Comments on: Of Dads and Daughters: Fighting the Tide of Eating Disorders

By: Sandra

Sandra — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 14:07:11 +0000

Dads, be careful what you say. You may not think it but your girls are always listening.

By: Linda

Linda — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 12:04:42 +0000

Fathers can be very positive people as men tend to be less irrational and emotional in their behaviour. I also think men are great motivators.

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 10:26:16 +0000

In a very old world my dad was new light. He taught me the less trodden path and today I think I owe a lot to him. There was never an issue of whether I can with him. It was only whether I wanted to. He taught me to be free in life in spirit and I owe a lot to him

By: Becca

Becca — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 17:53:06 +0000

And how about the things they see in the grocery store check out lines on the current magazine covers? We may can shield the kids from our words but there is no way to keep them from the media who declares pretty regularly that if you are over a size 6 then you must be fat. You can’t tell me that young girls and women alike do not take all of this to heart because I know that I still do and I am well past my tween and adolescent years. It is hard to ignore all of this sometimes because that is what we are constsntly innundated with. And just think about the girls who not only get the messages from that media but the same stupid verification of that at home too! Imagine how bad they must inevitably come to think about themselves and how unfair that is to them.

By: Georgia

Georgia — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 13:29:41 +0000

I hope that we as a society have evolved past the point that what does not break you can only make you stronger, but i fear that for the older generations that has not hit home yet. For so many young girls especially that is really not the case. They really take what we all have to say to heart and they keep it with them all through adulthood. We all need to make a much better effort about the things we say to our kids and take a good look at what we are teaching them through both our actions and our words.

By: Jon

Jon — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 11:42:28 +0000

My dad was very old school and felt like (and still feels) that things he said to me and my sisters growing up were to toughen us up. Guess that is not the way of thinking anymore huh?

By: Steve

Steve — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 14:43:58 +0000

As father I have to speak up and say that you should be mindful of what you to say to all of your kids, male or female. Like it or not we are the role models that they are always going to look up to and it is our responsibility as parents to give them the things that they need to be a success in life. So what if they are a little skinny or a little pudgy? We have to get to the point where we can look down deep inside and ask oursleves if he or she is a good kid, does well in school, and is making a positive contribution to the household. If those questions have the answers that we want to hear, what does their size matter and why should we even make comments about it? I want my kids to be healthy too but I know that we all go through up and down phases with our weight and for the most part I know that if I just ignore it then sometimes problems will resolve themselves on their own. Support your kids, don’t knock them down.

By: Missy

Missy — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 10:02:02 +0000

parents love their children, but I think mother’s kind of want their daughters to grow up and be like them or be what they weren’t. There’s pagents, contests, and cheerleading that I think a lot of mothers want their little girls to be in so they push for that self image of their daughter. I think Daddy’s just want their little girls to be little girls.

By: Kylie

Kylie — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 04:00:56 +0000

I think having a supportive dad goes a long way. I lost my mom when I was 11. Not the easiest thing in the world at that age. My dad was very patient with me and even the times that he used to criticize, it used to be objective criticism. Looking back, I can say I am a confident person in my own skin. I think its definitely important to have a dad who matures with you.

By: Diane

Diane — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 08:12:26 +0000

I find myself on the other side of the fence Melinda. My son was a big baby who became very skinny between 3-10. I found myself constantly yelling at him and trying to force him to eat. The fact that I was a good cook used to irk me a little more with my skinny child. The world doesnt deal with our sore points generously as well. Years of jibes and jokes from friends and families about him took their toll and I wasnt the supportive mother he would have liked to have. Today he is in therapy for depression and eating disorders. Nothing I do can undo the damage done.

By: Melinda

Melinda — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 17:24:52 +0000

Although I love both my mother and father dearly they were always so critical of me when I was growing up, telling me things like I was chubby or to stop eating so much. And that really did make an impact on me as a kid, and has carried over into adulthood even though I have tried so hard not to let it. It is as a result of words like these that were used against me that I try to be so careful about what I say to my own girls, because as much as I try to keep a handle on what and how they eat I would never want them to even get the faintest idea that I thought they were fat or eating too much. I know just how easily those seeimingly innocuous words can have on a young girl’s self esteem and what a lasting impression this can make on them.