http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/in-crisis-discovered-the-affair/ Exploring Healthy Psychotherapy Sun, 21 Mar 2010 03:00:58 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9 hourly 1 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/in-crisis-discovered-the-affair/comment-page-1/#comment-24852 Steph Mon, 09 Nov 2009 16:00:53 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/?p=5577#comment-24852 My husband has never cheated as far as I know but I have been through this now with so many of my friends and sometimes it just leaves you wondering what the hell they were thinking. Did they not realize that they were potentially throwing away their lives and their families all for a quick tryst? Or for those who carried on these affairs long term, why were they not able to just tell their spouses how unhappy they were and move on without so many people having to get hurt? My husband has never cheated as far as I know but I have been through this now with so many of my friends and sometimes it just leaves you wondering what the hell they were thinking. Did they not realize that they were potentially throwing away their lives and their families all for a quick tryst? Or for those who carried on these affairs long term, why were they not able to just tell their spouses how unhappy they were and move on without so many people having to get hurt?

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/in-crisis-discovered-the-affair/comment-page-1/#comment-24737 Dana Vince Fri, 06 Nov 2009 00:45:04 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/?p=5577#comment-24737 I am so sorry to hear of your painful circumstances. Your journey will be one of forgiveness because it is through forgiveness that you will find healing. Right now it might be impossible for you to imagine forgiving him, but you can get there. You can begin by trying to find a place within yourself that can have compassion for him by trying to understand why he made these choices. This is a long difficult journey that you should take with the help of a skilled counselor, and a support system of family and friends. I am so sorry to hear of your painful circumstances. Your journey will be one of forgiveness because it is through forgiveness that you will find healing. Right now it might be impossible for you to imagine forgiving him, but you can get there. You can begin by trying to find a place within yourself that can have compassion for him by trying to understand why he made these choices. This is a long difficult journey that you should take with the help of a skilled counselor, and a support system of family and friends.

]]> http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/in-crisis-discovered-the-affair/comment-page-1/#comment-24730 Betty Thu, 05 Nov 2009 23:41:53 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/?p=5577#comment-24730 My husband died unexpectedly last year. As if that was not enough of a shock for me and my family we also learned he had literally formed another family with another woman. They were not married but he had traveled to see her quite a bit while I thought he was out of town with work and they had children together. It has been a year and me and my own children are still reeling from the lies as I am sure his other children with the other woman is. I am not sure that this is something that I will ever get over- it was such a shock because I never saw it coming. We did not necessarily have thebest relationship but everything seemed ok. What a way to find out just how wrong I really was! My husband died unexpectedly last year. As if that was not enough of a shock for me and my family we also learned he had literally formed another family with another woman. They were not married but he had traveled to see her quite a bit while I thought he was out of town with work and they had children together. It has been a year and me and my own children are still reeling from the lies as I am sure his other children with the other woman is. I am not sure that this is something that I will ever get over- it was such a shock because I never saw it coming. We did not necessarily have thebest relationship but everything seemed ok. What a way to find out just how wrong I really was!

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