I’m Impatient and Easily Irritated. Am I Depressed?
Dear Irritated,
When I first read your letter, I wondered if you had visited your personal physician for a checkup recently. I am not a physician, but I am aware that your irritation can be a symptom of many things, among them a nutritional disorder, neurological damage, or medication interactions. So I would advise you first to seek the advice of a medical doctor.
You write that you did not always feel angry, edgy, and unfriendly, and I wonder if you can trace back to the time when your feelings and your behavior changed. Tracking this down might give some clues about what it is that has gone wrong.
You may not have a big social circle, but are there a few friends or relatives to whom you could turn for help? They might have ideas about when, and even why, you changed.
You ask if you are depressed. It sounds like you are, and anger, as you might know, goes hand-in-hand with depression. Anger is even an underlying factor in the development of depression.
You say you are nitpicking and edgy. Who are the people most affected by these qualities? Do they have something in common?
Funny, one of the first things you wrote was that simple questions bug you, so I guess I’m bugging you as you read my reply, because I’ve asked you a lot. So rather than ask anything else, I’ll suggest that after you visit your physician you make an appointment with a therapist, who will ask you to talk about yourself, probably ask questions that annoy you, and who will request that when you’re annoyed you say so. The therapist will also ask you to report when you think the conversation has gone stupid, and you won’t have to worry about being offensive, because the therapist won’t take it personally, and that will help you, eventually, learn how to be the more likable person you say you used to be.
I hope you find your old self soon, and that when found it’s even better than you remember.
Best wishes,
Lynn
Lynn Somerstein
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Leslie
June 28th, 2013 at 11:19 AMI am like the therapist here. I thought oh no here is someone else self diagnosing like most of us do at some point in time.
But I think that I would agree that if this is all new for you and not how you have always felt (because let’s face it, there are just some people who go through all of their lives angry and irritated for no good reason!) then I would tend to think that there are some deeper things going on with you that you may just not be fully aware of.
I think that it’s great that you have enough slef awareness to recognize that something is definitely amiss and I think that asking your question here is a great first step in the right direction!
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Elijah
November 22nd, 2016 at 1:37 PMI started suffering from depression when I was 13 and now I get angry when people say stuff horrible and nasty stuff about me and my brother
Please help me
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Samm
March 11th, 2017 at 6:34 AMMe too 😔
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simon
June 21st, 2017 at 1:16 AMTry looking into buddhism, it may help you ;-)
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anony
November 29th, 2023 at 9:59 AMi think you should see it this way. think that if someone calls you or your brother something not likely then think whether you are that or not. then you will realize that you do not need anyone to tell you or your brother who you are. And trust me. just think that and you will be able to ignore it
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Also Irritated
August 17th, 2023 at 12:16 PMGirl, don’t worry. We can be friends. I feel the same.
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Gina
June 28th, 2013 at 5:29 PMIf you are a woman of a “certain age” you may also be experiencing symptoms of menopause.
I am going through this wonderful phase of my life and hace tried many different approaches to reduce the symptoms. So far not completely successful.
Diet, Yoga, progeterone creams, Mindful based therapy is my next investigation…
Dr is quick to prescribe low dose aniety meds–but trying not to go there!
Good luck
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Dr. Lynn Somerstein
June 28th, 2013 at 5:32 PMDear Leslie,
Thanks for the compliment, it means a great deal to me. And thanks for encouraging the person who wrote in. It makes a big difference to know people are behind you. -
Susan B
March 15th, 2020 at 5:56 PMI have been experiencing the very same issues for the past several months. In an attempt to find out what may be wrong with me or why this has happened, I googled it. Lol! Praise God that this site popped up first. I am so impressed with Lynn’s reply that I had to comment. Recently I lost my tastebuds along with about 50 lbs. I’ve been to a Dr. but my referral Dr. appts. are scheduled for the end of this month. Meanwhile, along with the weight loss my hair is falling out and has become so thin that I look like I’ve been taking chemo. I’m so concerned about my nutrition but cannot seem to get a sooner appt with the ENT Dr. My gastroenterologist is waiting on my heart Dr. to schedule an EGD. So, I patiently sit here awaiting help from the professionals and eating my Philadelphia cream cheese as it is the main food item that I can tolerate. My mood is accurately described in the comment by ohhhh I’ve lost his comment….so sorry. Anyway, I’m very irritable, I get annoyed with people at the least little things at times even thinking they are not as “smart” about things as I am. Lol. I’m very short with them, angry and I know I must be hurting them. This is NOT WHO I WAS before the problem with my tastebuds and weight loss. My sleep patterns have changed too. Anyway, thank you Lynn! So very much!
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Lynn Somerstein
March 16th, 2020 at 8:37 AMYou’re quite welcome. And seeking medical help is very important–I”m glad you’re doing so, and hope the wait won’t be too long.
Take care,
Lynn -
Dr. Lynn Somerstein
June 28th, 2013 at 7:18 PMGina, it sounds like you’re on the right track.
Take care,
Lynn -
Peter
June 29th, 2013 at 12:30 AMI am easily irritated when I’m worried.Depression would make me irritated to a much greater extent.Looking back would be a good idea but I don’t understand why seeing a physician is suggested.Anybody have a clue why?
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Dr. Lynn Somerstein
June 29th, 2013 at 11:38 AMI suggested checking with a physician because irritation and depression are associated with heart disease, gastro-intestinal symptoms, effects of aging, etc. A general check-up can rule a lot of things out
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Emily
March 23rd, 2017 at 6:53 PMHello, Dr.Lynn in the comment section of this question you said that depression can be associated with heart disease. Lately, when I am under any amount of stress I feel a tightening in my chest around the same location as my heart. For example, there was one time where my father had asked me to pick where I want to eat lunch then i got that tightening feeling and it lasted for a considerate amount of time. I went to my pediatrician and they performed an EKG to see if I had a heart condition however they found nothing out of the ordinary. She asked if I had been stressed recently I responded yes. However, when she asked if my friends had any mental disorders I got very irritated as I felt she was implying that I was being affected by them. Could this be a sign of anxiety? I am a 14 year old High School student.
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Mary
May 23rd, 2017 at 7:55 AMI am tired of ‘see your physician’ being the ultimate answer. My GP couldn’t care less whether I’m depressed, irritable or anxious. She is strictly all biophysical model and couldn’t care less about connections to mood.
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Trixie
June 8th, 2017 at 11:04 PMSome doctors are more empathetic than others when it comes to listening to their problems. Have you considered changing doctors to one that you feel comfortable talking to? Not all doctors are the same.
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Matt
July 11th, 2017 at 1:04 PMI would recommend an OD rather then an MD. I think once you go to one you will see the difference.
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Carson
July 1st, 2013 at 4:41 AMThe one thing that I wouldn’t want to see in a cse like this is for her to go to a family doctor and then have him start making a diagnosis without really knowing too much about mental health to begin with.
I find that far too many of these doctors overreach their bounds and try to get involved in areas where they would be far better off referring the patient to a trained clinician familiar with and comfortable treating all aspects of mental health and wellness.
I think that with the right treatment strategy there is definitely something out there that could help you work through this but not at the hands of someone better served and trained to treat common health complaints, not depression. -
Cindy Ricardo
July 10th, 2013 at 11:46 AMBeing irritable, on edge and easily frustrated can be a sign of many different things as Lynn and others have stated here. Depression is much more than being irritated and beyond labeling or diagnosing yourself (unless you are in danger of hurting yourself in which case being diagnosed is essential)it is helpful to explore what is going on in your life that is causing your unhappiness and irritablity.
It is also that many times we react to what is happening on the outside with judgment towards ourselves and others and the the truth is that judgment keeps us stuck and unable to heal or shift our perspective to one that is more balanced.
Finding a therapist to help you explore your feelings and what is happening in your life is what is most helpful. It is in becoming aware of how we are reacting to life/ourselves that we can begin to shift into a more balanced mindset.
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Lia
September 7th, 2013 at 11:14 AMI´m feeling the same way…. I moved to the Netherlands to live with my partner 8 years ago and I never really felt at home here. It took me so long to get a job here that I decided to go back to school, which I did and got a degree to teach English in Holland. Still, I feel displaced — people here are unfriendly towards foreigners and my boyfriend with hom I had a daughter 6 years ago never wanted to marry me, because he has some money and is afraid that I´ll take it if we get a divorce. He calls me a parasite because I don´t bring money in, but he is weaithy and I do contribute with the cleaning of our home, cooking, ironing and many other things. I´m not a big spender: I have an old cell phone for emergency phone calls, I cut my own hair, I do my nails, we rarely go out together for a movie or anything — So, I feel pretty bad in this situation. I don´t want to raise my daughter as a single mom and I´m alone here. Meanwhile, my mom passed away and I don´t have a lot of friends that i can trully trust.
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Veda
August 24th, 2014 at 7:18 AMI don’t know if you have truly talked to your boyfriend,but he needs to be made aware of how you feel. He is not the only one that is contributing you sacrificed your old life to be with him! On top of that you gave him continuous life by having a daughter for him! He just needs to lighten up. Yes in today’s society it does take two to make it, however can’t help your situation right now.
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Candice
July 27th, 2017 at 6:51 AMLia, I was reading your question when I stopped in the middle of saying that your live in partner calls you a parasite …. Don’t EVER allow a man to speak to you in that manner….. Leave – go back home …
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susan
August 16th, 2017 at 10:48 AMI agree. The moment that I saw that the boyfriend calls her a parasite my first thought was “Get out of the relationship.”. Abuse like that always progresses and you don’t want your little girl growing up thinking that men can speak to woman like that. Leave the country and go home. Even if you don’t have any friends or family there, you say that you are not accepted and unhappy where you are. Go where you will be accepted and happy. It does not seem to be where you are now.
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kenari
March 2nd, 2014 at 2:45 PMLia, I was trying to figure out the reasons why im so irritated with anything when I came across your message. I am a foreigner here in my new place. Married to a citizen here. Ive been here for two years now and I feel so discourage coz I cant find a job. I was a career woman back home very busy but enjoying life and then I came here. I cant find a job, i also went on trainings to make me qualified but to no avail till now. I feel so discriminated…
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Coco
April 10th, 2014 at 2:44 PMI have a boyfriend I am quiet young and everything he does annoys me I don’t know what is wrong even my best friend has been saying I get annoyed easily recently but I always have some stupid excuse for example I’m tired or cold or whatever, I’m so fed up. Please help
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Veda
August 24th, 2014 at 7:11 AMMay be you’re pregnant?
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selam
August 24th, 2014 at 10:46 AMI believe PMS, and other hormon problem are more responsible along side with our upbringing……of course education and therapy are helpful…..I myself are a victime, people will tell u to let go, but it is not as simple as it seems, It ia a brain cancer. Acknowledging it is the first best tackle, and ask the people around u to give u support, while you try different techniques to manage it….Dont bit up urself, this is who u are and find a way to deal or manage it….like gender, yr hait color etc….ur are different…ur brain is wired up differently.. Keep researching…….try to visit nutritionist, physicians, yoga, counselors……Take it seriously, because this feeling will continue to follow and make ur life miserable….Good luck
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Lost
May 28th, 2014 at 1:34 AMI’ve been having a lot of issues since some time..I get very aggressive and irritated on small little things..im a person of principles and can’t stand anything wrong going on..since im a good listener alot of people have become a parasite for me as well..I come from an eastern society where families have alot of say in your life, so yes I feel my life and all my acts are determined by them which annoys me even more..im currently un-married and have alot of social and family pressure on that front but im simply not giving up on marrying just any tom dick n harry until I feel attracted to someone..then my boss at work is hitting on me..I just dont know where im heading or my life is heading..im even studying psychology and as a result Im feeling alot more now..I feel im in deep rite now but I want take control of my life and manage my situation..I do end up crying alot when I feel helpless..I dont know what to do..
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Lynn Somerstein
May 30th, 2014 at 5:04 AMDear Lost-
Thanks for writing–I have the feeling that you may be depressed. Studying psychology is rewarding, but you can learn more in person. Why not make an appointment with a psychotherapist and find out more about yourself. -
cherry p.
June 24th, 2014 at 10:58 PMI don’t understand why it was suggested to see a physician. They are not expert on the brain or psychological matters. If we get advise like this. We should directly go to the doctor rather than ask for a therapist’s help.
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michele
June 18th, 2016 at 11:12 PMthe point of seeing a GP/physician is to rule out anything physical that might be causing you to anger quickly and or often, No point of paying big bucks to see a psychiatrist if it not a psychological issue thats the root of the cause for anger/short fuse… Thats what i got out of the conversation any way.
