Comments on: Collaborative Divorce: Team Model Creates Better Outcomes for Families http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-divorce/ Exploring Healthy Psychotherapy Thu, 18 Mar 2010 00:50:37 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9 hourly 1 By: Megan http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-10549 Megan Mon, 18 Aug 2008 20:54:17 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=551#comment-10549 I recently went through a divorce and a friend recommended collaborative practice to me. I think that it made the process much less complicated and painful for the entire family. I found my attorney through www.collaborativepractice.com which was already mentioned in this blog. I liked this organization because it was non-profit and less intrusive than most sites out there just looking for business. I highly recommend this practice of divorce to anyone who would like to avoid as much conflict as possible. I recently went through a divorce and a friend recommended collaborative practice to me. I think that it made the process much less complicated and painful for the entire family. I found my attorney through http://www.collaborativepractice.com which was already mentioned in this blog. I liked this organization because it was non-profit and less intrusive than most sites out there just looking for business. I highly recommend this practice of divorce to anyone who would like to avoid as much conflict as possible.

]]> By: Donna http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-10355 Donna Mon, 04 Aug 2008 20:52:12 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=551#comment-10355 I hope this works out for you Starla. Sounds like it would be a perfect way for you and your ex to work through your situation and bring closure and peace to your family. Best of luck. I hope this works out for you Starla. Sounds like it would be a perfect way for you and your ex to work through your situation and bring closure and peace to your family. Best of luck.

]]> By: Starla Y http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-10311 Starla Y Sun, 03 Aug 2008 23:36:38 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=551#comment-10311 There is some really great info out here in many of these blogs. I enjoy the reading and am grateful when I find articles like this one that speak to things currently going on in my own life. I am currently going through a divorce and wish that we could collaborate a little more and make things a little more amicable for us and the kids. I am going to talk with my attorney about this model and see if there is any way I can bring this into what we are currently going through. Wish me luck! There is some really great info out here in many of these blogs. I enjoy the reading and am grateful when I find articles like this one that speak to things currently going on in my own life. I am currently going through a divorce and wish that we could collaborate a little more and make things a little more amicable for us and the kids. I am going to talk with my attorney about this model and see if there is any way I can bring this into what we are currently going through. Wish me luck!

]]> By: shictellini http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-10289 shictellini Sun, 03 Aug 2008 06:16:34 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=551#comment-10289 Hi, I have been reading this blog for some time now but never bothered to comment until today. Wanted to let you know that I am a fan and enjoy your work. Hi, I have been reading this blog for some time now but never bothered to comment until today. Wanted to let you know that I am a fan and enjoy your work.

]]> By: jona http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-10259 jona Wed, 30 Jul 2008 23:02:50 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=551#comment-10259 I am so glad to see professionals from various arenas coming together to put a spotlight on helping clients through divorces. I am so glad to see professionals from various arenas coming together to put a spotlight on helping clients through divorces.

]]> By: Maggie http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-10211 Maggie Mon, 28 Jul 2008 10:35:39 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=551#comment-10211 Sure there probably are but when you go through a bitter divorce and settlement you can never make everyone involved one hundred percent happy all of the time. I happen to see the collaborative model as one of the best ways to not only ensure the happiness of each person involved, but the very best way to maintain a modicul of happiness for children who may be involved in the issues as well. Divorce is so painful for them and this model represents a healthy approach to what is usually a devastation to the family and home life. I commend those who are big enough to consider this model as I think that it is about so much more than agreeing over who gets to keep the CD collection. Sure there probably are but when you go through a bitter divorce and settlement you can never make everyone involved one hundred percent happy all of the time. I happen to see the collaborative model as one of the best ways to not only ensure the happiness of each person involved, but the very best way to maintain a modicul of happiness for children who may be involved in the issues as well. Divorce is so painful for them and this model represents a healthy approach to what is usually a devastation to the family and home life. I commend those who are big enough to consider this model as I think that it is about so much more than agreeing over who gets to keep the CD collection.

]]> By: Stephanie W http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-10179 Stephanie W Sun, 27 Jul 2008 13:34:34 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=551#comment-10179 Are there families out there who feel jilted by the process- in other words (and I am simply playing devil's advocate here) are there people who feel like they do not get the monetary compensation that they deserve out of a divorce when they use this method versus the more traditional court route? Are there families out there who feel jilted by the process- in other words (and I am simply playing devil’s advocate here) are there people who feel like they do not get the monetary compensation that they deserve out of a divorce when they use this method versus the more traditional court route?

]]> By: Dr. Arthur Becker-Weidman http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-10133 Dr. Arthur Becker-Weidman Fri, 25 Jul 2008 22:08:58 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=551#comment-10133 Thanks for the information, Chesley; that's helpful. Thanks for the information, Chesley; that’s helpful.

