1. What does the name “Hakomi” mean?

Early in the development of the work, one of Ron Kurtz’ colleagues had a dream in which Kurtz handed him a slip of paper with the words “Hakomi Therapy” written on it. “Hakomi” (sometimes spelled “Hakimi”) was later discovered to be a Hopi Indian word with two related meanings: “who are you” (current) and “how do you stand in relation to these many realms” (archaic) (Kurtz, 1990). Since then, the word has been discovered to have meanings in several other languages as well.

2. Hakomi is described as “mindfulness-based, body-centered” psychotherapy. What does this mean?

The body plays an important role in our emotional life. For example, emotions like fear, sadness, and love all can be felt as sensations in the body. We use our bodies to express emotions (e.g., smile), and we learn to use bodily tension to do things like control unwanted emotions or project a certain image. We learn a lot about core themes like safety, belongingness, and autonomy through our bodily experiences- e.g., through experiences of parental touch and tone of voice. The body also plays an important role in our intellectual life. Posture is a good example of this- people’s posture can often be seen to reflect their beliefs about themselves.

So why does this matter? One of the main reasons that people come to therapy is for help with beliefs and emotions that they perceive as irrational or undesirable. These feelings are often rooted deep in the psyche- beyond the reach of the intellect alone. This is where working with the body comes into play. Because there is a bodily aspect to all of our experience, the body provides a door to a deeper understanding of our experience than can be gained through intellect alone. It also offers greater leverage for healing and change.

In Hakomi therapy, we make use of this potential by bringing awareness to the qualities of bodily experience (e.g. sensation, habitual movements, changes in breathing) as they relate to the client’s area of concern. For example, a client may tighten her shoulder as she describes an interaction at work. As this aspect of her experience comes into focus, it will likely provide new information and insight into the original issue. This expansion of awareness in turn creates a new experience in the body, which forms the basis for change out in the world beyond the therapy office.

So where does mindfulness come in? Because the relevant aspects of bodily experience are often subtle, habitual, or even unconscious, we use mindfulness as a tool to help make them more noticeable for the client. The therapist can help guide a client towards mindfulness, and many clients quickly learn to access this state on their own.

In this context, mindfulness is a quiet, receptive state of mind in which one’s attention is turned inward, to observe one’s felt (bodily) experience of the present moment, including sensations, thoughts, feelings, images, memories, etc. Using mindfulness in relation to a particular therapeutic issue usually results in new discoveries, new understanding, and new possibilities.

So, to sum up: Hakomi therapy is “body-centered” because it makes use of the wealth of information and resources stored in the body. It is “mindfulness-based” because it uses mindfulness to access the information stored in the body. These two attributes work together to provide palpable new awareness and understanding that form a basis for real healing and change.

3) Will the therapist touch me (since it is a “body-centered” approach)?

Touch is sometimes used in Hakomi therapy, but only with the client’s consent. (The therapist should never touch you if you do not want to be touched, and it is always appropriate to say that.)

When touch is used in Hakomi, it is used in the context of what we call an “experiment in mindfulness.” This means that the client and therapist decide together that it would be of interest to explore what it is like for the client to be touched in a particular (non-sexual) way. (A common example would be: the therapist’s hand supporting the client’s back in a place chosen by the client.) Before the touch is initiated, the client is instructed to quietly observe what s/he experiences in response to the touch, and report his/her experience back to the therapist. (There is no “correct” response- the idea is simply to give the client an opportunity to witness his/her actual experience.)

The value of this type of “experiment” is that, because it is done “live” and in a state of mindfulness (see answer to Question #2, above), it can provide information about the client’s experience of touch that might never have emerged otherwise. This information can help the client understand reactions s/he may have in other situations, and it may also facilitate a deeper, more transformative processing of issues related to touch than would have been possible otherwise.

4) Do I have to be a meditator (since it is a “mindfulness-based” approach)?

No meditation experience is necessary to benefit from Hakomi therapy. Mindfulness is used differently in Hakomi than in most meditation practices, so it is often somewhat new even for experienced meditators.

References:

Kurtz, R. Body-Centered Psychotherapy: The Hakomi Method. Mendocino, CA: LifeRhythm Press (1990).

**The views and opinions expressed in this article are not necessarily reflective of the views of Ron Kurtz or the Hakomi Institute.**