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martina
July 15th, 2014 at 1:23 AMIm a great believer in alternative solutions anti-depressants are not the answer (more like putting money in the pharmacuticals companies pockets) and yes i have been and still am on tablets but want to come off them…just ordered a book called ‘the mood cure’ by julia ross…it was recommended to me by a nutricionist and after reading it it does make sense….all the best :-)
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Victoria
August 24th, 2014 at 10:00 AMI have been having the same problem for a few weeks now. I was majorly depressed and on Cipralex and discontinued it as it had terrible side-effects and didn’t help my depression much. Ever since I’ve discontinued it I am in such a terrible mood. Irritable all the time, bitchy to everyone and biting everyone’s head off, so frustrated that I literally walk around the house sighing all the time. I’ve been hoping it would just disappear on it’s own but so far it’s still there every second. It’s terrible feeling like this because I find myself to be quite nasty and judgmental and that’s not who I am. Going back on Cipralex isn’t an option due to the side effects I was having and alternative medications haven’t worked for me either. I’ve been having therapy for months but not much help there either as you talk about your feelings and that’s about it. Cognitive a behavioral therapy just doesn’t work for me. I’ve been trying all kinds of things from changing my thinking to more natural medications, taking vitamins, eating as healthy as possible, doing things that usually cheer me up all to no avail. Sort of hopeless right now.
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Ami
July 24th, 2016 at 11:52 PMHoping something will go away on it’s own is never a solution so trying to change your diet by eating more healthily is a good start – perhaps try get some exercise in too if you haven’t done so already? Talking about your feelings in therapy could actually help if you are being honest and open with the therapist. A therapist can’t help if they have very limited insight into your life and many people tend to hold back about things bothering them that they may be ashamed of or embarrassed about but then you cannot expect therapy to help much. Alternatively try a different therapist, you may just not have found the one that is right for you.
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M C
May 8th, 2017 at 9:30 PMMe too
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Sandy
September 14th, 2014 at 9:30 PMim 29 years old and i still live with my parents and my sister. I have two jobs and i dont have a big social life. i dont have a boyfriend either. but i like my solitude. i read a lot of books. my free time are my books and tv. and i dont like to be bothered. but i HATE how easily i can get angry for not reason. i snap at my mom, anything she says makes me mad and my i cant stand my sister. but they haven’t done anything to me. i feel terrible about it afterwards and i never apologize i just pretend like nothing happened. i feel like such a terrible person. i dont know if its a face im going through, i didnt used to be like this. i thought at first it was because i was lonely but people bother me. trying to make idle conversation is annoying. i have to force myself to listen and talk to people. and my job requires me to be percky and cheerfull so i have to swallow it up. i know its me the problem i wish i could stop been a jerk all the time specially with my mom. i dont want be bitter and angry, i dont want to push people away but is soo hard to bring anyone closer to begin with because i dont want too. i just dont know how to be more tolerant. i dont want to hate my mom. i dont know how to fix it.
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Zach
September 18th, 2014 at 9:16 PMDear Sandy, I am writing because your story is so eerily similar to mine lately. I am 29, moved back home a few years ago after my wife left me. I now have a five year old son who lives with me on nights/ weekends, and with his mom on weekdays. My two younger bros in their mid 20s live at home with me too… I have a good full time job, but not enough to really make it well on my oown. It’s also especially nice to have my mom/ family there to help me raise my son. The problem is… Life is so hard for me mentally. I know overall I have a fairly good life and no major problems or health issues… But I’m always sad… Im always mad at people… Especially my Dad for some reason… Everything he does seems to piss me off… And he’s not really a bad guy. I don’t want to be mad/ upset with him…. Everything everyone does irritates me… From co workers being lazy, to the way the lady next to me at pizza hut chews her food, to my brother not flushing the toilet after pissing
… I don’t sleep well… I’m afraid to travel anywhere more than an hour from home… I’m always tired, always sick, something airways hurts or is wrong. I feel like I’m 70 years old most days and I’m not even 30 yet. I tried taking all kinds of anti anxiety/ depression drugs in the past for panic disorder (which I don’t have a panic issue too terrible anymore)… But I just don’t know what to do. I’m sick of feeling like this and don’t have the time/ money to waste taking to therapists… I’ve tried that before too anyway, didn’t do much. Feels too rushed and expensive… They don’t have the answers anyway. Any suggestions or stories anyone? -
Caroline
November 9th, 2014 at 7:52 PMPray the Rosary. I promise you it will work! 🙏 God Bless
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Chhaya
October 7th, 2016 at 11:47 PMHii Sandy & Zach
I feel exactly like you two feel. I live with my parents. Two years back my brother passed away and his wife and son are also living with us. We don’t have any major conflicts in our family, still we have some clashes. I am very friendly and have good understanding with most of the persons in my life still I find it very hard to deal with my parents while they are very simple and caring. I thinks it’s a very common problem. In my situation i have come to this conclusion : Try to do whatever you love and be happy. Stop expecting others to behave as per your wish. Stop expecting too much from self. We all are humans and have our own weakness and strength. -
Lynn Somerstein
September 15th, 2014 at 10:38 AMDear Sandy,
You sound very angry and unhappy, and like you could use a friendly ear, someone who can listen to you and empathize and maybe give you a hand, too. How about consulting with a therapist or a social worker?
Take good care,
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Latiffa B.
September 18th, 2014 at 6:06 PMHi,
I have a concern too.
I was very happy, outgoing, easy to get along and very supportive to others.
People would ask me advices, and all kind of support. I enjoyed being around people I have also worked with people my whole life.
I am 37 now.
I’ve been through a hard relationship for 7 years.
Not knowing every day, whats next surprise he will bring, also abusive verbally and physically.
Mentally I am pretty strong and dealt with it, even though inside it was tearing me a part. I’ve kept my cool.
Time to time, at the end of relationship I was losing and actually fighting back, verbally and physically. Start getting more angry which I never had before.
Then last year, we finally broke up and he got married. But still stalking me.
Then two month ago I lost my dad, he was my best friend and father.
Then I fell in love with a man online, and said he had feelings for me too, everything seemed fine. Then he said he has a fiance and is getting married.
I am also a person that care for my friends and family.
So, now I feel like I am losing.
I get irritated, angry on little things. And I just want to sleep all the time. Even though my life style is very active, I run business and working 12, 14 hours a day.
I do things after work or on the weekends, even though I feel like I don’t want to.
But lately, like last month, I don’t even want to go anywhere, or hear anything.
Negative talks, questions anything stressful, I get blood rush to my head and my heart give me a stabbing pain.
Advice like talking to psychologist, or any therapist I won’t take, because I know all about it. Also, pills I wont do.
I just want to know if this will go away, and what it might be, and if there any natural herbs or medicine that might help.
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Latiffa B.
September 18th, 2014 at 6:59 PM(Just want to add, and correct something.)
Broke up with ex last November.
Father died 3 month ago.
Also, loud noise irritates me, and and anything negative stressful, even about somebody else that I care about, also gives me upset stomach, to where I feel like throwing up, and kinda fainting feeling on top of blood rush to a head and heart pain.
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Irene
September 26th, 2014 at 11:32 AMI hate myself my entire personality has changed, the things I do and say is not me, I sometimes can’t believe it, and ask my self what happen to the gentle and loving person that I used to be, my daughter in law suffers the brunt ofmy short temper, I snap for no reason and I am down right irritable,
I take care of my 43 year old son who was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis five years ago, his speech and walking has been affected by the Ms. Because he can’t support his two children his ex wife stays with us and the two children
My abusive husband of14 years, was an alcoholic and he never stopped verbally and physically abusing me passed away in 2010 and I was diagnosed with breast cancer in January if 2012.
Ever since then I am not the same person I used to be. Can the drugs in chemo change your personality? I need help please -
SL
November 25th, 2014 at 1:20 PMIrene you are a star xxxx
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Lynn Somerstein
September 30th, 2014 at 1:54 PMDear Irene, Latiffa and Zach,
Your are all under deep relentless pressure and need to find healthy ways to blow off steam– you might profit from seeking counselling or a support group. It sounds like you’re doing way too much, and all alone. -
Clarissa
November 7th, 2014 at 1:03 PMIrene and Latiffa
We all have something in common: we’ve all been in abusive relationships. My 9 year relationship contributed to these same feelings that I have of irritability and constant frustration at everyone. I think we should all go see a therapist. I’ve been out of the relationship for 10 years, but the aftereffects are still here. :(
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Justin
November 14th, 2014 at 2:30 PMI’m 15 years old now, from when I started to go to school I was the best student with the highest grades and I was a prodigy in rugby. Everything changed when I was 12 years old. I started to be so aggressive and the smallest of stuff made me snap. I started to love heavy metal and it was the only music I wanted to hear. I started to fight a lot. I would beat up someone if he made a joke with me. The aggressiveness was a benefit for my rugby though. I started to be a rebel, I started smoking cigarettes and marijuanna when I was 13. I was a bad person then when I turned 15 this year I met this amazing girl, she is 17. Sy cares so much for me, she cried her eyes out when she found out about my meth use(starting in this year) I stopped a month ago because I can’t see my girl going through the sadness. But I’m still 100% aggressive and irritable. Sometimes I’m so rude to my girl she starts to cry and it continues for hours. Well I’m not that bad anymore but I still give her a hard time. I’m always neat and clean so I know I don’t have borderline personality disorder. I just wanna know if its some kind of personality disorder or what? Both my parents are nice and calm. Sometimes being aggressive gives me a feeling of pleasure , is that a sign of a psycho?
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Monique
November 14th, 2014 at 7:02 PMI am writing these words because I am not sure what my problem is or exactly a diagnosis.
I am 40 year old divorced woman, out of an abusive relationship with an alcoholic.
When I was in that relationship I was meek and subdued. Things changed when I got out of it and started dating other men.
It was not so bad when I dated for a while, although I started drinking out of loneliness (being out of 15 -year old marriage) then I met Paul…..
When I entered this relationship i swear I think I acquired personality disorder or a disorder of some kind.
Paul has been nothing but nice, caring, considerate man. He has his faults , too. He cares for his older daughter more than anything and puts her in front of me. He also still texts and calls his ex-wife. I caught him , too , doing some “online stuff”. Yet, I forgave him for being gentle and kind to me. And of course I fell in love with him beyond understanding.
In the process of me falling in love with him passionately, I became an unbelievable fiend. When I have some wine, I am very sarcastic to him, bring up his ties to his ex and other women in a very blunt and an emotional manner. I cry, i curse, I write him very intense poetry with questions about us he refuses to answer.
How he told me to move out of his place, yet he wants to see me on weekends.
What is wrong with me? I don’t want to ruin things,my life, and others any more. I really dont. Please give me your honest opinions. -
Lynn Somerstein
November 19th, 2014 at 5:57 AMDear Monique,
You were in a long term relationship with an abusive alcoholic, left him, but are carrying over that experience into your present relationship and have become an “unbelievable fiend,” a reenactment of abuse where you are the abuser. This happens sometimes, and I advise you to seek therapy to help you out of this process so you can lead the life you want and deserve.
Take care and good luck, and let me know how things go,
Lynn -
katlyn
November 23rd, 2014 at 7:00 PMI’m 15 years old and I also have a lot of anger. I use to be so kind and thoughtful when I was younger. My parents got divorced about 2 years ago but I’m not sure if that’s the reason I’ve changed. I hate being angry but I feel better being angry. That might be weird. I currently have a boyfriend and I take a lot of my anger out on him. He is very emotion and I upset him constantly. I don’t like upsetting him but it also makes me feel better. I have a lot of family problems and I know that’s a part of it but I’ve also been depressed on and off. I was severely depressed probably about a year ago but fortunately I am better now. The only problem is I’m never happy. I feel like something is holding me back from happiness. I use to be constantly happy. I really want to be that way again. I keep telling myself it’s because I’m 15 and I’ll grow out of it but I honestly have no clue what my problem is. My parents are a mess and my siblings both have anger issues but I have always been nice and happy to literally everyone. I just have seemed to lost that part of me and I still want to be nnice I just can’t be anymore. I’m mean to my mom and my boyfriend constantly. My dad use to be really abusive towards my mom and I just hope I don’t end up like him. My 13 year old brother also is very angry a lot but mines much worse. I know I have problems controlling my anger when I get really mad but I don’t think that’s what this is. I’m not very social but I never have been. Nothing has really changed in my life lately. My dad and me have never had a stable relationship and my mom is constantly with her soon to be husband. I’m usually alone and I want to talk to my boyfriend at bout everything but every time I try I just end up making him cry. I hate being like this and I really love being nice all the time. I just feel overwhelmed with hatred and I have been questioning maybe it is the birth control I’m on. The hate started in around April last year and I started taking this b-yaz birth control last January. That could be messing me possibly but I just want my old self back.
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The GoodTherapy.org Team
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Naomi
November 28th, 2014 at 12:54 PMDear, Katlyn
I have problems that relates to some of yours. Ever since I was 15 years old in freshmen year, things changed slowly negatively with my mom. I’m now 17 and I somehow feel like her housekeeper as my part time job with no pay and I want an actual job away from home. I feel insecure from hanging out with my friends all because my mom controlls my life with everything. Since I cannot get enough with her commands and strictness, I started to disobey her so I could earn my own freedom. Feels like my life is blocking my happiness from me and I used to be a happy person. But now I don’t like my life anymore. Either I want everything the way it used to be or just past on from my teen years. I constantly have to watch my siblings 4 and 5 years old and I easily get annoyed and angry with them. I’m afraid someday I’ll really hit them if my keeps up with me babysitting them and I don’t want that to risk my life. I’m used to getting angry at them and I don’t know why. I’m very curious when I’m calm. I have no clue if it was because my parents’ divorce or my mom’s ex fiance have influenced me for the past 4 years of his behavior towards my mom. Her physic said that about 5 years or so, I’ll be happy when my parents get back together and said that my dad is secretly feeling lost with his wife and stepdaughters, even though he’s forgetting about me. I guess my step mom is just being used so my dad is not lonely. My parents think my life is normal when I feel down and sad in the inside. I’m not very social but kinda am. I’m nice to everybody else but not my mom. When this will ever pass on?
