Comments on: Getting Out of Our Own Way http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/getting-out-of-our-own-way/ Exploring Healthy Psychotherapy Fri, 10 Feb 2012 01:06:51 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Dr. Arthur Becker-Weidman http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/getting-out-of-our-own-way/#comment-10955 Dr. Arthur Becker-Weidman Mon, 01 Sep 2008 19:36:46 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=629#comment-10955 Jeanine, I'd be interested to know if you see any links between what you so eloquently describe and temperament...People have temperaments that seem to be very stable over time (See Thomas & Chess, for a detailed description of the nine dimensions of Temperament). I was just thinking that maybe accepting oneself and following the "Way" might in some respects include accepting ones nature or temperament.... Thanks for a truly helpful article. Art Jeanine,

I’d be interested to know if you see any links between what you so eloquently describe and temperament…People have temperaments that seem to be very stable over time (See Thomas & Chess, for a detailed description of the nine dimensions of Temperament). I was just thinking that maybe accepting oneself and following the “Way” might in some respects include accepting ones nature or temperament….
Thanks for a truly helpful article.

Art

]]> By: Donna http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/getting-out-of-our-own-way/#comment-10909 Donna Sun, 31 Aug 2008 22:01:26 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=629#comment-10909 I might make a trip to the bookstore and check that one out too. I might make a trip to the bookstore and check that one out too.

]]> By: Lee http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/getting-out-of-our-own-way/#comment-10733 Lee Wed, 27 Aug 2008 12:08:30 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=629#comment-10733 You are right Ally. I bought the book by Dr. Dyer that is mentioned in the text and I have to say that reading it has brought me such calm and peace in my life. I recommend that for everyone out there who might be interested in the subject. You are right Ally. I bought the book by Dr. Dyer that is mentioned in the text and I have to say that reading it has brought me such calm and peace in my life. I recommend that for everyone out there who might be interested in the subject.

]]> By: Ally http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/getting-out-of-our-own-way/#comment-10653 Ally Sun, 24 Aug 2008 16:37:25 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=629#comment-10653 Sometimes it is nice to know that we can give it all up to a higher power and that ultimately things will take care of themselves. That is comforting. Sometimes it is nice to know that we can give it all up to a higher power and that ultimately things will take care of themselves. That is comforting.

]]> By: Michael http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/getting-out-of-our-own-way/#comment-10577 Michael Wed, 20 Aug 2008 12:01:42 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=629#comment-10577 I guess the best advice in this case is that as an adult we all have to give 100 percent to get to really know ourselves. That is the only way we will learn to overcome those negative expectations and rise above our past. Same thing goes for the overachievers. At a certain point they have to come to the realization that no one is super human and they do not have to try to be that anymore in order to continue pleasing others. It is all about making yourself happy from the inside out. I guess the best advice in this case is that as an adult we all have to give 100 percent to get to really know ourselves. That is the only way we will learn to overcome those negative expectations and rise above our past. Same thing goes for the overachievers. At a certain point they have to come to the realization that no one is super human and they do not have to try to be that anymore in order to continue pleasing others. It is all about making yourself happy from the inside out.

]]> By: Jeni http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/getting-out-of-our-own-way/#comment-10533 Jeni Mon, 18 Aug 2008 14:15:04 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=629#comment-10533 You can look at the flip side of this and learn something as well. What about those who are told growing up that they will never amount to anything and sure enough that is what happens? We all live up to the standards that are either fairly or unfairly laid out for us from a very early age and that in essence causes us to develop into the adults we become. I do believe that for those who are given very low standards and expectations can improve their lives but it is often hard to overcome things you have been told about yourself your whole life. You can look at the flip side of this and learn something as well. What about those who are told growing up that they will never amount to anything and sure enough that is what happens? We all live up to the standards that are either fairly or unfairly laid out for us from a very early age and that in essence causes us to develop into the adults we become. I do believe that for those who are given very low standards and expectations can improve their lives but it is often hard to overcome things you have been told about yourself your whole life.

]]> By: bethany http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/getting-out-of-our-own-way/#comment-10505 bethany Fri, 15 Aug 2008 13:36:36 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=629#comment-10505 All of my life I have been a go getter and now I know the reason why- every time I would work so hard like this I received so much praise and admiration from home that I worked hard to get more of that. It is amazing what reading something in print can sometimes do for you, although it can kind of freak you out a little because as I sat and read this I thought Wow- this is me they are talking about. I still do continue to work hard because I think that is just a big part of who I am but I have tried to now do things for a different reason. I try to accomplish the things that mean the most to me and not those which will necessarily elicit the most praise from others. I think that overall this has started to make me a much stronger person. All of my life I have been a go getter and now I know the reason why- every time I would work so hard like this I received so much praise and admiration from home that I worked hard to get more of that. It is amazing what reading something in print can sometimes do for you, although it can kind of freak you out a little because as I sat and read this I thought Wow- this is me they are talking about. I still do continue to work hard because I think that is just a big part of who I am but I have tried to now do things for a different reason. I try to accomplish the things that mean the most to me and not those which will necessarily elicit the most praise from others. I think that overall this has started to make me a much stronger person.

]]> By: Nicholas Petrot http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/getting-out-of-our-own-way/#comment-10467 Nicholas Petrot Tue, 12 Aug 2008 19:48:58 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=629#comment-10467 Thanks for the tips. I have been trying to get on the yoga bandwagon for a while now and this may actually inspire me to do so. Thanks for the tips. I have been trying to get on the yoga bandwagon for a while now and this may actually inspire me to do so.

]]> By: Shannon http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/getting-out-of-our-own-way/#comment-10445 Shannon Mon, 11 Aug 2008 19:02:13 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=629#comment-10445 There are many other opportunities for release and letting go such as meditation and yoga. Both of these practices can be very beneficial for just allowing the natural rhythms of your body take control and bring things into a more mangageable state. This works for me anyway. I think though that both of these practices can be hard for people who are accustomed to always being fully in control so they may take some work to get just the right feel from them. But both can be so relaxing and the perfect way to end what was before an extremely stressful day. There are many other opportunities for release and letting go such as meditation and yoga. Both of these practices can be very beneficial for just allowing the natural rhythms of your body take control and bring things into a more mangageable state. This works for me anyway. I think though that both of these practices can be hard for people who are accustomed to always being fully in control so they may take some work to get just the right feel from them. But both can be so relaxing and the perfect way to end what was before an extremely stressful day.

]]> By: Kyle http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/getting-out-of-our-own-way/#comment-10425 Kyle Sun, 10 Aug 2008 13:27:35 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=629#comment-10425 We have all lived like this I think and you are right- it does feel healthier just to let it all go and let what feels natural take control instead of always trying to BE in control. We have all lived like this I think and you are right- it does feel healthier just to let it all go and let what feels natural take control instead of always trying to BE in control.

]]> By: AMH http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/getting-out-of-our-own-way/#comment-10391 AMH Thu, 07 Aug 2008 14:15:13 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/custom/blog/?p=629#comment-10391 What an uplifting article! I too have the tendency to go go go until I feel like dropping and it has taken me a long time to learn that this is not healthy for me or for my family so I have tried to slow down and just let the natural rhythms of my body and life be in charge rather than me always trying to be in control of everything. I think this style of living is serving me much better than my overachieving did in the past! What an uplifting article! I too have the tendency to go go go until I feel like dropping and it has taken me a long time to learn that this is not healthy for me or for my family so I have tried to slow down and just let the natural rhythms of my body and life be in charge rather than me always trying to be in control of everything. I think this style of living is serving me much better than my overachieving did in the past!

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