was really encouraging to read this article. It set me thinking about our tendencies for emotional reactivity. Having understood this I still wonder where to start as the distance factor in my case stands at 6 years. We have managed to stay civilized in our conversations but not close.

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/marriage-communication-you-dont-understand/comment-page-1/#comment-22616 Ginny Fri, 25 Sep 2009 11:52:17 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/?p=4516#comment-22616 haha my husband and I need this type of counseling. I cannot tell you how many fights in our house have ended with those exact words of "you just don't understand." It never feels like there are any huge problems weighing down our marriage but with those words brought into play there always seems like there is little formal resolution to arguments, and I know just like here that these are the same issues that are going to continue cropping up over and over again. haha my husband and I need this type of counseling. I cannot tell you how many fights in our house have ended with those exact words of “you just don’t understand.” It never feels like there are any huge problems weighing down our marriage but with those words brought into play there always seems like there is little formal resolution to arguments, and I know just like here that these are the same issues that are going to continue cropping up over and over again.

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