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Lynn Somerstein
November 29th, 2014 at 12:33 PMNaomi, this will pass on,eventually, but it will pass on faster if you have some help. Why not speak to a therapist or a guidance counselor? Having someone on your side may be just enough to give you more strength.
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nate
December 1st, 2014 at 5:41 PMI don’t know if it’s still relavent or not but I feel the same way.. pissy.. easily angered.
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hollidae
December 29th, 2014 at 8:23 PMGood to know we’re all on the same page! We’re not alone.. tons of us are going through SOME sort of depression..
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Nicole
December 14th, 2014 at 12:16 PMhey I think im in a depression mode. I never been depressed before. I dont know why It started 2 week ago and I get irrated and sad and moody latley. I dont understand why? I just got married 5 month ago for the first time. Move a away from home and into the middle of nowhere. And I have a stepson. My job isnt getting enough hours money wise.I feel like no matter what inside I just want to crawl up in a ball and never wake up. I just dont understand why Im feeling this way.
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Lynn Somerstein
December 15th, 2014 at 8:39 AMHI Nicole,
You’re in the middle of big changes and adjustments– new marriage, new home, new location, new stepson, and your job is unsatisfying. You have plenty of reasons to feel depressed. Why not speak to a counselor and see if that helps?
Take care, and let me know how it’s going,
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prakash
June 13th, 2017 at 5:55 AMI madam , I too have killing depression problems.
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alex
December 19th, 2014 at 5:12 PMI snap alot. My missus takes the brunt of it but anyone walking past at the wrong time is in danger from me. I live in a rough neighbourhood and standing up for yourself is necessary however wanting to hospitalise someone for no perticular reason isn’t. My anger scares me. Anyone with advice let me know. Counciling is not an option I hate 1 on 1 convos and am more likely to hit a stranger than talk to em.
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Lynn Somerstein
December 25th, 2014 at 6:44 PMDear Alex,
Snapping a lot is dangerous for yourself too, as well as to others. I hear that you’re scared– I think you should visit a doctor who can help find out what is causing you to snap, and maybe find a way to help you feel less angry.
Let me know how this works,
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hollidae
December 29th, 2014 at 8:22 PMSeems were not alone…
I have these same problems and I feel sad because I get so easily irritated and just yell.. ugh :( what is wrong with me? I read books to help, I try to exersize. .. I try to eat healthy and take vitamins and try breathing tactics. Isn’t helping.. could I be bipolar? Or depressed?? I have anxiety…I know that -
Lynn Somerstein
December 30th, 2014 at 5:55 AMHi hollidae,
You have plenty of company with these kinds of feelings, and I see you are dealing with them. Good. Exercise, reading self help books and a healthy life style all help; you might also like to talk to a therapist who could back you up and give you a hand too.
Have a shiny New Year,
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Lucy
January 3rd, 2015 at 2:36 PMI’m 24 and writing because I’m at my wits end. I get agitated so easily but I can mask it around most people – as my boyfriend and I live together he feels the brunt of mood swings. I had the implant for years and had it taken out to see if this helped which it clearly hasn’t. I’m always on edge, sometimes he only has to say one thing to me and I just snap – it’s like I can’t stop the words before they come out of my mouth! It’s wearing him down and i feel terrible – I want to see if anybody has any suggestions before I go to the doctors. It’s definitely worse when I don’t eat well but I’ve been like this for as long as I can remember. Help!
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elizabeth
January 3rd, 2015 at 11:51 PMhey im seeing alot of things on here i can relate to. does anybody have any idea what these symptoms are? im a 35 yr old mother with 5 kids and a husband. my kids are great but lately i have been getting so crazy for a while and i notice its getting worse and worse. i dont feel im depressed but i get up get ready do things throughout the day i dont feel like woes me my lifes so bad. im actually very fortunate great husband n great kids. but i have been flying off the handle of course i yell and dole out xtra chores when kids dont listen. but im getting to the point where im screaming more to get my kids to do things. im starting to get physical grabbing my kids and kicking their butts yelling/screaming grabbing kitchen chairs and pounding them against the floor and then after all that going into my bedroom and crying for the way iv just acted to my kids and in front of the smaller ones. i dunno wats going on with me am i overwhelmed? depressed? do i have some obsessive compulsive disorder. i dunno nor does my husband. all my dr wants to do is load me up with drugs and i dont really believe in taking drugs id rather like to know wats going on with me and deal with it in a more natural way. anybody have any ideas would be great. thanks
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anne
January 14th, 2015 at 7:12 PMElizabeth, I can really relate to your story. I was always a pretty balanced and even-tempered person. Yes, I’d get grumpy when I was tired or stressed out, but after sleep and a bit of relaxation, I’d go right back to my cheerful self. A few years ago (late thirty’s), I became increasingly irritable, annoyed and had bouts of irrational and uncontrollable angry fits, like you describrd. And i was constipated, which didnt help. Sorry if that’s tmi! Not fun, and I just wanted my old self back. I suggest you check out the book, the mood cure. Google ‘the mood cure questionnaire’ before you buy the book to see if it would be helpful for you. I found i related to a serotonin deficiency. The book basically suggests that mood disorders and depression are caused by body and brain chemistry malfunction and recommends different ways to restore your individual chemistry. If nothing else, this book got me to LISTEN to my body. A disclaimer that the book suggests a billion supplements which i followed rather loosely. Its a pretty complicated regamin. After reading the book, i decided to start taking a quality multi vitamin (prob good for overall health, right?), fish oil supplement (a known mood-booster) and a calcium/magnesium supplement (which helps with constipation). I was already taking vitamin d which my doctor recommended based on deficiency found from blood tests. I did not take the specific brand of vitamins/suppliments suggested in the book, but I did purchase rather expensive multi-vitamins. I just wanted to get better:). I also temporarily took tryptophan 2x a day which is recommended in the book for serotonin deficiency (the book explains why). I started with one, as the book suggests, but needed to move up to two. I felt an easing of my anger almost immediately (2-3 days, I think). After 2 months, i started redcuing the tryptophan until i stopped taking it at about 2 1/2 months after starting. I felt almost (90%) back to my normal self by then. Which was awesome! In retrospect, this all started during a stressful time in my life. I’d just had my fourth child and wasn’t getting enough sleep. My husband had started a new job and was working late. I think I just got out of whack chemically and hormonally and couldnt get back to myself. Currently, I take the multi, calcium/magnisum, fish oil, vitamin d. When I’m feeling stressed out, I add a bcomplex in the morning, which seems to give me some energy if I slept poorly. I’ve also learned a few things about myself that will put me in a tailspin: I can’t be sleep deprived for more than two days…. And I have to, ummm – stay regular. Sorry, tmi again! Apparently, serotonin is produced in the gut. Or, so I’ve read. Anyway, definately a relationship there for me. Its been about a year and I don’t have all my answers yet… For example, i’ve recently been experimenting with taking Gaba at night when worry is keeping me awake, because I know lack of sleep is a bad thing for me. Also, spending a little time on a sunny day outside or in a sunny room helps me sleep better. Still, my outlook on life is 500x better than a year ago. And I’m a much better mother and wife. My kids have even said, ‘mom, you arent so grumpy anymore’.
My most important suggestion to you is to keep a journal of your mood and anything you think is relavent – diet, sleep, activity (for me, sunlight, sleep and bms!). This is especially important if you start taking supplements and vitamins because you WILL forget how your felt each day.
Good luck to you Elizabeth!
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elizabeth
January 4th, 2015 at 12:00 AMoh also forgot to mention tried counseling and they never really told me what my symptoms were just more like b.s.ing and talking about stupid everyday crap. then just annoyed me more and angered me i was paying 75.00 for no results the 4x i went i cud of talked about the same stuff with my girlfriends for free. anyway sorry ranting again and getting agitated and angry again….lol thanks
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Christina
January 4th, 2015 at 8:13 AMHi,
I feel like I’m losing my mind. I get angry at a drop of a hat. I want to just run down the screaming and break things. My home situation has changed when my husband decided without me to let his troubled soon move in full time. We have a 7 year old son together and I felt this was a bad idea but had no say. I feel hatred toward my step son and husband right now. I can’t shake how I feel. I thought I had anxity bit those meds do nothing. I dint know what to do. I feel like a failure as a mother and wife. -
lynn
January 30th, 2015 at 11:20 AMI have the same situation
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Lynn Somerstein
January 4th, 2015 at 2:10 PMAnger and anxiety problems are extra hard to manage; it takes time. If you choice is therapy, please make sure you give it enough time and energy. If your choice is medication, that takes time time too. Some people find a combination of therapy and medication works very well. Just remember, these problems are real and really hard to deal with. Give it your all. Don’t give up.
Take care,
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Klaus
November 22nd, 2016 at 1:45 PMI get very annoyed at my older brother but then again I just had a little girl 2 months ago. Me and my girlfriend are really close and I don’t know what to do.
Please help me
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chelsea
January 5th, 2015 at 6:54 AMHelp
I always get angry when its not my way and I upset my family they think I have a bad attitude to life I’ve lost my friends and I’m gonna lose my boyfriend because I get angry at him if he does the slightest thing he says I make everyone depressed because I’m depressed and that I don’t like anyone being happy and that IM gonna be alone if I don’t change the way I am and then I start crying because I feel so guilty help me what is wrong with me -
Help
January 5th, 2015 at 7:46 AMHelp, at wits end to tame an anger that’s raging all the times. I get upset and irritated at the slightest provocation, with people that I hardly knew and meet on a daily basis. There is an ongoing mean streaks in me and lashes out frequently, at top it off by being very sarcastic]c and judgmental.
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D
January 6th, 2015 at 7:12 AMFolks, we’re all on the same page here it seems, but there’s very few proposals towards real answers/solutions. Here are my thoughts, and I hope they resonate somewhere somehow and perhaps generate talk that extends beyond venting.
Let’s stop hating ourselves. For being heavier than we would like, for being busier than we’d like, for being more tired and worn out than we’d like, for being less generous than we can afford, for not being as successful as quickly as we’d like…
We are unique. For whatever reason, we are so sharp to observe every little flaw in anything around us, we’re so quick to observe short-comings. Mostly, we are fortunate to be in the company of someone that creates a tiny ‘safe-zone’. This zone we use to express all of our fears, worries, concerns, frustrations, anger much as everyone else – except the manner is much more direct and intense. The ‘brunt’ our loved ones experience of our venting is more abrasive than others.We want to avoid this. We want to stop this.
We’re loving, caring, sensitive, intelligent, hard working, insightful, passionate, funny, attractive, energetic, ambitious… that’s why we’re here right now having such a self-critical conscious discussion. So lets first and foremost refresh our awareness of those qualities.
Secondly, I give you permission. I give you permission to not feel like the whole world is your responsibility. All these traits we possess give us almost super powers… sight, hearing, touch, heart. Not everyone has the abilities I listed… they are completely oblivious to all the things we can see, through no fault of their own. They are not deficient or lacking… we are gifted. It is a gift to be so empathetic. We take it for granted, because there has never been any other way than to be thoughtful and kind, and considerate to your neighbors. It’s natural for us to assume this role as the good Samaritan, the selfless individual who gives and never asks.
We are a very special group, that will only find solace and comfort amongst ourselves. Those outside this group will always leave us wanting, or disappointed. Don’t misunderstand this as a hopeless cause. I’m letting you all know this, because you need to be told it to be aware of it in the first place.
Once you appreciate just how special you are, you will stop all this ridiculous talk about how bad you are.Your actions, of frustration – the yelling and screaming, the nit-picking, mood swings, and grumpy disposition all the time are the cause of something incredibly simple.
You’re tired. You’re overwhelmed. You’re burnt out. You need a break.
I give you permission to not beat yourself up. It’s ok to put yourself first, your health.
Look after your health.
Eat well – cut out the sugar, comfort, and processed foods we love that give us that instant gratification every time we need them without fail.
Sleep well – you are just as human as everyone else, stop trying to do too much, for too many people, too much of the time.That’s it. I promise you. Be kinder to yourself, in your thoughts and actions – and you will feel better. People around will feed off your brightness, and that’ll make you feel even better. It’s called a positive loop.
See you when you come around.
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Bec
May 18th, 2015 at 3:11 PMThank you so much D
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Loser
January 17th, 2015 at 6:44 AMI read these posts and it’s me. I remember feeling this way my entire life.. i used to write poetry about how sad I was and always felt like I should end it with a line about it will get better one day. well I I’m 44 years old and it’s worse.
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Lynn Somerstein
January 20th, 2015 at 12:12 PMDear L-
Writing poetry can help, but a consultation with a mental health worker and a physician may help even more. WHy not try it?