]]> By: Chesley C. Swanson, LMSW http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-10119 Chesley C. Swanson, LMSW Fri, 25 Jul 2008 19:53:46 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=551#comment-10119 I appreciate your comments. In regards to further information about collaborative divorce, it is a good idea to go to the IACP home web page to access a lot of basic information about collaborative practice and schedules for training. To answer the specific question about training; first there is a basic two day training that covers much about the various roles in the collaborative model, focusing attention on the paradigm shift needed for each role. The next two day training is interdisciplinary, in which practitioners from each field learn how to work together. Some collaborative practitioners choose to be involved in practice groups. For couples with children who are unable to experience a collaborative divorce, it is often helpful to have the services of a parenting coordinator. I appreciate your comments. In regards to further information about collaborative divorce, it is a good idea to go to the IACP home web page to access a lot of basic information about collaborative practice and schedules for training. To answer the specific question about training; first there is a basic two day training that covers much about the various roles in the collaborative model, focusing attention on the paradigm shift needed for each role. The next two day training is interdisciplinary, in which practitioners from each field learn how to work together. Some collaborative practitioners choose to be involved in practice groups. For couples with children who are unable to experience a collaborative divorce, it is often helpful to have the services of a parenting coordinator.

]]> By: Jennifer http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-10099 Jennifer Fri, 25 Jul 2008 18:48:47 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=551#comment-10099 Do the Texas bcollaborators who put into effect this model have to have special licensing? It seems you would have to be well versed in family therapy as well as law. Do the Texas bcollaborators who put into effect this model have to have special licensing? It seems you would have to be well versed in family therapy as well as law.

]]> By: Jeni http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-10069 Jeni Thu, 24 Jul 2008 22:59:45 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=551#comment-10069 I really wish that this model had been in use when my sister went through a quite painful divorce several years ago. Her life and thta of the kids were just wrecked and there really was no on there and no resources recommended for her to help them all pick up the broken pieces. I think that there are so many people who are going to benefit from this in the long run. I really wish that this model had been in use when my sister went through a quite painful divorce several years ago. Her life and thta of the kids were just wrecked and there really was no on there and no resources recommended for her to help them all pick up the broken pieces. I think that there are so many people who are going to benefit from this in the long run.

]]> By: Charles Hofheimer http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-10053 Charles Hofheimer Thu, 24 Jul 2008 15:29:56 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=551#comment-10053 The most Inclusive Collaborative Law/ Collaborative Divorce Website belongs to the International Association of Collaborative Professionals (IACP) www.collaborativepractice.com This organization represents collaborative professionals throughout the US and the World. The most Inclusive Collaborative Law/ Collaborative Divorce Website belongs to the International Association of Collaborative Professionals (IACP) http://www.collaborativepractice.com This organization represents collaborative professionals throughout the US and the World.

]]> By: Chicago Therapist http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-10041 Chicago Therapist Thu, 24 Jul 2008 00:00:07 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=551#comment-10041 I have seen this model work very effectively, much more so than the traditional legal methods often and historically used in divorce proceedings. Thank goodness we are finally moving away from some of the more antiquated procedures and moving forward to something that can be truly healing for the couples and families involved in the traumatic experience of divorce. This is just another great way that a community can come together and do something to heal rather than hurt all of the time. It hopefully shows that we are moving forward as a society in a positive manner and that perhaps it will save many lives from being shattered by this painful experience. I have seen this model work very effectively, much more so than the traditional legal methods often and historically used in divorce proceedings. Thank goodness we are finally moving away from some of the more antiquated procedures and moving forward to something that can be truly healing for the couples and families involved in the traumatic experience of divorce. This is just another great way that a community can come together and do something to heal rather than hurt all of the time. It hopefully shows that we are moving forward as a society in a positive manner and that perhaps it will save many lives from being shattered by this painful experience.

]]> By: Sandy http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-10027 Sandy Wed, 23 Jul 2008 17:20:18 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=551#comment-10027 sounds like it would be key to making the whole transition easier for the entire family and would really help with the children and the raw emotions they too will be dealing with. sounds like it would be key to making the whole transition easier for the entire family and would really help with the children and the raw emotions they too will be dealing with.

]]> By: Dr. Arthur Becker-Weidman http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-10013 Dr. Arthur Becker-Weidman Wed, 23 Jul 2008 13:22:17 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=551#comment-10013 What a helpful article. Thanks. Can you elaborate on the training required? Thanks What a helpful article. Thanks.

Can you elaborate on the training required?

Thanks

]]> By: David http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-9989 David Tue, 22 Jul 2008 22:25:02 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=551#comment-9989 Finally something good that could come out of a divorce. This sounds like an ideal program that need to be en-acted nationwide. Better for the whole family all the way around in a tough divorce situation. Finally something good that could come out of a divorce. This sounds like an ideal program that need to be en-acted nationwide. Better for the whole family all the way around in a tough divorce situation.

]]> By: Peter Quinn http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-9981 Peter Quinn Tue, 22 Jul 2008 07:59:23 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=551#comment-9981 Hi. I am a long time reader. I wanted to say that I like your blog and the layout. Peter Quinn Hi. I am a long time reader. I wanted to say that I like your blog and the layout.

Peter Quinn

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