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	<title>Comments on: Quitting the Couch:  Five Reasons People Leave Therapy Prematurely</title>
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		<title>By: Lisa S.</title>
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		<dc:creator>Lisa S.</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 03 Nov 2009 15:55:06 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I just decided yesterday to leave therapy because it was just too much.  After working together more than one year, I felt that we were making progress.  However, it was far too overwhelming.  I left a message on her voicemail to let her know if &amp; when  I felt ready to continue.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I just decided yesterday to leave therapy because it was just too much.  After working together more than one year, I felt that we were making progress.  However, it was far too overwhelming.  I left a message on her voicemail to let her know if &amp; when  I felt ready to continue.</p>
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		<title>By: Craig H.</title>
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		<dc:creator>Craig H.</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 23 Jul 2009 17:18:26 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Thank you again Keely! That was kind of you to go into all that. :) You set my mind at rest.

Thank you Kate too. I had rushed in with questions and no thank you for a very good article. Sorry! Better late than never.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thank you again Keely! That was kind of you to go into all that. :) You set my mind at rest.</p>
<p>Thank you Kate too. I had rushed in with questions and no thank you for a very good article. Sorry! Better late than never.</p>
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		<title>By: tiffani</title>
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		<dc:creator>tiffani</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 21 Jul 2009 10:58:29 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>These are some pretty good reasons and although I&#039;m not in therapy or ever been, I can see where the money and not getting the help can be understandable.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>These are some pretty good reasons and although I&#8217;m not in therapy or ever been, I can see where the money and not getting the help can be understandable.</p>
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		<title>By: Keely Kolmes, Psy.D.</title>
		<link>http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/leaving-therapy/comment-page-1/#comment-20134</link>
		<dc:creator>Keely Kolmes, Psy.D.</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 21 Jul 2009 06:01:55 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Craig, I think I understand what you&#039;re asking. It&#039;s certainly possible that a therapist&#039;s subjective experience with you could influence their diagnosis and assessment, although I&#039;d sincerely hope that this was not conveyed in the chart. 

I don&#039;t generally ask prior therapists to forward the entire chart. Part of that is that I like to learn about my client from my client rather than through someone else&#039;s impressions. But there are circumstances in which it makes sense to speak to the former therapist. If I get a release of information, I&#039;m generally having a 5-10 minute phone conversation with the other therapist in which I&#039;m asking pointed questions about length of treatment, diagnostic impressions, and potential risk issues (suicide risk, etc.). I *always* discuss with the client the types of questions I&#039;d like to ask, and I&#039;d hope the client would let me know if s/he worried that a poor connection with the therapist might influence the information I&#039;d receive.

When I&#039;m in the position of being asked to give the same, I may mention it if I had a difficult time connecting with the client or if we had ongoing conflicts because this *may* be useful information diagnostically (about the client). But then, it could always simply just be about me or our personality match (or mismatch). What I&#039;m trying to say is that I&#039;d hope that any negative responses could be contained and directly communicated in this manner so as not to seep into diagnosis/interpretations that would be passed along more indirectly. I would also hope for the same from clinicians making referrals to me. 

While it&#039;s definitely possible to inherit someone else&#039;s negative feelings about a client, I&#039;ve had enough experiences getting a referral of a &quot;difficult client,&quot; who I found delightful, and referring my own &quot;difficult&quot; cases to others who were able to make a great connection. So I&#039;d hope we would all feel free to allow that sometimes it&#039;s just poor chemistry and not necessarily about the client and hopefully clinicians aren&#039;t using the chart to act out in reaction to their clients! But I won&#039;t deny that it&#039;s possible for that to happen. 

