I’m Impatient and Easily Irritated. Am I Depressed?
I am irritable all the time. Simple questions bug me, I'm constantly nitpicking, and I have little patience with what I consider stupidity all around me. I wasn't always this way ... there was a time when I was much more accepting, not on edge, and friendly. Needless to say, I don't have a big social circle. Am I depressed? Is there something else going on that I need to get help for? I don't want to be this unlikable person that I've become. —Irritated
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When I first read your letter, I wondered if you had visited your personal physician for a checkup recently. I am not a physician, but I am aware that your irritation can be a symptom of many things, among them a nutritional disorder, neurological damage, or medication interactions. So I would advise you first to seek the advice of a medical doctor.
You write that you did not always feel angry, edgy, and unfriendly, and I wonder if you can trace back to the time when your feelings and your behavior changed. Tracking this down might give some clues about what it is that has gone wrong.
You may not have a big social circle, but are there a few friends or relatives to whom you could turn for help? They might have ideas about when, and even why, you changed.
You ask if you are depressed. It sounds like you are, and anger, as you might know, goes hand-in-hand with depression. Anger is even an underlying factor in the development of depression.
You say you are nitpicking and edgy. Who are the people most affected by these qualities? Do they have something in common?
Funny, one of the first things you wrote was that simple questions bug you, so I guess I’m bugging you as you read my reply, because I’ve asked you a lot. So rather than ask anything else, I’ll suggest that after you visit your physician you make an appointment with a therapist, who will ask you to talk about yourself, probably ask questions that annoy you, and who will request that when you’re annoyed you say so. The therapist will also ask you to report when you think the conversation has gone stupid, and you won’t have to worry about being offensive, because the therapist won’t take it personally, and that will help you, eventually, learn how to be the more likable person you say you used to be.
I hope you find your old self soon, and that when found it’s even better than you remember.
LeslieJune 28th, 2013 at 11:19 AM
I am like the therapist here. I thought oh no here is someone else self diagnosing like most of us do at some point in time.
But I think that I would agree that if this is all new for you and not how you have always felt (because let’s face it, there are just some people who go through all of their lives angry and irritated for no good reason!) then I would tend to think that there are some deeper things going on with you that you may just not be fully aware of.
I think that it’s great that you have enough slef awareness to recognize that something is definitely amiss and I think that asking your question here is a great first step in the right direction!
GinaJune 28th, 2013 at 5:29 PM
If you are a woman of a “certain age” you may also be experiencing symptoms of menopause.
I am going through this wonderful phase of my life and hace tried many different approaches to reduce the symptoms. So far not completely successful.
Diet, Yoga, progeterone creams, Mindful based therapy is my next investigation…
Dr is quick to prescribe low dose aniety meds–but trying not to go there!
Dr. Lynn SomersteinJune 28th, 2013 at 5:32 PM
Thanks for the compliment, it means a great deal to me. And thanks for encouraging the person who wrote in. It makes a big difference to know people are behind you.
Dr. Lynn SomersteinJune 28th, 2013 at 7:18 PM
Gina, it sounds like you’re on the right track.
PeterJune 29th, 2013 at 12:30 AM
I am easily irritated when I’m worried.Depression would make me irritated to a much greater extent.Looking back would be a good idea but I don’t understand why seeing a physician is suggested.Anybody have a clue why?
Dr. Lynn SomersteinJune 29th, 2013 at 11:38 AM
I suggested checking with a physician because irritation and depression are associated with heart disease, gastro-intestinal symptoms, effects of aging, etc. A general check-up can rule a lot of things out
CarsonJuly 1st, 2013 at 4:41 AM
The one thing that I wouldn’t want to see in a cse like this is for her to go to a family doctor and then have him start making a diagnosis without really knowing too much about mental health to begin with.
I find that far too many of these doctors overreach their bounds and try to get involved in areas where they would be far better off referring the patient to a trained clinician familiar with and comfortable treating all aspects of mental health and wellness.
I think that with the right treatment strategy there is definitely something out there that could help you work through this but not at the hands of someone better served and trained to treat common health complaints, not depression.