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Loser
January 28th, 2015 at 8:24 PMI’ve tried therapy but no medicine can change the fact that I have been a hated loser by everyone who has ever known me my entire life. No talking will change that I have been a failure at everything I have ever tried. My family hates me and has cut me off. I am a failure in my career. A failure in my relationships and the best I can do for friends is a couple of guys who can tolerate my once every few months. I have to pretend I like being the annoying guy. I try so hard to figure out how not to be so hated. I try so hard to make people like me. I try so hard to do something well. I am so tired of being so hated. I am so tired of being jealous of characters in tv and movies for their pretend life I so desperately want. I am just so damn tired.
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Amomma
March 28th, 2015 at 4:32 AMDearest (not a)-Loser
If you are being honest here, it’s time to take a long, hard look in the mirror. We, as humans, are all responsible in some way, for everything that happens to us in our lives beyond the age of 12 years old. Sometimes it’s a direct connection and sometimes it’s an indirect connection. You say that people have hated you your whole life. It’s more likely they hate your actions, something about your looks, your opinions or etc. Normally I would say other people hating on you is more about themselves than you, but if this is something you’ve been dealing with your entire life, it has something to do with your actions being perceived as attacks on other people. If you aren’t trying to upset people then it is your responsibility to make sure people understand you and the point you’re trying to make. Consider the most common reasons people get upset with you. Are you insulting people? Are you being obnoxious? Do you respect people’s personal bubbles? Do you put other people’s needs above your own? Are you unreliable as a friend, colleague, or boyfriend? It’s not always about you in this world but if everyone is getting angry with you for the same reasons, you might want to consider trying to change. If none of this is making sense to you, you might go to the doctor and be tested for high functioning autism or Aspergers (sp?) syndrome. Just a thought. Above all keep in mind you don’t have to be a loser. It’s up to you to change your path. -
Martha
April 1st, 2015 at 9:16 PMDear Amomma, I think your comment is practical, thoughtful and insightful. I think it shows you are aware and observant of how humans interact within the brief time we are given to live our lives on earth. Well said and, I believe, kindly meant.
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Amomma
March 28th, 2015 at 4:37 AMOne more point I forgot to make…if you find that people are always mean to you or angry with you, it could be because you attract people like that to you. Try smiling at everyone you meet and really feel the smile. It releases a chemical in our bodies which makes us feel happier almost instantly. And when you’re smiling you tend to attract other happy people. Surrounding yourself with happy people can go along way in making you a happier person. I truly and sincerely hope your life turns around sir. No one deserves to live their life in sadness, pain, anger or the loneliness. Blessings to you.
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m
January 31st, 2015 at 5:16 PMI was lead here through google because I am EXACTLY the same as you! I have put it down to my age (over 40) I simply have no time for idiots in my life anymore. If I do not relate well to a person (have nothing in common with them and do not understand them) then I have absolutely no time what so ever for them! I do not think that you or I need to seek medical attention or therapy I think life has taught us one thing to live by. “Life is too short to waste time with inconsequential people”. Do not beleive the hype that you have depression, this is just your personality and nothing to be ashamed of!
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lynn
January 31st, 2015 at 7:06 PMMy thing is I just don’t want to hurt my family but yet I don’t know how. I don’t know how to hold my tongue or my anger. I feel like I already told them over and over and that they should know me by now just as I know what and how they want things done their way. I feel like if I’m working hard and taking care of all my family why can’t they show appreciation and clean after themselves or look out for each other just as I taught each of them and do it for them. I can’t stand selfish people and have no tolerance for them. Although sometimes I wish I was more like that and less considerate or compassion. Its a burden to me. I’m more bitter each passing year where I think to myself ..I should just disappear instead of living wasting my life being bitter and angry all the time.
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Lynn Somerstein
February 1st, 2015 at 4:30 PMI know how it feels to be angry and frustrated with people. I try to remember that we humans “are all more alike than different.” That’s a tall order, and starts with feeling compassion for oneself. And then remembering it over and over, and spreading it around, paying it forward. Good luck to you. It’s hard work, but it pays off to value your life and your family’s life too.
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Marisol
February 3rd, 2015 at 4:14 PMwell, my 50th birthday is this friday. I cannot believe it, I have been unhappy almost my entire life, now its even worse struggling with insomnia and menopause. Very negative, angry, alone, apathetic & afraid I will never feel any better. Can’t work anymore, besides being exhausted, work made me miserable, don’t know what I am going to do. Tried supplements, herbs, vitamins, etc. Been on antidepressants & antianxiety meds that make me feel worse. I bought the Mood Cure last week, tried Tryptophan, it made me sick and bloated with a pain in the side of my head! Why do these things work for others, but nothing works for me? I Do Not Have Insurance or Money for Therapy! So to keep recommending therapy is fruitless when you need to have high quality insurance or money to pay for it.
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Loser
February 4th, 2015 at 4:50 AMTherapy is great for a person who had a trauma to help them get back on the path. I was never on the path. ..it’s not a frame of mind…something about me makes everyone around me hate me..always has always will….therapy can’t help that any more than telling a hungry child that someone else has less food will make them full… I’ve tried to believe that things could get better but time and experience have proven that’s a lie.
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Who cares
June 28th, 2015 at 1:21 PMDo u have all limbs? I hope so and you should be thankful for that and another day of life….get out and travel, smell the fresh air, walk around the park when u feel dwn get a hobby MAKE friends….just know theres people out there having a real struggle like cancer or something uncurable or a husband beating them etc. Even though theres an answer for that but its hard bn there done that!!! 😕 Sometimes I feel like I hate my life because of so many things and I get angry like I never have before and don’t understand why my blood boils with little things but I try and keep it in and breath because my husband would just make it worse and make me feel so much worse if he realizes that I am so angry over REALLY nothing….so My blood boils for a bit thn I start putting my mind on something else or leave and take a short drive and then im over it….but really start thinking about how much worse I could have it…my mother in law got sick a couple months ago and so many things started happening to her and last wk they had to amputate one of her legs 😔 but guess what she was always complaining abt life and NOW shes realizing how much she should appreciate life and I hope she continues that attitude ….just letting everyone know it could be worse….GOD BLESS EVERYONE…I know ths is old posts but felt like I had to say something.I hope everyones well! More positive thinking for all of us! (Me2)
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Lynn Somerstein
February 4th, 2015 at 4:43 PMDear Marisol,
You are trying hard and not getting much for you efforts, that’s for sure. You do need help, and there are resources for low cost therapy at schools and at institutes where people learn therapy. Hard to find, yes, but possible.
Menopause can be tough, I know, but take it from me, it will get better with time.Take care and good luck,
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Lynn Somerstein
February 4th, 2015 at 4:44 PMDear Loser,
Therapy is great for a person who had a trauma, as you say, and I agree, but it might help you too.
Take care,
Lynn -
Sarah
February 23rd, 2015 at 11:22 PMI’ve always been ‘that’ person who couldn’t stand to ‘wait their turn’ in line; who couldn’t wait to get what they needed as soon as possible; I’be always been that way. And it keeps getting worse. Idk. I meant for that to be inspiring but it went nowhere tbh
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unidentifieduser
February 24th, 2015 at 11:06 PMHey I use to be just like you but I outgrew it. I even say hello to the people that use to Bully me. I know it’s harder around that age. My father was real strict so I got picked on for being quiet like you. What is your talent in? You could probably get people to like you like that and be careful everyone that says hi to you is not your friend. Everyone has some thing special about them. Don’t let that girl ruin your life. Why she is at home most likely enjoying hers. You could probably meet some cool friends you can trust. I use to want to be popular to but people with alot of friends go through things like it’s always someone fake in those grpups find you a few small close friend think about those girls who don’t think it’s funny when you’re getting picked on and the ones that don’t pick on you. I met a few great friends and my best friends through middle school and high school and we keep each others secrets until this day and build each other up. When one of us is falling. It’s not as bad as it seems. You are unique and beautiful because of the way that. God made you. Everyone gets picked on the people that are picking on you are insecure so they are picking on you to be cool because as soon as they don’t. They will get picked on that is still no excuse though. My diary use to help me you can try writing in that or your journal. Everyone in this world is judged by people in a good and bad way. The people picking on you. They have gotten picked on too. Remember someone loves you and thinks of you in a better way than they do. God your mom etc some people on the I
comments I love you too because you are my little sister through God I hope I could help. live simple and enjoy life. Don’t let that ruin your young years because it’s some people in there that would be your friend. make sure you observe people first don’t be friends with that girl or people that pick on you or laugh at the people that pick on you jokes. Try this promise yourself you will say hi to 1 person and start a conversation. You could say something like nice jacket etc. or discuss stuff teens discuss like prom, how cool your favorite teacher is. Favorite celebrity, favorite movie, Favorite TV show, It’s been so long since I was a teen even though I was getting bullied U miss my teen years. It’s when you create who you are becoming that’s high school but years will fly by most of the people picking on you. You will not see again after middle school and high school think about it like this. I have to get out of this she’ll so I can get a job and earn my own money. When I get older. Or you could escape by going into lala land day dreaming that worked for me to keep your head up!!! -
unidentifieduser
February 24th, 2015 at 11:08 PMSorry my phone meant you will miss your teen years
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unidentifieduser
February 24th, 2015 at 11:10 PMExcuse all the typos it’s seriously this phone I hope you can understand what I meant with the typos!
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Ddad
February 25th, 2015 at 8:04 AMI know what it is like. Depressed. Isolated and lonely. I’d like to die but the fear of dying depresses me further.
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Michelle
April 29th, 2015 at 6:31 PMDdad, I hope you are feeling better. If you want to talk, feel free.
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Dead
May 3rd, 2015 at 2:54 PMHi Michelle
Things got better for awhile but as usual I’m right back to where I started.
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Mike
March 17th, 2015 at 5:54 AM2 words. Adderall. 😊 anti depressants and anxiety meds make you “ok” with being a “loser” and those types of meds make you satisfied with your current situation. Objectively though your abilities or performance in social settings or at work might not change much. I like adderall because I take life “by the horns” and change the shit I don’t like.
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Scribz n
April 20th, 2015 at 6:50 AMAdderrall is a drug that should be illegal it is even more potent and definitely stronger that cocaine. As well it is more damaging.
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Loser
March 18th, 2015 at 5:02 PMAlone in a Crowd
Each man walks as if though alone
Knows of pain, feeling nothing
Dreams of a tomorrow never to come
Oblivious to the passing hourWhat then is one to do?
Fight?
With whom? For we ourselves are the enemy
Cry out then? STOP!!!!
But who will pause to listen?So we continue on our chosen paths
and pretend to see no pain than our own.
We seek solace in this forced ignorance
Until the world begins to fade around us
and we truly walk alone.Another soul has died….and no one cares.
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Paula
April 23rd, 2015 at 5:49 PMWow, that was beautiful Loser, do you write that or was it by someone else ? I would love to use that poem, with permission of course.
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loser
April 24th, 2015 at 3:11 AMThat’s all me.. as Freud said.. “an understanding of the rules of human behavior does not excuse you from them”. I have been accumulating my poems for many years. Thank you. I’m glad you liked it.
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Kentuckie robert
January 27th, 2016 at 7:42 AMFight against evil fight for whats right satan is a snake and a devil he tries to twist us and stomp us but we dont stop jesus and his father is god they give us strength of 50,000 men to overcome the pain these suckaz try to put us through
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nikki
April 1st, 2015 at 11:38 AMI need help.. I’ve struggled my whole life with the irritability and anxiety.. lately its REALLY bad… I have two boys aged 2 and 1 and I feel like all I do is yell.. I want to be normal n play n be silly with my children.. but I can’t bc I’m worried about them getting hurt. Its so bad if they’re on my couch and stand up I start having a mini panic attack. I yell and burst into tears all the time. Its overwehlming irrational and exhausting. Every little thing sets me off anymore and I feel like I’m losing control again :( I don’t wanna live every day feeling like this anymore
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Michelle
April 29th, 2015 at 6:25 PMNikki, I feel your pain. When my oldest was younger, around 2, I found myself constantly yelling. I am sure you are getting it double with two kids. So my first advice is step back, breathe and say to yourself, the situation is not bad. You’re a good mom. You just are frustrated. That’s ok. Next, when the babies do something that you find yourself wanting to yell, ask yourself if it’s a serious situation? Are they about to hurt themselves or someone else? Then breathe. Then decide what is an appropriate reaction to the situation. For example, you find them with Sharpies and your walls are now black along with the carpet, their hands, clothes and well, everything. You’re going to flip at first. They probably just ruined quite a bit. But instead of yelling, just stop, and laugh. Force it if you have to. Think about how funny the story will be to tell when they are teenagers and their friends are over. Then take away the markers, tell them that their art is appreciated on paper and buy some Magic Erasers. Oh, and at least it’s not poop.
The next piece of advice, have girlfriends that you can hang out with and leave the little ones with when things get too much. You need a break and adult time.
Third advice, if you are still feeling irritable, talk to your doctor. Might be more than just two kids that are angels when they sleep.
