Written by Jodi Blackley, M.S., M.F.T.

Have you considered going to therapy, but have yet to pick up the phone? What’s stopping you? Are you worried what others might think? Are you wondering if therapy is really for you? Maybe you’re trying to decide if spending the money is worth it.

When I scour the web, I read posts from many people looking for therapist referrals. They ask for “good therapists,” or “therapists who use Cognitive-Behavioral therapy.” If you check out message boards like, Craigslist.org, it’s no wonder trying to figure out if there are benefits to therapy. There’s so much pessimism about therapy that many people steer away from it.

However, there’s good news! Researchers at The Institute for the Study of Therapeutic Change (ISTC) and Partners for Change have proven that there is value in therapy. However, the value isn’t in the therapist’s techniques or what school of thought the therapist works from. The value is inherently in the professional relationship between yourself and the therapist. In fact, the ISTC shows that about 60% of the success of therapy relies on this relationship. If you trust and like your therapist, there is a higher likelihood that you will have a greater level of success in therapy. The other 40% is based on therapist techniques and the therapist’s confidence in those techniques.

With this in mind, how do you know if the therapist you’re looking for is the “right one” for you? Well, there’s no exact science here. There are plenty of outlets to find therapists, including online directories like GoodTherapy.org or state-specific directories like TherapistFinder.com. Read through the bios. Find a couple that “speak” to you.

When you call the therapist, you will probably only get a few minutes to chat with them to discuss the general issues you want to work on, how much it’ll cost and set an appointment. If you get a bad “vibe” from the therapist, do not feel obligated to set an appointment. Move on to the next one.

Therapists work differently, so what to expect upon your first visit can vary. The therapist should feel comfortable responding to your questions about the therapy process and any expectations you have.

Hopefully this will help you take the leap to making changes in your life. Therapy is a journey and you have the opportunity to make it work for you!

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