Cindy RicardoJuly 10th, 2013 at 11:46 AM
Being irritable, on edge and easily frustrated can be a sign of many different things as Lynn and others have stated here. Depression is much more than being irritated and beyond labeling or diagnosing yourself (unless you are in danger of hurting yourself in which case being diagnosed is essential)it is helpful to explore what is going on in your life that is causing your unhappiness and irritablity.
It is also that many times we react to what is happening on the outside with judgment towards ourselves and others and the the truth is that judgment keeps us stuck and unable to heal or shift our perspective to one that is more balanced.
Finding a therapist to help you explore your feelings and what is happening in your life is what is most helpful. It is in becoming aware of how we are reacting to life/ourselves that we can begin to shift into a more balanced mindset.
LiaSeptember 7th, 2013 at 11:14 AM
I´m feeling the same way…. I moved to the Netherlands to live with my partner 8 years ago and I never really felt at home here. It took me so long to get a job here that I decided to go back to school, which I did and got a degree to teach English in Holland. Still, I feel displaced — people here are unfriendly towards foreigners and my boyfriend with hom I had a daughter 6 years ago never wanted to marry me, because he has some money and is afraid that I´ll take it if we get a divorce. He calls me a parasite because I don´t bring money in, but he is weaithy and I do contribute with the cleaning of our home, cooking, ironing and many other things. I´m not a big spender: I have an old cell phone for emergency phone calls, I cut my own hair, I do my nails, we rarely go out together for a movie or anything — So, I feel pretty bad in this situation. I don´t want to raise my daughter as a single mom and I´m alone here. Meanwhile, my mom passed away and I don´t have a lot of friends that i can trully trust.
kenariMarch 2nd, 2014 at 2:45 PM
Lia, I was trying to figure out the reasons why im so irritated with anything when I came across your message. I am a foreigner here in my new place. Married to a citizen here. Ive been here for two years now and I feel so discourage coz I cant find a job. I was a career woman back home very busy but enjoying life and then I came here. I cant find a job, i also went on trainings to make me qualified but to no avail till now. I feel so discriminated…
CocoApril 10th, 2014 at 2:44 PM
I have a boyfriend I am quiet young and everything he does annoys me I don’t know what is wrong even my best friend has been saying I get annoyed easily recently but I always have some stupid excuse for example I’m tired or cold or whatever, I’m so fed up. Please help
LostMay 28th, 2014 at 1:34 AM
I’ve been having a lot of issues since some time..I get very aggressive and irritated on small little things..im a person of principles and can’t stand anything wrong going on..since im a good listener alot of people have become a parasite for me as well..I come from an eastern society where families have alot of say in your life, so yes I feel my life and all my acts are determined by them which annoys me even more..im currently un-married and have alot of social and family pressure on that front but im simply not giving up on marrying just any tom dick n harry until I feel attracted to someone..then my boss at work is hitting on me..I just dont know where im heading or my life is heading..im even studying psychology and as a result Im feeling alot more now..I feel im in deep rite now but I want take control of my life and manage my situation..I do end up crying alot when I feel helpless..I dont know what to do..
Lynn SomersteinMay 30th, 2014 at 5:04 AM
Thanks for writing–I have the feeling that you may be depressed. Studying psychology is rewarding, but you can learn more in person. Why not make an appointment with a psychotherapist and find out more about yourself.
cherry p.June 24th, 2014 at 10:58 PM
I don’t understand why it was suggested to see a physician. They are not expert on the brain or psychological matters. If we get advise like this. We should directly go to the doctor rather than ask for a therapist’s help.
martinaJuly 15th, 2014 at 1:23 AM
Im a great believer in alternative solutions anti-depressants are not the answer (more like putting money in the pharmacuticals companies pockets) and yes i have been and still am on tablets but want to come off them…just ordered a book called ‘the mood cure’ by julia ross…it was recommended to me by a nutricionist and after reading it it does make sense….all the best :-)
VedaAugust 24th, 2014 at 7:11 AM
May be you’re pregnant?
VedaAugust 24th, 2014 at 7:18 AM
I don’t know if you have truly talked to your boyfriend,but he needs to be made aware of how you feel. He is not the only one that is contributing you sacrificed your old life to be with him! On top of that you gave him continuous life by having a daughter for him! He just needs to lighten up. Yes in today’s society it does take two to make it, however can’t help your situation right now.