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Nikki
June 9th, 2015 at 7:51 PMTurned out to be more than the kids…I ended up going to my dr.. I’ve been diagnosed with depression before..he sent me to see a therapist and I ended uo gettinv diagnosed with bipolar II.. been on meds for about two months now..said I’ve probably been like this most of my life and never got diagnosed…I feel so much better :)
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Wesley
May 8th, 2015 at 3:34 PM.. hmm .. a lot of this . i like my solitude, and i have a small social group and blah .. isolation or self decided or self created isolation is possibly a major part of the problem . as because we cut off what we don’t want to deal with, that the next closest thing, becomes something to have to deal with .. being the small social group or close family .. it also assists with making sure that we have less experience with interacting with .. nonsensey people .. so any nonsense that turns up becomes something to have to deal with, rather than water off a ducks back stuff to just brush off easily .. maybe even . like . over protecting ones little bubble of fake peace ..
also something along the line of . because we’re always in control of our own little bubble, things usually go our way within that bubble. when things dont go our way, we’ve spoilt ourselves with always having our own way, that we dont cope decently well with those pooey experiences outside our bubble environment, or we might be taking it so personally that nonsensey stuffs trying to intrude our peaceful bubble ..
duno . just noticing and thoughts .. am slightly same, else i wouldnt have looked this up and be here and stuff :P .. bleh ..
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Jo
July 1st, 2015 at 9:45 AMYes. This. You have expressed this so well!
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Dr. Lynn Somerstein
May 8th, 2015 at 5:42 PMthanks for noticing, thinking, writing. . .
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SIYANDA
May 17th, 2015 at 12:10 PMHI
PLEASE HELP ME BEFORE I LOOSE PEOPLE I LOVE.RECENTLY AM MOSTLY IRRITATED AND GET ANGRY EASILY OVER SMALL THINGS,AN I TAKE MY FEELINGS ON PPL I LOVE AND IT HURTS THEM AS MUCH AS IT HURTS ME AFTERWARDS,IV NEVER BEEN LIKE THIS BEFORE BUT I DNT KNOW IF AM WRONG BUT I THINK THIS IS THE UNCONCIOUS FEELINGS AND PAIN FROM MY PAST(I THINK) AND AM ONLY FEELING THEM NOW UNAWARE BUT BY SAYING THAT AM NOT DIAGNOSING MY SELF I REALY REALY NEED UR HELP PLEASE
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Lynn Somerstein
May 18th, 2015 at 11:29 AMDear Siyanda,
You sound like you’re in great pain.I advise you to seek counselling as soon as you can, so you can find out what is the cause of these feelings and what might help you deal with them.
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Amber
June 2nd, 2015 at 9:52 AMHi.im constantly depressed over everything and it’s like anyone I see I feel like I hate them or they’re judging me. I’m always over thinking or being paranoid, im always anxious no matter how “normal” I try to be I know I’m anxious. I always think my boyfriend has probably cheated with me,or is going to leave me before we get married or leave me at the registry office. He gets annoyed with me because sometimes I don’t ask him for money when I say I haven’t got any money and say I haven’t ate and i ask my mum he gets annoyed,well I say annoyed because of my depression,I think he’s getting annoyed with me, and he said why don’t you ask me for money, is it because you don’t love me? And that question angered me so much because I feel like my depression and trust issues is going to take over for good and then he’ll get fed up and leave like my so called friends did. I have tried to get help but am not aloud medication because I am 17. I was bullied badly and feel like I shouldn’t have a boyfriend, because I’m always having thoughts of he’s probably cheating, he’s probably lied to me a lot about not having ever drank or done drugs, I can’t even trust anyone because of the way I have been treated and I don’t want to lose him or start accusing him of stuff he probably hasn’t done. .I love him loads but sometimes I think he doesn’t see it , and we’re getting married just in three months time and I’m worried about everything because of my mum and my family, they don’t like him because he’s not English, they make me feel more worried than ever because they always say foreign people never last, they lie and they forever keep secrets from you..I don’t believe this but then my depression makes up stories and scenarios so then ill start getting stressed out. ..
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wesley
June 7th, 2015 at 1:42 PMwhats the bully part about ? . as u seem to imply it affecting ur perception n feelingz of life stuf .. note . consider . how we are affects how others may b too . when we show how we dont want to accept sumin from others . sometimes its a hurtful behaviour at others. maybe pause n breathe befire reacting or giving a final answer reaction behaviour .. or sumin?
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Rachell
June 9th, 2015 at 12:42 AMI guess I am a bully, since I tried to get along with girls. They are so spoiled by their father. He does everything for them. But they still bring dogs in peeling pooping and don’t clean up. I can’t live like that. He tells them about it. Cry and clean that day only. I don’t want say any thing else.
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Kentuckie robert
January 27th, 2016 at 7:25 AMDont listen to them maybe they are jealous cuz they will never have a man like yours that wants to provide for you!!!
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Lynn Somerstein
June 2nd, 2015 at 5:06 PMAmber, is you’re old enough to think about getting married then I wonder why you’re not old enough to take medication, if in fact you do need.
Clearly you are in pain. I think your best bet is to be in therapy and work on these issues so you can get some clarity and peace.
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Rachell
June 9th, 2015 at 12:33 AMI am on meds for these outbursts. .still angry especially with my boyfriend. He won’t commit till his daughter leave home. 19 and 33 years old. I’m 58, look like 40. So I was told.
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Joelle
June 5th, 2015 at 5:30 PMHello.. I really need help, I get irritated over everything… I just feel sad like no one really likes me not even my family… I just don’t know anymore
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wesley
June 7th, 2015 at 1:43 PMdo u notice if u do thingz that or to upset others around u? .. do u listen properly and actively listen when around ur fam?
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Rachell
June 9th, 2015 at 12:29 AMYes I do,after the damage. Feeling bad and sometimes apologize. I have no control at times. Some is said that I think I need to defend myself.
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Brianna
June 9th, 2015 at 2:03 PMI have the same problem I really don’t know we’re it comes from but it started a few month ago. I can be so happy one second and the next I don’t want to be around anyone. I just need to know is there something wrong with.
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Lynn Somerstein
June 6th, 2015 at 12:43 PMHi Joelle,
I’m sorry to hear you feel so alone. YOu might find it helpful to talk this over with a counselor and see if that helps.
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Rachell
June 9th, 2015 at 12:56 AMSorry u feel alone..I feel alone too. I shouldn’t I have my God. I have family members who are all married. Except me asked. But was left because of my outbursts or some thing. I get blackouts and don’t recall what I did. That’s shy I’m on meds plus other emotional problems.
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Rachell
June 9th, 2015 at 12:24 AMI feel exactly the same. I was so angry tonight, I felt like kicking, throwing the vs around. I didn’t. I would had to replace things, which I don’t hAve funds to do so. I don’t have friends near by. I don’t know how to make them. I have boyfriend for 4 years. I am tormented to leave or stay. Oh, this is about u not me.
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Lynn Somerstein
June 10th, 2015 at 11:04 AMNikki, I’m so glad that you are feeling better. Thank you very much for the update.
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Wesley
June 10th, 2015 at 3:05 PMhmm .. sumtimes not wanting to be around others may relate to wanting sum time to recharge energy to get to be around others in a little while soon after :P .. * unsure */ obviously not all the time * .. just sumtimes
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Lucy gucy
June 14th, 2015 at 3:06 AMI too suffer the frustration of being annoyed often by others stupidity… I am judgemental and wish people thought like me.. but what I also know is that it isn’t them with the problems, it’s me…I am the one whom struggles to play nice, to keep remarks to myself, make believe I sympathize when I actually want to tell them what an idiot they are.. I realize I have overwhelmed myself with others issues that I should be able to blow off.. So the real problem is why can’t I… One thought that keeps me grounded on occasion is We see in others what we believe about ourselves…So Maybe I really believe I am the stupid one so all their shortcomings that irritate me are really the beliefs about myself thAt I hate so much….
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Lucy gucy
June 14th, 2015 at 3:31 AMThe other side of the coin for me is worrying about the after effects of a unintended remark or judgement I may have made during a conversation, I replay the conversation and the body language etc..over and over in my head for hrs sometimes days, (again exhausting for me ) and I usually determine they didn’t like me, I came off condescending, rude, mean etc.. and I feel remorse and sadness, cause I don’t want anyone to not like me. This is a very mad and vicious demon, it has almost taken over my life..I have my good days, but far and few between.. As I get older and no longer like to travel alone to visit family and friends…I realize many of these relationships were based on the convenience of me traveling to them and this hurts. Some of them are annoyed that I am no longer conveniently available to attend every holiday or function….. texts and calls are almost non existent now, in hindsight most were just about when I would be visiting and how long I could stay..Most contact now comes from me and if I can’t visit, they are annoyed, this has been painful and difficult to let go after 20 years.. I hope this is a big part of feeling annoyed and once they realize things have changed for good. They will stop with guilt trips….
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Loser
June 14th, 2015 at 12:19 PMLucy,
I know exactly what you mean. Sometime you try so hard to get along. you think about every word you say – what people want to hear – how to get them to like you – your true feelings you keep to yourself – no matter how hard you try you can see the disdain in their eyes – you can see they don’t want to be with you – you see everyone else in the world going about life and having it intermingle with others and for whatever reason – you are never a part of it. you might sometimes be in the same room – but never a part of it –
when i was young i just didn’t go to anything – no dances – no prom – not anything – it didn’t take a any great brilliance to realize they didn’t want me there so i stayed away.
but i too replay every single conversation over and over again – what did they mean – what did that hand gesture indicate. i feel that due to their disdain and the social rules of etiquette it is highly unlikely that anyone, forced to speak to me will likely be honest – so i have to deduce what they truly mean. beyond of the course the obvious – i wish they guy would just go the f away and not talk to me.
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Kentuckie robert
January 27th, 2016 at 7:18 AMI always wondered what that look in peoples eyes was anyway like they look drained just looking at me i hate it
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the hulk
June 25th, 2015 at 11:13 AMI don’t like people, there all the same, bunch of two faced snakes out to f*** u, your mom your wife. We live in a F*** u f*** me f*** everyone society barely able to survive and we’ve Forget that we r all brothers and sisters and Jesus Christ Is are heavenly father.
Now we all have Anxiety depression bi polar probably a dozen disorders who f*** knows its pissing me off the attacks are embarrassing quit taken meds and started ripping everyone’s a** . I stick to my self and my kids only two I enjoy being around. -
Gambit
August 10th, 2015 at 3:26 PMYou are so right!!! The world is full of two faced snakes! People don’t seem to want to see you succeed which is actually sad.
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Kentuckie robert
January 27th, 2016 at 7:15 AMNice, keep on keeping it real
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Lynn Somerstein
June 25th, 2015 at 4:58 PMHi Hulk,
As I remember the Incredible Hulk has a sweet side too. True?
Take care,
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Lynn S.
June 28th, 2015 at 4:25 PMDear Who Cares-
You go, girl!
Take care,
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jenjen
November 21st, 2015 at 10:05 PMI have been experiencing the similair impatient qualities you have expressed here. And from my issues I noticed I always take the responsibility of life and its expences on my shoulders leaving all around me stress free ….lucky them right ….stress the silent killer they say. And by me doing this cause the kind loving and giving person that i am tey soon started taking me for granteed and treating me as if i were weaker or to have issues. This then i feel caused me to have to fight off negative perapectives others would impose of me off becuase i know me better than anyone and i am not one that cant say when i am wrong.
Anyhow, to whom and type of people we aurround ourselves with does play a part of what we already inflict onto ourselves such as being responsible for everything leaving others able to be irresponsible.
Then giving us more to worry about cuase now we have to worry about them holding true to theyre part . And i swear some people feed off us being like this maybe such of a control issue and to the point to use our worrying as reason for them not holding true to their part .
Then we come more out of pocket how ever that maybe and this takes more away from what we have for ourselves in which all this and our regular everyday headaches definiately has the qualities of putting one into a majore depression. And no one cares around us for they did no wrong in their eyes ….of course its cool to say one did it to themselves or they have issues than to take responsibilities for something esp. Someones self destruction from stress.
One can only do so much esp. Without appreciation or the respect they deserve . People are cruel where you and i wouldnt be as fast to drop responsibilities on to the next there are most that think theyd be stupid if they didnt ..in a sense theyre right at the the same time it is those people that have unhuman characters (damn near heartless for the next person) .
I too realize that if you had a faster paced life at a young age you are more likely to have nerve issues younger as well. Where as others tend to experience these issues later if they had mom and dad take care of them longer or should i say later in age.
And on a medical aspect definiatly Check for vitamin deficiencies or even psychiatric, i know my mom has anxiety therefore i am runner up in which that i do have ….Definiately dosent help my patience thats for sure.
Note i am not a doctor i am one that of like yourself , for what ever it was worth and thanks for all that reads my post as for it to be of meaning helpful info.
