Love and Food: a Recipe for Disaster?January 14, 2013
There are a million fad diets on the market today. Although it does not seem to have ever been coined as a real diet, the Divorce Diet is one that nearly every divorcee is familiar with. It usually entails extreme stress, nausea, sleeplessness, and lots of crying. It can result in significant weight loss, smaller pant sizes, and an increase in cat calls and turned heads. It is not endorsed by any health organization, but the Divorce Diet, and others like it, is a favorite of newly single individuals. As time goes on, long after they have strayed from the basic guidelines of the Divorce Diet, many single people continue to work hard to stay in shape and look their best. The rest of them fall in love. And fall off the diet wagon.
Why does this happen? According to a recent article about love and relationships, the feel good hormones that everyone experiences when they are head over heels in love actually do more than provide energy and euphoria. They also suppress appetite. So when the hormones eventually wear off, and yes, they do eventually wear off, appetite can increase. Also, research shows that people who are married are more than twice as likely to become obese than their single peers. Perhaps the motivation to attract a partner is part of the reason. Once you have found the mate, your focus shifts from attracting others towards you, to meeting the needs of the one you found. Gone are the early morning jogs, crunches, and calisthenics. Instead, you may find yourself spending more time working out between the sheets and less time at the gym.
The type of food you eat has a lot to do with post-marital weight gain as well. “Food is a way to display skills to a potential mate,” said as Maryanne Fisher, a psychology professor at St. Mary’s University in Canada. “You might buy nicer food, prepare better meals. It’s fascinating how it can be used as part of the relationship.” But once people settle into coupledom, the romantic and sparse dinners that were first shared over candlelight are replaced by comfort food enjoyed over a nice quiet evening of relaxing, recliners, and Redbox. The recipe for love and food is a complicated one, but it does not have to be a disaster. Yes, it contains a long list of ingredients. Yes, you have to follow through. But as with any delicious recipe, this one can be modified to fit your love life, your taste buds, and your waist line!
Food and love: How they are linked in the brain. (n.d.): n. pag. Huffington Post. 6 Jan. 2013. Web. 7 Jan. 2013. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/01/06/food-and-love_n_2410936.html
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exraJanuary 14th, 2013 at 3:09 PM
I can always tell when my sister and her husband are having trouble. When they are arguing all the time then her weight plummets, but then they make up and she is all plump and happy again. Me, I get stressed and depressed, I eat. I get happy, I eat. I am never on the dropping end of the poundage!
LaceyJanuary 14th, 2013 at 4:47 PM
Now that I have lost a lot of weight whereas I would have celebrated something special with a meal in the past, now I will celebrate by doing something good for myself. Have a spa day, a shopping trip, even go for a relaxing hike. But I don’t keep my life centered around food in the way that I once did. Not only has this helped me to achieve more of my own weight loss goals but I think that as a whole it sends a much healthier message to my kids too. One day I hope that they will appreciate that much more than a big dessert.
geoffreyJanuary 14th, 2013 at 11:59 PM
I wonder if this plays out differently or at least to a different degree for men and women.because as far as I have seen men usually do not care about their weight as much as the girls do.
turnerJanuary 15th, 2013 at 3:50 AM
I think that we have to be very careful not to allow our comfort foods to become our comfort, if that makes sense to you, and I am sure that it does if you have ever experienced a problem with eating healthy.
When I went through my own divorce, I was stressed and sad and unfortunately turned to food for the comfort that I didn’t feel like I was getting from anyone else or anywhere. So instead of losing a lot of weight I gained and even though the divorce has been final for a while now I still haven’t been able to break those habits of turning to food for love that I created in the worst of my days. I am trying really hard but that seems to be the only think that I get any joy from, and even then it is short lived and I only go back to feeling bad about myself for the dumb decisions that I have made.
BryceJanuary 15th, 2013 at 1:09 PM
So important to to let the events in your life affect your diet.I have seen my brother end up in hospital after he lost his wife and it was mainly due to him being deep in sorrow.
While his feelings were understandable his not eating sufficiently brought in a whole lot of health problems and although he did recover gradually, he lost quite a bit of weight and he is still lighter than he was before she passed away over an year ago.
While mourning loss is a natural thing to do, bringing your diet into it can be a big mistake and we must realize that it is best to keep our life events and diet separated.
C.E.January 16th, 2013 at 8:21 AM
Wanting to look good has never been a great motivator for me. It gets me to the gym for a couple of months and then I just get sick of the whole routine and chunk it. My motivating factor came after a heart attack. That’ll do it!
GregoryJanuary 16th, 2013 at 8:22 AM
My wife was definitely one of those that liked to show off her cooking when we frist got together. You never seen so much good food in your life. now that we’ve been together for ten years I’m lucky to get a frozen pizza for dinner. LOL!
LizaJanuary 16th, 2013 at 8:37 AM
Oh, Lord! I can never ever get divorced. I’ll gain 200 pounds. When I get stressed and upset, my best friend is food food food food!!!
J HuntJanuary 16th, 2013 at 10:15 AM
Well it’s good to know that there is a scientific reason for not being hungry when you are first interested in somebody. Why can’t we replicate that? Anyone out there interested in trying to make a synthetic hormone we could take? Man, I’d get so much done!
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