VictoriaAugust 24th, 2014 at 10:00 AM
I have been having the same problem for a few weeks now. I was majorly depressed and on Cipralex and discontinued it as it had terrible side-effects and didn’t help my depression much. Ever since I’ve discontinued it I am in such a terrible mood. Irritable all the time, bitchy to everyone and biting everyone’s head off, so frustrated that I literally walk around the house sighing all the time. I’ve been hoping it would just disappear on it’s own but so far it’s still there every second. It’s terrible feeling like this because I find myself to be quite nasty and judgmental and that’s not who I am. Going back on Cipralex isn’t an option due to the side effects I was having and alternative medications haven’t worked for me either. I’ve been having therapy for months but not much help there either as you talk about your feelings and that’s about it. Cognitive a behavioral therapy just doesn’t work for me. I’ve been trying all kinds of things from changing my thinking to more natural medications, taking vitamins, eating as healthy as possible, doing things that usually cheer me up all to no avail. Sort of hopeless right now.
selamAugust 24th, 2014 at 10:46 AM
I believe PMS, and other hormon problem are more responsible along side with our upbringing……of course education and therapy are helpful…..I myself are a victime, people will tell u to let go, but it is not as simple as it seems, It ia a brain cancer. Acknowledging it is the first best tackle, and ask the people around u to give u support, while you try different techniques to manage it….Dont bit up urself, this is who u are and find a way to deal or manage it….like gender, yr hait color etc….ur are different…ur brain is wired up differently.. Keep researching…….try to visit nutritionist, physicians, yoga, counselors……Take it seriously, because this feeling will continue to follow and make ur life miserable….Good luck
SandySeptember 14th, 2014 at 9:30 PM
im 29 years old and i still live with my parents and my sister. I have two jobs and i dont have a big social life. i dont have a boyfriend either. but i like my solitude. i read a lot of books. my free time are my books and tv. and i dont like to be bothered. but i HATE how easily i can get angry for not reason. i snap at my mom, anything she says makes me mad and my i cant stand my sister. but they haven’t done anything to me. i feel terrible about it afterwards and i never apologize i just pretend like nothing happened. i feel like such a terrible person. i dont know if its a face im going through, i didnt used to be like this. i thought at first it was because i was lonely but people bother me. trying to make idle conversation is annoying. i have to force myself to listen and talk to people. and my job requires me to be percky and cheerfull so i have to swallow it up. i know its me the problem i wish i could stop been a jerk all the time specially with my mom. i dont want be bitter and angry, i dont want to push people away but is soo hard to bring anyone closer to begin with because i dont want too. i just dont know how to be more tolerant. i dont want to hate my mom. i dont know how to fix it.
Lynn SomersteinSeptember 15th, 2014 at 10:38 AM
You sound very angry and unhappy, and like you could use a friendly ear, someone who can listen to you and empathize and maybe give you a hand, too. How about consulting with a therapist or a social worker?
Take good care,
Latiffa B.September 18th, 2014 at 6:06 PM
I have a concern too.
I was very happy, outgoing, easy to get along and very supportive to others.
People would ask me advices, and all kind of support. I enjoyed being around people I have also worked with people my whole life.
I am 37 now.
I’ve been through a hard relationship for 7 years.
Not knowing every day, whats next surprise he will bring, also abusive verbally and physically.
Mentally I am pretty strong and dealt with it, even though inside it was tearing me a part. I’ve kept my cool.
Time to time, at the end of relationship I was losing and actually fighting back, verbally and physically. Start getting more angry which I never had before.
Then last year, we finally broke up and he got married. But still stalking me.
Then two month ago I lost my dad, he was my best friend and father.
Then I fell in love with a man online, and said he had feelings for me too, everything seemed fine. Then he said he has a fiance and is getting married.
I am also a person that care for my friends and family.
So, now I feel like I am losing.
I get irritated, angry on little things. And I just want to sleep all the time. Even though my life style is very active, I run business and working 12, 14 hours a day.
I do things after work or on the weekends, even though I feel like I don’t want to.
But lately, like last month, I don’t even want to go anywhere, or hear anything.
Negative talks, questions anything stressful, I get blood rush to my head and my heart give me a stabbing pain.
Advice like talking to psychologist, or any therapist I won’t take, because I know all about it. Also, pills I wont do.