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jenjen
November 21st, 2015 at 10:12 PMWere not alone
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Kentuckie robert
January 27th, 2016 at 7:14 AMVery true i can relate completely. And sometimes its like where to turn what to do. It seems like it would be better off living secluded in the woods. But even that is probably illegal or something. Its like a big trap
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Another nobody
November 23rd, 2015 at 9:17 PMI’m an impatient,easily irritated and frequently crabby man & worse? I’m a lousy father to my son. I hate social situations, I easily run out of patience with my son, my relationship with my wife is next to non existent & many days I find I wish I was alone. I enjoy being left alone, I enjoy being someone who cares for myself first than others. I’m selfish & I don’t care. But I’m also unhappy, unsettled & flat out miserable.I have noone to talk to that understands me & lately I’ve been thinking about disappearing and never coming back
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The GoodTherapy.org Team
November 24th, 2015 at 8:19 AMHi Another,
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. If you would like to consult with a mental health professional, please feel free to return to our homepage, https://www.goodtherapy.org/, and enter your zip code into the search field to find therapists in your area. If you’re looking for a counselor that practices a specific type of therapy, or who deals with specific concerns like the ones you expres, you can complete an advanced search by clicking here: https://www.goodtherapy.org/advanced-search.html
Once you enter your information, you’ll be directed to a list of therapists and counselors who meet your criteria. From this list you can click to view our members’ full profiles and contact the therapists themselves for more information. You are also welcome to call us for assistance finding a therapist. We are in the office Monday through Friday from 8:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. Pacific Time; our phone number is 888-563-2112 ext. 1.
Wishing you the best,
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Kat
December 30th, 2015 at 11:26 PMI usually don’t reply to things on these pages but your post just really got my attention. I truely hope and pray that things get better for you.
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Alannah
December 2nd, 2015 at 4:29 PMI noticed the past week I have been really irritated and on edge. And tired and I hate that I’m so irritated.
I try to be calm, but even then my mom says I have a tone. I am 17. And it just started this week. I have never been like this during or before or after my period. It’s just suddenly happened and I hate that I am always so agitated! Please help.
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Lynn
December 5th, 2015 at 6:39 AMDear Alannah,
I’m sorry that you’re experiencing this difficulty, Maybe the first place to go to understand what’s going on is your doctor, for a general checkup. What do you think?
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Mysterious
December 8th, 2015 at 1:52 AMI have a problem and I need major advice.… so I’m always talking about killing myself and don’t wanna take on the world anymore. I had a “Best Friend” who was “there for me”for 3 years and then does something that upsets me more than anything. She decided to send nasty pics to the guy that I am MADLY in love with. He told me and I asked her and she lied about it. I have always told her everything and she pulls this. She has also been telling other people all of my secrets when I have never told any of hers. What upsets me the most is I have never done anything wrong to her. She has done some stupid stuff and I was still right by her side. She done messed this up and I dont know if I can trust her or not anymore.. …. This isn’t even half of the problem…. I have gotten so upset that everybody I talk to all that I do is want to scream at them. I have had mental break downs on a daily basis. It has gotten to the point where I stopped eating and sleeping. If do sleep then all I dream about is death. I have been bullied, lied to, and treated like crap for the past 8 years. There is nobody I can come to except the guy I am in love with…. Him and I are actually starting to drift apart as well…. If I lose him I will want to kill myself and not go on in life. I am 14 years old and I have had many thoughts… I have cut myself many times before and won’t quit. My depression is at the extremes right now.… Does anybody have any advice on how I can fix this?
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The GoodTherapy.org Team
December 8th, 2015 at 9:12 AMHi Mysterious,
First, we want to offer some information on what you can do in a crisis if you’re experiencing these emotions and thoughts: https://www.goodtherapy.org/in-crisis.html
Please know that you’re not alone and that it may help to talk to someone in a safe, non-judgmental space about what you’re going through. If you would like to consult with a mental health professional, please feel free to return to our homepage, https://www.goodtherapy.org/, and enter your zip code into the search field to find therapists in your area. If you’re looking for a counselor that practices a specific type of therapy, or who deals with specific concerns, you can complete an advanced search by clicking here: https://www.goodtherapy.org/advanced-search.html
Once you enter your information, you’ll be directed to a list of therapists and counselors who meet your criteria. From this list you can click to view our members’ full profiles and contact the therapists themselves for more information. You are also welcome to call us for assistance finding a therapist. We are in the office Monday through Friday from 8:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. Pacific Time; our phone number is 888-563-2112 ext. 1.
Wishing you peace,
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same
December 8th, 2015 at 9:19 PMI’m one of those that can be “okay” one minute and the next I hate everything, everyone, and annoyed with EVERYTHING. Not even my boyfriend can do anything about it, I’ve caused so many problems for the reason that I allow my head to make stuff up accuse him of things that I know aren’t true. He’s been through depression so it’s not like he understand but it’s different. I feel like no one understands and he doesn’t understand, he used to get so mad because I’d always pick a fight or have some reason to break up with him. I love him more than anything and I know he loves me just as much since he’s been with me through everything, but sometimes I feel like it’s still not enough. Like there’s something missing and I just don’t want to be here anymore half the time. I don’t understand why I can’t just be happy or feel happy. I used to feel this way for a long time and was fine for less than a year, I felt happy. I got back to my old self and I just want to sleep forever and not worry and be stressed out about not feeling normal
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Wendy
December 22nd, 2015 at 8:51 PMSo i have always been a person to get irritated or mad really quickly and most of the time have absolutely no clue why, i always wandered if something was wrong with me if i have anger issues or what and its getting worse and its affecting my life style and family up untill now im searching for help as to why i am this way i can happy one minute and then irritated the next if theres any answers or suggestions out there please help thank you.
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Lynn
December 23rd, 2015 at 8:46 AMHi Wendy,
Thanks for writing in with your important question. Anger issues need to be dealt with, as you know,, and it’s a good idea to seek professional counselling, someone who will help you understand yourself.
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sr3love
January 1st, 2016 at 6:04 AMafter reading this post and some of these comments I had to comment myself to see if it might help others. I too also get very easily irritated, people are stupid and I blow up at the slightest thing. I always feel like a pot ready to boil over but I try not to let everyone know. over 15 yrs ago I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and depression and on too many meds to count. That is not a way to live your life. I stopped taking meds and chose to make right decisions and eat healthy etc but it is a lifelong struggle. when people ask why see a medical doctor as well and not just a therapist I will tell you why. I found out from going to the doctor when my anxiety/ anger started the I had neuropathy. The year after I developed a heart arrhythmia. Now I still choose to be med free even with these issues and try to do everything the healthy way. I still find that when I choose to have caffeine, bread, or too much processed sugar that’s when I get irritable and cant handle people. Theres a lot to be said in using both your medical doctors advice and your therapist and then do whats right for you.
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Charlotte
January 25th, 2016 at 2:46 PMThe first comment on this thread really struck me and I sent it to my boyfriend who said it literally sounded like me.
I am a 20 year old girl who cannot see any time in my life that would have caused me to become such an intolerant person. In the past 6 months I have become so impatient that if i simple task isn’t complete as quickly as possible i get angry, lash out and feel actual anger bubbling inside me. I too find ‘silly’ questions irritating and feel that a lot of people around me are idiots – even though I know when I am being reasonable that they are just humans like myself.I love my boyfriend to pieces but when I am in one of these moods the smallest things he may do will send me flying off the handle – for example laying on my hair for the 18th time that night.
I have become very obsessed with efficiency and can’t stand to see a job getting done when I don’t believe it is being done in the most efficient way (even something as silly as a supermarket trip where my partner will go back to the other end of the store to get something – i think why did you not pick stuff up in order?) It is silly things that shouldn’t annoy me but at the time they do.When I am confronted of this i get very defensive and find it hard to accept that I have played any part in being wrong or causing an argument.
I also live in a shared house with 3 people I work with. I have destroyed all my relationships with them – part of me wishes I could be nicer but then when I see taps running and lights being left on all day and night I remember why I find them so irritating. I feel that often I am surrounded by idiots and find it hard to see their point of view when they are inconsiderate like slamming doors late at night etc.
When I was at university I was never like this. I lived in a lively house with 6 people and 3 boys who were SO messy. I would get at them just as anyone else would but I wouldn’t see it actually affecting my mood (this was only 2 years ago).
And even from about 9 months ago me and my boyfriend would laugh all day and night. He could do no wrong in my eyes and I was so grateful for all he did. Now I will just pick fault with something even if it is a nice gesture.When i self-reflect I really dislike myself and I am scared that I am ruining all my relationships. As I work with the girls I live with too I am scared that this is going to leak out into my work life – which at the minute I manage to keep civil. I do get annoyed with one or tow of my colleagues but i keep it undercontrol and it hasn’t affected my work life yet. it seems so easy to change thinking about it now but when somethings happens I find it often uncontrollable and sometimes I can’t even stop myself from making a horrible comment about the situation or complaining.
I really don’t think I have anything to be ‘depressed’ about. I have a great job and a great life, if someone was to ask me what bothered me in life I would say that my housemates make my every day life hard to enjoy – but usually when I dislike someone it makes my relationship with another person closer as I appreciate them more for not being like the other person! Whereas recently I have been treating my loved ones badly too.
I am wondering if it is something to do with my hormones as I am on the contraceptive pill but I have changed it 3 times now and nothing seems to differ. Or maybe I have a food intolerance? I love red meat and chocolate that is what I would say I eat the most of.
Does anyone feel like my story resembles how they have felt in the past and have any suggestions for me? Without having to go to a therapist as I think if i go to a therapist it makes my problems seem really REAL and like a big deal when I try to make out they’re not – but now its affecting my life quite a lot.
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The GoodTherapy.org Team
January 25th, 2016 at 4:25 PMDear Charlotte,
Thank you for sharing. The GoodTherapy.org Team is not qualified to offer professional advice, but we encourage you to reach out. It can often be helpful to discuss with a therapist or counselor any kind of concerns that may be affecting your life. You may find it beneficial to talk to someone, and a therapist may be able to explore these questions with you.
You can locate a therapist or counselor in your area through our site. Simply enter your ZIP code here:
https://www.goodtherapy.org/find-therapist.htmlPlease know you are not alone. Help is available, and we wish you the best of luck in your search.
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Loser
February 4th, 2016 at 9:37 AMI am full. Full to the brim. So much so it sometimes almost slips out. So tightly packed that it cannot. I find myself almost bursting into tears watching a anime about relationships and having people finding each other and the joy they feel in others company. Often outcasts themselves it bliss when they find that someone or group that they feel part of. Same thing with songs. But i can’t cry. I sometime would love to have a little release but its not possible. I feel it well up in me and my eyes gloss over. Then nothing. I am so sad for so long and those feelings are packed in there so tightly they cannot get out. In truth its my own fault – I used to feel the need to cry come on and i would force myself to get angry to push those feelings back down. I am so tired of being sad. Now i feel whiny about my inability to cry. 45 years of this . it wont change. I will push on and continue to try to the best of my ability and put on a mask because you’re supposed to.
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The GoodTherapy.org Team
February 4th, 2016 at 10:11 AMDear Loser,
The GoodTherapy.org Team is not qualified to offer professional advice, but we do strongly encourage you to reach out. If you would like to talk about what you are feeling with a mental health professional, please return to our homepage, https://www.goodtherapy.org/, and enter your zip code into the search field to find therapists in your area.
Once you enter your information, you’ll be directed to a list of therapists and counselors who meet your criteria. From this list you can click to view our members’ full profiles and contact the therapists themselves for more information. You are also welcome to call us for assistance finding a therapist. We are in the office Monday through Friday from 8:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. Pacific Time; our phone number is 888-563-2112 ext. 1.
We wish you the very best in your search.
Kind regards,
The GoodTherapy.org Team
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Sumaya
February 8th, 2016 at 3:32 AMMaybe try eating healthy, engage in a it of exercise and dance to a happy song
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Loser
February 8th, 2016 at 8:47 AMUpdate. Wife just informed my that our trial separation was now permanent. Yay more great fun in my wonderful life of joy.
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Lynn
February 8th, 2016 at 9:48 AMLoser, I’m sorry for this pain– talking to a mental health specialist will help.
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Jerrold
March 8th, 2016 at 5:27 AMYou ought to be a part of a contest for one of the highest
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Lynn
March 8th, 2016 at 12:47 PMThanks Jerrold, you’re very kind.
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nikki
March 10th, 2016 at 7:25 AMAs I’m reading these stories I feel like I have alot in common with most. Lately I’ve realized I’m short tempered,impatient and irritable. I don’t remember always feeling this way but lately I just get so overwhelmed about the littlest things. What gets me is I know I know its a problem but I still freak out , its like a switch I can’t turn off. I hate feeling this way and it effects my everyday life. I also noticed a sort of ocd symptom comes along with it. I feel like everything should be in place almost perfectly . If I have to do more than one thing at a time I go into panic mode. I’ve never talked about this before but I know its time for a change. I don’t want to be like this and put my family through anymore of my meltdowns.
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Lynn
March 10th, 2016 at 10:29 AMHI Nikki,
Thanks for writing– and I’m glad that you’ve noticed your feelings and symptom and know it’s time for a change. Perhaps you could seek counselling to help you out.