I hope that makes sense.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Craig, I think I understand what you&#8217;re asking. It&#8217;s certainly possible that a therapist&#8217;s subjective experience with you could influence their diagnosis and assessment, although I&#8217;d sincerely hope that this was not conveyed in the chart. </p>
<p>I don&#8217;t generally ask prior therapists to forward the entire chart. Part of that is that I like to learn about my client from my client rather than through someone else&#8217;s impressions. But there are circumstances in which it makes sense to speak to the former therapist. If I get a release of information, I&#8217;m generally having a 5-10 minute phone conversation with the other therapist in which I&#8217;m asking pointed questions about length of treatment, diagnostic impressions, and potential risk issues (suicide risk, etc.). I *always* discuss with the client the types of questions I&#8217;d like to ask, and I&#8217;d hope the client would let me know if s/he worried that a poor connection with the therapist might influence the information I&#8217;d receive.</p>
<p>When I&#8217;m in the position of being asked to give the same, I may mention it if I had a difficult time connecting with the client or if we had ongoing conflicts because this *may* be useful information diagnostically (about the client). But then, it could always simply just be about me or our personality match (or mismatch). What I&#8217;m trying to say is that I&#8217;d hope that any negative responses could be contained and directly communicated in this manner so as not to seep into diagnosis/interpretations that would be passed along more indirectly. I would also hope for the same from clinicians making referrals to me. </p>
<p>While it&#8217;s definitely possible to inherit someone else&#8217;s negative feelings about a client, I&#8217;ve had enough experiences getting a referral of a &#8220;difficult client,&#8221; who I found delightful, and referring my own &#8220;difficult&#8221; cases to others who were able to make a great connection. So I&#8217;d hope we would all feel free to allow that sometimes it&#8217;s just poor chemistry and not necessarily about the client and hopefully clinicians aren&#8217;t using the chart to act out in reaction to their clients! But I won&#8217;t deny that it&#8217;s possible for that to happen. </p>
<p>I hope that makes sense.</p>
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		<title>By: Craig H,</title>
		<link>http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/leaving-therapy/comment-page-1/#comment-20129</link>
		<dc:creator>Craig H,</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 21 Jul 2009 01:54:44 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Keely, thanks for the answer! I wondered if permission was needed. I&#039;d not worry about going to a new therapist and them having my notes. I think it would be good to help them hit the ground running. However say the original therapist disliked me and that influenced their notes. Wouldn&#039;t the new therapist form a preconception of what I&#039;m like from their notes? I hope I&#039;m making sense.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Keely, thanks for the answer! I wondered if permission was needed. I&#8217;d not worry about going to a new therapist and them having my notes. I think it would be good to help them hit the ground running. However say the original therapist disliked me and that influenced their notes. Wouldn&#8217;t the new therapist form a preconception of what I&#8217;m like from their notes? I hope I&#8217;m making sense.</p>
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		<title>By: Keely Kolmes, Psy.D.</title>
		<link>http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/leaving-therapy/comment-page-1/#comment-20124</link>
		<dc:creator>Keely Kolmes, Psy.D.</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 20 Jul 2009 19:54:34 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I love this post. So clear and well-written. Of course there are many times when it makes sense to end therapy, but I do think it&#039;s great to offer clients information on when they may get more out of it and when it may be premature. Of course, hopefully, if clients do end prematurely, they will feel that it is okay to return and address some of these issues.

@Craig asked whether new therapists have contact with the old ones. Usually, if I see a new patient who has recently worked extensively with another therapist, I will ask the client if they are willing to sign a release of information to have me speak to the previous therapist, if they think it will be useful. We cannot speak to the other therapist without the written release of information. 

Also, clients can always request their notes. Depending upon the laws of the state, therapists have a certain time period in which they must respond to this (written) request. Most therapists will prefer to release a summary of the records rather than a photocopy of the entire chart. Patients can be expected to have to pay any clerical fees for copying. (In CA, we have 10 days to provide a summary and 15 days to comply with request for the full record.)

California psychologists must maintain the chart for a minimum of 7 years following the termination of therapy. 

Hope that&#039;s helpful.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I love this post. So clear and well-written. Of course there are many times when it makes sense to end therapy, but I do think it&#8217;s great to offer clients information on when they may get more out of it and when it may be premature. Of course, hopefully, if clients do end prematurely, they will feel that it is okay to return and address some of these issues.</p>
<p>@Craig asked whether new therapists have contact with the old ones. Usually, if I see a new patient who has recently worked extensively with another therapist, I will ask the client if they are willing to sign a release of information to have me speak to the previous therapist, if they think it will be useful. We cannot speak to the other therapist without the written release of information. </p>
<p>Also, clients can always request their notes. Depending upon the laws of the state, therapists have a certain time period in which they must respond to this (written) request. Most therapists will prefer to release a summary of the records rather than a photocopy of the entire chart. Patients can be expected to have to pay any clerical fees for copying. (In CA, we have 10 days to provide a summary and 15 days to comply with request for the full record.)</p>
<p>California psychologists must maintain the chart for a minimum of 7 years following the termination of therapy. </p>
<p>Hope that&#8217;s helpful.</p>
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		<title>By: Jay</title>
		<link>http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/leaving-therapy/comment-page-1/#comment-20119</link>
		<dc:creator>Jay</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 20 Jul 2009 18:44:00 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>You know, therapy for me is like a car and house payment- just seems like this is something that is going to be in my life forever</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>You know, therapy for me is like a car and house payment- just seems like this is something that is going to be in my life forever</p>
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		<title>By: Matthew</title>
		<link>http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/leaving-therapy/comment-page-1/#comment-20103</link>
		<dc:creator>Matthew</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 20 Jul 2009 09:24:51 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I am so glad to have read this. I was going through a very low phase with therapy. I have decided to rethink my decision of quitting therapy after reading this.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I am so glad to have read this. I was going through a very low phase with therapy. I have decided to rethink my decision of quitting therapy after reading this.</p>
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		<title>By: John</title>
		<link>http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/leaving-therapy/comment-page-1/#comment-20096</link>
		<dc:creator>John</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 19 Jul 2009 22:19:26 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Deciding when to leave therapy is a difficult process - for both the client and the helper. This is a great conversation!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Deciding when to leave therapy is a difficult process &#8211; for both the client and the helper. This is a great conversation!</p>
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		<title>By: Nina</title>
		<link>http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/leaving-therapy/comment-page-1/#comment-20090</link>
		<dc:creator>Nina</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 19 Jul 2009 20:25:03 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Why oh why do we do these things to ourselves? Therapy is a process, not just a quick fix for our issues!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Why oh why do we do these things to ourselves? Therapy is a process, not just a quick fix for our issues!</p>
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		<title>By: Kate Griffith</title>
		<link>http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/leaving-therapy/comment-page-1/#comment-20075</link>
		<dc:creator>Kate Griffith</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 19 Jul 2009 00:53:34 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I&#039;m so glad to see that readers found this article helpful, and also that it raised some important questions and concerns!  These issues are exactly the type of material that can be brought into session and discussed directly with your therapist.  Hopefully, your therapist can not only address the concern, but can explore with you what led up to these questions, what your hopes and fears are around talking about it with your therapist, and how this discussion may impact your therapeutic relationship and future growth.