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Angel
March 16th, 2016 at 11:58 AMI am not sure where to begin. I am depressed and a introvert. I have been let down by everyone in my life. Boucned around foster homes in my youth. Haven’t seen my birth mother in 15 years. Is is a alcoholic. I never want children of my own. Lost my house due to a predatory lending. And the homes foundation collapsing. I had to give up my life goals and all for nothing. I quit nursing. Started bouncing around job’s. Iam taken advantage of by every employer appreciated. I even had a bosses son sexual assault me. Only for them to laugh at me in court. Even tho he got a fine. It did not stop him from getting my phone number. I choose lousy friends. Impatient self absorbed satire type. I am pushed around by everyone I know. So I have chosen to learn to groom dogs and rescue them. I feel alone on that as well. Not even the ASAP care’s about the abuse in my area. My uncle fell last October and was in a comma until he passed in December. A grade school friend who had so much potential killed himself. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I had my taxes taken from me because I cannot afford a computer just my phone so I haven’t been able to afford insurance. Now the IRS wants the only dime I have. My dog is on his Last leg. The home I was forced from has my cat I have had sense I was 17 who passed. I just feel all I do is give give give but never make myself happy. And when I am happy it’s when I am alone. With my dog and husband of 16 year’s. He is great. No issues with him. Other than he never takes a brake himself. I sit and cry after my best friend? Leave’s she is so rude I am afraid to even ask her to charge my phone with her charger so it don’t make her go out of her way. And to top it all off. I am so different than these ppl I surround myself with. I don’t even like their type if music. Or to drink beer. I have been to many social workers especially in my youth and they always told me I was right and I had a good head on my shoulder on that people that think a lot have a harder time. If I could afford to go to a grooming academy ( to poor for school) I would fill all my time with that. But… Also I am not sure if I am really depressed or if it’s irony. But I do know I need a chance. Tired of being the underdog. Thanks for any and all advice. ~ angel
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The GoodTherapy.org Team
March 16th, 2016 at 3:51 PMDear Angel,
Thank you for your comment. We are sorry to hear of all the difficulties you are experiencing. The GoodTherapy.org Team is not qualified to offer professional advice, but we encourage you to reach out. The support of a therapist or counselor can be helpful when addressing life challenges, and you can locate one in your area through our website.
To see a list of professionals in your area, simply enter your ZIP code here:
https://www.goodtherapy.org/find-therapist.htmlPlease know you are not alone. Help is available, and we wish you the best of luck in your search.
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sunny
March 30th, 2016 at 4:31 AMNowdays i get irritated to everything does not go out or mingle with friends fed up with life some time i became panic, frustrated, get hurt myself or hurt someone who are close dont know whats happening with me. Few years back i was happy go lucky petson enjoying the life spending time with fam8ly and friends never get irritated i need your suggestions kindly reply
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Lynn
March 30th, 2016 at 6:08 PMDear Sunny,
I’m sorry that you’re feeling this way. I suggest that you speak with a counselor who may help.
Take care and good luck,
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Tovat
April 25th, 2016 at 12:28 PMThis is such a wonderful chat. I am so with you here. This is my first time o. Here and it is amazing and I am truly touched. I am 50 years old, married for 30, and mentally abused for many of them. When you are called names you believe them after awhile. I am depressed,angry, frustrated, etc. and don’t know how to get out. I am so unhappy that I have lost what does make me happy. I lost ME. My husband is so unhappy and miserable that he takes it out on me. I have had enough. How do I ask for him to leave or that we live seperate for awhile?
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Meli
June 25th, 2016 at 7:28 PMI was feeling really down and sleeping heavy a lot and I’m feeling like a monster most days. On one of the post the person suggested that we think back to when we started to change…I was a bubbly, loving idealistic 18 year old. Then on the next post or so someone pointed out that we were all in abusive relationships. Well I have. I even got some apologies out of him. It’s sort of like I’ve had an epiphany. Eventhough I forgive him and NOW can see a future with him, I think that what’s haunting me is all of the things that I lost while my energy was depleted trying to keep him satisfied. It’s as if he has completely exhausted my grace. Is that even possible?? Can I be happy with someone else or will I be overly analytical of them because of all my pain.
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Lynn
June 27th, 2016 at 10:06 AMHi Meli,
Thanks for asking this serious question. It is possible to feel exhausted from a difficult relationship, and understand that you feel it might not be possible to be happy with someone else after your experience. My advice is to first renew your energies and become happy with yourself. Consider seeing a counselor who could help you.
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viwe
July 3rd, 2016 at 3:32 PMI’m young mother who is lost,I’m angry and I don’t know how to deal with my anger.it’s been years now,since I was a young girl,I was desperate to be loved the way I thought I deserved. My teenage years was the worst years of my life,I needed my mom and she was not there for me.that made me to have a low self-esteem.I was lost,I didn’t know what to do and where to go.I had no one to turn to.I found love for few years but it ended,I lost my dad afterwards. I was broken.I think my anger has never go away. People I learn to trust broke that trust and I can’t rebuild it. I’ve tried but I can’t,please help me
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Dr. Lynn Somerstein
July 7th, 2016 at 5:42 PMDear viwe,
You have had a very difficult time, and you feel lonely, angry, and unwanted. The best way to begin to understand and deal with heavy feelings such as these is to enter a therapeutic treatment with a social worker or perhaps a pastoral counselor. You need help finding your way.
take care, and good luck
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Phumzile
July 7th, 2016 at 2:27 PMIm 23 years old lady i get irritated easily and i dnt want to be reminded what to do by my mom and i love to be alone is that a depression? I always feel like being alone away from everyone
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Dr. Lynn Somerstein
July 8th, 2016 at 6:59 PMDear Phumzile,
Thank you so much for writing in, and asking a hard question.
You write that you “get irritated easily” “always feel like being alone and away from everyone.” These are signals to yourself. I think you suspect, that you might want to consult a mental health worker and explore these issues further.
take care, thanks for writing,
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Karla
July 9th, 2016 at 10:57 AMToday I woke up very irritable and just sad. Everything seems to be bothering me, anything that is coming out of my boyfriends mouth is making me mad even if he’s saying something sweet. We have a good relationship I don’t hate the guy. Aside from that I also feel sad like any event or thing could make me cry. I used to suffer from depression and I’m just wondering if it’s coming back base on how I’m feeling. I’m a sweet loving person to myself and others but I hate when feelings of anger and sadness come back.
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Lynn
July 9th, 2016 at 3:02 PMHi Karla,
Thanks for writing. I have to agree with you that your sadness is an indication that your depression may be coming back. Best to consult with a professional and take care of yourself right away.
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Ravi
July 11th, 2016 at 10:25 PMI’m 33 yrs old I get irritated vry soon and most of the time unhappy and afraid about the situation or the moment a head. I ponder a lot to take any decision. I don’t like to hurt anyone.
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Lynn
July 14th, 2016 at 6:48 AMHi Ravi,
Thanks for you letter. You sound unhappy with yourself. Have you thought of consulting a counselor who might be able to help you sort things out?
Take care,
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Avni
August 7th, 2016 at 6:56 AMEven on little little things, I start crying, I feel alone as if no one is there for me, while it’s not the case. For example, suppose I have scheduled a meeting with one of my friends, and due to some reasons she was unable to come. I just start crying, felt very lonely, after some time I realized what am doing. It’s not her fault, it’s because of circumstances and I am trying to normal. It happens often, like in the office if someone misbehaves, or a close friend makes me to think that am not that important. They might not have intended to do so, but it’s because I think negatively a lot and it affects me a lot and then I start crying. Sometimes I feel very depressed, how my life has ended up and I try to trust in everything. It makes me feels like, “why God is doing this to me.”
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The GoodTherapy.org Team
August 7th, 2016 at 9:20 AMDear Avni,
If you would like to consult with a mental health professional, please feel free to return to our homepage, https://www.goodtherapy.org/, and enter your zip code into the search field to find therapists in your area.
Once you enter your information, you’ll be directed to a list of therapists and counselors who meet your criteria. From this list you can click to view our members’ full profiles and contact the therapists themselves for more information. You are also welcome to call us for assistance finding a therapist. We are in the office Monday through Friday from 8:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. Pacific Time; our phone number is 888-563-2112 ext. 1.
Kind regards,
The GoodTherapy.org Team -
L
August 11th, 2016 at 12:08 AMI have read the comments and am feeling the same. I felt depressed at work and have taken it out on my co-worker I didn’t appreciate my job and got the boss involved I said she wasn’t doing her job instead of we were getting on. The boss came in to observe and my stress levels got so bad and I went off work. I have cited stress at work due to co-worker and have asked for a move. Feel I did this prematurely without sorting it properly as health reports stated to do mediation which was carried out the year before but never really helped. I was talking to my other co-worker who says I could think about resigning as it was affecting my health I didn’t and have asked to move as I involved the union probably prematurely as I feel I haven’t faced up to this situation properly and maturely. I am now scared that I will repeat the same type of behaviour sure it’s self sabotage and I have the victim mentality I know I have became this horrible, un co-operative, self centred negative person and my job entails to be the opposite happy, friendly and communicative since I work with kids. I have become short tempered and not a nice person. Don’t know if I got so down with how she spoke to me at times (coworker) and have reacted so badly that my boss thinks I am a complete nightmare I became unmotivated said I wanted a new job, wasn’t happy and have asked to be moved. All due to depression, negative feeling and my actions after spoke to other people and have questioned management decisions behind her back as I spoke to my ex manager about certain things and also hadn’t taken their advice etc. Not dealing with situation has be making me ill. I have been off work for 4 months and due to go to a new establishment and feel do apprehensive in case I act like a child again. I became so down, wasn’t sure if it was my job or the way I was spoken to at times. Feel terrible as it was like my inner voice was saying no you are destroying your career and I went out to put my co-worker in trouble (was like a dog with a bone). Don’t feel like I can do my job and also afraid to move as I’m frightened it will happen again. Had got a new job but didn’t put in my letter or resignation and now need to go back to my old job in a new establishment. Feel lost, sick with myself and uneasy most days. Not sure why I behaved the way I did. It disgusting when I should have been more kind and tolerant as a effective team helps one another to bring out the best in each other. Feel like it brought out the worst in me to a major extent. My partner thinks it’s all coworker fault as he feels I was bullied I would never say this as in other ways she was good and helpful. I think I became difficult. I feel like I have now been doing self helps things but should have helped myself mentally at the time. Bit like once the horse has bolted. It’s in the past but feel like the Karma is huge.
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Lynn
August 11th, 2016 at 12:16 PMDear L,
Your story is sad and complicated. Have you considered working with a counselor, someone who can help you straighten things out?
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Carla Ann
September 16th, 2016 at 1:44 AMI was also very depressed with my life. I was doing job as receptionist it very dissatisfied but i had no other options. My monthly bills are on my head. But i wanted to pursue my career in singing because i m born with this very great voice.
Then one day I was searching on web I found this site http://bit.ly/2cT3gJd. It is a site for numerology. It helped me a lot. Now I am part time singer in orchestra also working like i wanted to do. I loved this -
Sky
September 18th, 2016 at 5:05 AMFor the past few weeks, or even months, I’ve been really confused with my emotions. I get irritated easily over the littlest things. I didn’t notice until my mum asked me why I was so angry lately. I couldn’t answer her, because I didn’t know why. I’m 15 and in year 9. I’m not sure if it’s from the stress from my poor grades, or my family issues. But i get annoyed and angry really easily. At nights I cry myself to sleep, but I feel angry. I don’t understand why and I need someone’s help.
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Lynn Somerstein
September 27th, 2016 at 6:38 AMHI Sky,
Confused emotions are tough to navigate. Maybe you can speak to your school guidance counselor, Have you thought about telling your mother how you feel, and asking for therapy?
GOod luck and take care,
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Lynn B.
October 30th, 2016 at 11:27 AMI am in my 40’s and I am a mom of 2 kids and I have husband. I am becoming more and more irritable as the years pass. I feel so stressed out, I feel like a wounded bear that just wants to run deep into the woods and hide in a dark cave and stay there licking my many wounds until all healed and I can smile again and can handle the world again. I can’t take noise, people or family near me, the dogs, or just anything. My ability to handle little stressors of the day is gone and the only way I know how to handle anything is by running away into my bedroom (cave) which causes me to get so far behind because I get very little done. I don’t like being around my family, I am the happiest when I am alone. I hate noise of any kind. The past couple days I get so angry I want to take a baseball bat and start hitting the dogs and my husband. I think I got some huge resentment issues that need to be dealt with buy my husband shuts me down every time I start to complain of all my stressors. I feel powerless to change my enviroment so I have to run to the cave and I feel sorry for the person that stumbles into that cave. I don’t know what to do. I just want to die from lack of happiness but until I actually die I guess I will be in my cave with my laptop trying to find a darn cure to this.
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Lynn Somerstein
October 30th, 2016 at 1:27 PMDear Lynn B–
You sound enormously stressed out, angry and unhappy. Have you considered consulting a mental health worker who will help you deal with the stress in your life? Establishing such a relationship could be key.
Take care and good luck,
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Marianne
October 30th, 2016 at 8:37 PMI feel your stress. I’m in the same bout. I am starting counselling- it helps to talk to someone.
I have babysitters- it helps me also to be alone but it sucks for the kids & Husband!
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Carol
November 12th, 2016 at 11:02 PMUntil 3 years ago I was with a man who I left because I felt neglected and wasn’t feeling loved & cared for.
Been living with my new boyfriend for a few years And it’s been shaky as we are both different people who don’t always see eye to eye, and this at times makes it hard especially for me as I am less dominating. I have yelled at him and gotten angry many times as alot of things that he says or does annoy me. I just don’t know to control this and it worries me as I was never like this before. The past few months have been worse than ever… I am easily irritated and prone to anger and sudden outbursts, almost anything my partner says makes feel irritated and I attack him,like a lion.. This morning I snapped at him in a rage, because he was ignoring me.. I don’t feel depressed, I feel irritated and snap quickly. Actually I have no tolerance with pretty much most people and especially people who don’t help themselves when they are sick, this makes my blood boil.
I feel as if I don’t have enough space. I simply cannot stand being around people for too long and rarely like to catch up with anyone even family, ( maybe this is seen bad maybe,but to me it doesn’t matter who they are because I treat everyone the same unless they step over the line. When people who act needy or pushy, it only makes me want to run! I only like making plans with family/ friends on the day, because I don’t know how I will be feeling and 9 times out of 10 I usually change my mind anyway. People and their opinions really annoy me and I just want to get away, escape and be alone. I prefer to be around people who are humble and willing to listen. In my younger years I was bullied all thro school/ was sexually abused, taken advantage of, came from a broken family, grew up with no guidance, nor having any self confidence. Been indepenedent since I was 15 and this hasn’t changed. My upbringing and the way people have treated me has affected my whole life and still to this day I believe. I have tried tablets, seen shrinks, changed my life, moved 25 times, turned to religion, god, Jesus, the universe, mediation, medication, poetry, u name it…. I don’t like the way I’ve been acting as I know it’s wrong and I’m admitting this.. I don’t know what’s wrong with me….Right now I feel exhausted, burnt out & empty. Please -
Carol
November 12th, 2016 at 11:28 PMAnd mostly I fear death and everyone I know dying… the thought of this makes me anxious and fearful. I don’t want to take anxiety pills but I can’t stop the inevitable. I know it’s a part of life, but it’s a terrible thing for anyone and I can’t accept that this is what we are Dealt with. Prayer or meditation only seem to mask what is truly there. This saddens me a lot.
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Lynn Somerstein
November 13th, 2016 at 5:12 PMHi Carol,
You have faced many serious difficulties, and deserve respect and admiration. I can understand why you feel burnt out and exhausted, Who wouldn’t? You’re kind of like a soldier with PTSD.
Although you have tried therapy before, I wonder if you might try it again. It could be helpful.
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Larry
December 6th, 2016 at 5:42 AMHey everyone,
I have a similar account to the rest of you guys, however, I will not go into detail. Instead, I often go to different forums or sites for answers and never seem to get positive and useful info; too many people saying the same thing. How bout some SOLUTIONS? Also, keep in mind that if you see a shrink, they will keep that info on you and make you like like a maniac at the slightest legal problem. I would caution visiting a shrink, unless off the record. -
simarpreet
January 23rd, 2017 at 6:54 AMI am just 17 girl. I feel very irritated without any reasons. I feel that no one understand my feelings. even I can’t understand the reason of my irritation. With this irritation I am unable to concentrate in my studies.
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Lynn
January 24th, 2017 at 1:03 PMDear Simarpreet,
Your feelings are important. Perhaps you could talk to a school counselor who might be able to help you.
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Thomas
January 30th, 2017 at 2:59 PMHello, I’m a 14-year-old male. I get irritated and angry for absolutely no reason. I wake up in the morning refreshed and neutral but then as soon as someone talks to me or asks me a question I mentally break down, which ruins my whole day and makes me have a negative attitude on everything. Especially my brother, I don’t know why, but every time he asks me something or talks to me, I get really angry and respond with an angry tone. At school, I don’t feel like doing anything except for fooling around with my friends. Then when I go to my football or basketball practice after school, I feel really down and angry and I honestly feel like it affects my skills. When I go home, I sometimes go in my basement and blast music to clear my mind or throw stuff at the wall or punch the wall to make me feel better. And just like in the morning, when we’re eating supper or just talking to someone in general, I get insanely irritated and angry. Like sometimes, I have these crazy thoughts that I can’t believe I would think of, like wishing I never had a twin and insane stuff like that. I just want to blast music and not worry about a single thing. I really think there’s something wrong with me. I’ve searched online and a lot of my symptoms are similar to depression or anxiety. I keep thinking about talking to my parents about it, but for some reason, I keep telling myself it’s probably nothing, but I also think it’s something important. At my school, we also have someone that we can talk to if we’re dealing with bullying, depression etc. should I talk to them about it?
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Tony
February 1st, 2017 at 12:17 PMThomas, at 14 years old you will have started to have surges of the hormone “Testosterone” raging through your bloodstream, this alone will make you angry and frustrated and often aggressive towards people for no obvious reason, it is also believed that it can impair your hearing for a period of time during your teenage years, once your levels settle down you will start to feel normal again, usually this will peak around the age of 15 , my advice would be to train, go running, do weights, get yourself a routine that you do each day, and remove sugar and fizzy drinks and as much processed food that you can from your diet, this will help balance your hormones in a much shorter time, what you are experiencing is completely normal for a guy your age, but diet and exercise will make you feel great about yourself and when you get the rush from adrenaline and serotonin you will feel awesome, and when you feel awesome you will attract male and female friends, also understand that Testosterone will make you feel sexually aroused, and without release can also make you feel frustrated.
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Lynn
January 31st, 2017 at 1:44 PMHi Thomas,
You’re unusually well spoken for a 14 year old person– good for you! That’s something to be proud of. I see that you are very angry too, and wonder what to do about those feelings, but you seem to have the answer. Why not talk to the person at your school?
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Amanda
February 8th, 2017 at 10:53 AMHello ,
My name is Amanda and for several years now I feel completely frustrated. Everything seems frustrating and I’m not sure why . If I have multiple things to do in a day it’s like I freak out my mind processes the time I have to be there what I have to do before I get there ..then I start thinking do I have enough time to do this or that ..I’m just feel like I’m always anxious about little things for no reason ! I don’t understand what’s going on ..and it makes me want to just be alone . I just rather be alone now . I understand why I feel this way . I know I should go see I doctor but I just feel scared to go I don’t know anymore . -
Tony
February 8th, 2017 at 12:58 PMHi Amanda, it is possible that the root cause of your frustration is a combination of factors, the way that you process information, for example, if we feel that we have more tasks than we can possibly do in the time frame that we have, it causes our bodies to create more Cortisol (known as the stress hormone), but if we take a different approach and accept that it’s more work than you have time for, and search for a solution to the problem, tell someone your concerns, remove distractions, start earlier, focus on your workload, work late, most people are understanding if they are approached with the right attitude, and my favourute is “nothing was ever fixed with worry” and always consider the consequences of not completing in time, are there any?. another very important aspect to consider is diet and sleep, sleep deprivation will make you agitated and snappy with people and make it difficult to focus, and keep your body hydrated with lots of water, exercise has also shown to be effective againt stress, your home enviroment should be a peaceful place where you can relax.
Also take walks and deep breaths and remember the time when you felt brilliant, so love yourself and tell yourself that you can do anything you set your mind to, it just gets very hard to do if you are undernourished (poor diet) not getting enough sleep and your body and mind is not hydrated, it also makes it harder to have clear precise thoughts.. just my own humble opinion. hope you learn thats its ok not to always live up to other peoples expectations. good luck. -
Lynn
February 8th, 2017 at 12:15 PMHi Amanda,
It is scary to see a doctor, that’s for sure, but it is also scary to live in freak out city. Why not cut to the chase and make an appointment with a therapist or social worker, which might be a bit less scary. Do you have a pal who might be helpful?
Let me know what happens.
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madison
February 16th, 2017 at 11:59 AMi feel irritated with people and when they talk to me i get bothered. i can get sad sometimes too :( I am very oblivious to the things happening around me also… I don’t like being in a big crowd and hearing a lot of people talking. I also get irritated at that. Idk what else to say but i think i have a problem, or at least thats what my friends say. My friends are very nice and i trust them when they tell me something. so knowing that they think of me this way, i need to get it checked out and i need answers ://// Btw im 15 i turned 15 on January 19! that is Edgar Allen Poes birthday also.
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Lailah
April 11th, 2017 at 1:06 PMI get irritated when i leave my friends. I get annoyed of my family, and I sometimes just want to kill myself or run away from it all. I dont like to be in big crowds because it annoys me. I have lost interest in everything. Also, all the sudden i have become “Selfish”. And i am not usually like this. I always thought that my family and i needed a break. I am now very frustrated and i don’t know what to do. Please help me, I am tired and scared of my life..
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The GoodTherapy.org Team
April 11th, 2017 at 8:10 PMThank you for your comment, Lailah. We wanted to provide links to some resources that may be relevant to you here. We have more information about what to do in a crisis at https://www.goodtherapy.org/in-crisis.html
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Kaleigh
May 16th, 2017 at 11:30 AMI hope you are doing better.
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Emily
June 16th, 2017 at 7:46 PMI am easily angered and annoyed but simple things that I should not be so annoyed with things like being able to hear people breathe someone smiling at me people talking to me or around me if it’s too quite im mad if it’s too loud im mad if someone walks in front of me lots of things get to me that should not and i have no idea what it could be its nothing new it started when I was in elementary and has progressively gotten worse to where it is now everything so easily gets to me life is less enjoyable i have very little interest in things the only thing that makes me happy most of the time is food I am not over weight been underweight most my life even just being in a room with others sometimes if enough to set me off i am not aggressive just angry i do not think it is depression but of course I am not able to say for sure I am going to get evaluation done soon i just want at leat some sort of answer
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ava
November 20th, 2018 at 7:55 PMi recently been moody to for some reason little things get me mad like movie or just anything
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Lynn Somerstein
November 23rd, 2018 at 5:54 AMHi Ava,
Thanks for asking your question. Often when people are easily annoyed by little things there are one or two big things that are bothering them, but they may not be aware of those big things. Maybe you could find someone to talk to about this, someone who is skilled at helping people. What do you think?
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Alexis
June 11th, 2019 at 12:54 PMhello, I have a problem when people try and give me knowledge i get very iratated ,how do i control that.
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Lynn Somerstein
June 11th, 2019 at 5:38 PMHi Alexis– I know what you meant. Sometimes people try to tell you something that you already know, it’s obvious, or they’re showing off, which is really annoying. If you can focus on the desire to help and not on the information, you might be able to control your irritation.
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Ja'Mya
September 18th, 2019 at 8:52 PMI get told That I get angry easily but I don’t really understand how I am mad when Its just how I look.I do have serious Mood swings though.If you are joking round with me and something you said sounds wrong to me I will literally go off on you,cry about it but will still laugh and play with you.I need help,I sleep more than usual,My moods change alot and sometimes my body is sore and i’ll feel like vomiting.I don’t communicate as well with anyone and I over think too much.Am I depressed? Or is it some thing more than that?
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Lynn Somerstein
September 20th, 2019 at 5:05 PMDear Ja’Mya,
Thank you for contacting me. I think you should consult with a physician about your mood swings, anger, and feelings that you may vomit. Your decreased ability to communicate is important too.
Take care,
Lynn -
monkey
June 10th, 2021 at 6:48 AMi dont even of the how of even make any sense
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Sarah
June 17th, 2021 at 7:44 AMI feel the same way, and even when my sister coughs I get mad. It’s sadly happens almost EVERY DAY.
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Mr C
June 24th, 2021 at 12:43 AMAmazing the original post is me down to a T. I think my issues started when our first son was born 27 years ago and from that moment I lost my wife so to say. All her love and attention went to the baby and we kind of grew apart after our second son 25 years ago things just got worse.
I am very irritable and get angry at anything and everything especially my wife who I feel no longer loves me in the way she used to and we are no longer intimate together and we kind of just accept that the other person is there. Our sex life as never been great as my wife does not find sex important and I do and she always uses the “all you think about is sex” argument if I try to mention it.
Years ago when suffering from depression I went to a therapist and was put on meds which I did not want and what came out of the meetings was I only feel the negative emotions and never the high positive emotions. The therapist said there is a middle line and normal people reach high and low points but normally sit on the middle line and my high positives reach the so called middle line and usually stay under it.
The last year I notice I am getting worse as my wife is just gone through(going through) the menopause so our sex life went from bad to worse, now my wife as sex (without foreplay) with me as a kind of service as if she don’t I will become frustrated etc.
The last few months I have actually started think maybe without me my wife and kids would have a better life but my fear is I cannot live without my wife as though I find it hard to feel the high positive emotions I go in to deep dark negatives if I think of being alone.
Suicide as crossed my mind but more of a way to cause my wife pain than anything else which makes me feel like I am really a bad angry person.
Reason I have not gone to a therapist this time is I have the feeling there is so much to get out of my system and I hate talking about my emotions and the appointment time runs out in the middle of it all which annoys me too.
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