Thanks so much for your feedback, and good wishes for your upcoming sessions!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I&#8217;m so glad to see that readers found this article helpful, and also that it raised some important questions and concerns!  These issues are exactly the type of material that can be brought into session and discussed directly with your therapist.  Hopefully, your therapist can not only address the concern, but can explore with you what led up to these questions, what your hopes and fears are around talking about it with your therapist, and how this discussion may impact your therapeutic relationship and future growth.</p>
<p>Thanks so much for your feedback, and good wishes for your upcoming sessions!</p>
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		<title>By: Craig H.</title>
		<link>http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/leaving-therapy/comment-page-1/#comment-20069</link>
		<dc:creator>Craig H.</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 18 Jul 2009 19:08:01 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>When you go to a new therapist, does the new therapist have any contact with the old one? 

I want to know what happens to the case notes. Can you request them or a copy of them from the therapist when you terminate your contract?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>When you go to a new therapist, does the new therapist have any contact with the old one? </p>
<p>I want to know what happens to the case notes. Can you request them or a copy of them from the therapist when you terminate your contract?</p>
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		<title>By: VictoriaL.</title>
		<link>http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/leaving-therapy/comment-page-1/#comment-20066</link>
		<dc:creator>VictoriaL.</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 18 Jul 2009 16:51:36 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Quitting therapy won&#039;t solve anything. You can walk out of a dozen therapist&#039;s offices. You can&#039;t hide from yourself. 

I liked how you explained that, Kate. Thank you and well done to your friend.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Quitting therapy won&#8217;t solve anything. You can walk out of a dozen therapist&#8217;s offices. You can&#8217;t hide from yourself. </p>
<p>I liked how you explained that, Kate. Thank you and well done to your friend.</p>
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		<title>By: Ginny</title>
		<link>http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/leaving-therapy/comment-page-1/#comment-20049</link>
		<dc:creator>Ginny</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 17 Jul 2009 19:46:58 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I am feeling some of these very things right now and have been debating about whether or not I should continue to go to my sessions. Sometimes they are great but then there are other times that it completely feels like a waste of time, like she does not even hear or understand what I am saying. And then there is always the money issue. It gets expensive going for an hour every few weeks, especially since I have no health insurance. There is a part of me that insists that this has to remain a priority for me, but there is another side that just encourages me to call and cancel my next appojtment to see if I can just get through everything on my own. There have become more times than not where this does not seem to be an expense that I can justify anymore.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I am feeling some of these very things right now and have been debating about whether or not I should continue to go to my sessions. Sometimes they are great but then there are other times that it completely feels like a waste of time, like she does not even hear or understand what I am saying. And then there is always the money issue. It gets expensive going for an hour every few weeks, especially since I have no health insurance. There is a part of me that insists that this has to remain a priority for me, but there is another side that just encourages me to call and cancel my next appojtment to see if I can just get through everything on my own. There have become more times than not where this does not seem to be an expense that I can justify anymore.</p>
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		<title>By: sara d.</title>
		<link>http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/leaving-therapy/comment-page-1/#comment-20048</link>
		<dc:creator>sara d.</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 17 Jul 2009 16:19:00 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Thank you Kate.. about every couple months I feel like quitting therapy and this list was very helpful for me.  But, I&#039;m still mad at my therapist for being so dang nice all the time! :)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thank you Kate.. about every couple months I feel like quitting therapy and this list was very helpful for me.  But, I&#8217;m still mad at my therapist for being so dang nice all the time! :)</p>
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