I just want to know if this will go away, and what it might be, and if there any natural herbs or medicine that might help.
Latiffa B.September 18th, 2014 at 6:59 PM
(Just want to add, and correct something.)
Broke up with ex last November.
Father died 3 month ago.
Also, loud noise irritates me, and and anything negative stressful, even about somebody else that I care about, also gives me upset stomach, to where I feel like throwing up, and kinda fainting feeling on top of blood rush to a head and heart pain.
It’s not always aggravated like that, but almost everyday last month…
ZachSeptember 18th, 2014 at 9:16 PM
Dear Sandy, I am writing because your story is so eerily similar to mine lately. I am 29, moved back home a few years ago after my wife left me. I now have a five year old son who lives with me on nights/ weekends, and with his mom on weekdays. My two younger bros in their mid 20s live at home with me too… I have a good full time job, but not enough to really make it well on my oown. It’s also especially nice to have my mom/ family there to help me raise my son. The problem is… Life is so hard for me mentally. I know overall I have a fairly good life and no major problems or health issues… But I’m always sad… Im always mad at people… Especially my Dad for some reason… Everything he does seems to piss me off… And he’s not really a bad guy. I don’t want to be mad/ upset with him…. Everything everyone does irritates me… From co workers being lazy, to the way the lady next to me at pizza hut chews her food, to my brother not flushing the toilet after pissing
… I don’t sleep well… I’m afraid to travel anywhere more than an hour from home… I’m always tired, always sick, something airways hurts or is wrong. I feel like I’m 70 years old most days and I’m not even 30 yet. I tried taking all kinds of anti anxiety/ depression drugs in the past for panic disorder (which I don’t have a panic issue too terrible anymore)… But I just don’t know what to do. I’m sick of feeling like this and don’t have the time/ money to waste taking to therapists… I’ve tried that before too anyway, didn’t do much. Feels too rushed and expensive… They don’t have the answers anyway. Any suggestions or stories anyone?
IreneSeptember 26th, 2014 at 11:32 AM
I hate myself my entire personality has changed, the things I do and say is not me, I sometimes can’t believe it, and ask my self what happen to the gentle and loving person that I used to be, my daughter in law suffers the brunt ofmy short temper, I snap for no reason and I am down right irritable,
I take care of my 43 year old son who was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis five years ago, his speech and walking has been affected by the Ms. Because he can’t support his two children his ex wife stays with us and the two children
My abusive husband of14 years, was an alcoholic and he never stopped verbally and physically abusing me passed away in 2010 and I was diagnosed with breast cancer in January if 2012.
Ever since then I am not the same person I used to be. Can the drugs in chemo change your personality? I need help please
Lynn SomersteinSeptember 30th, 2014 at 1:54 PM
Dear Irene, Latiffa and Zach,
Your are all under deep relentless pressure and need to find healthy ways to blow off steam– you might profit from seeking counselling or a support group. It sounds like you’re doing way too much, and all alone.
ClarissaNovember 7th, 2014 at 1:03 PM
Irene and Latiffa
We all have something in common: we’ve all been in abusive relationships. My 9 year relationship contributed to these same feelings that I have of irritability and constant frustration at everyone. I think we should all go see a therapist. I’ve been out of the relationship for 10 years, but the aftereffects are still here. :(
CarolineNovember 9th, 2014 at 7:52 PM
Pray the Rosary. I promise you it will work! 🙏 God Bless
JustinNovember 14th, 2014 at 2:30 PM
I’m 15 years old now, from when I started to go to school I was the best student with the highest grades and I was a prodigy in rugby. Everything changed when I was 12 years old. I started to be so aggressive and the smallest of stuff made me snap. I started to love heavy metal and it was the only music I wanted to hear. I started to fight a lot. I would beat up someone if he made a joke with me. The aggressiveness was a benefit for my rugby though. I started to be a rebel, I started smoking cigarettes and marijuanna when I was 13. I was a bad person then when I turned 15 this year I met this amazing girl, she is 17. Sy cares so much for me, she cried her eyes out when she found out about my meth use(starting in this year) I stopped a month ago because I can’t see my girl going through the sadness. But I’m still 100% aggressive and irritable. Sometimes I’m so rude to my girl she starts to cry and it continues for hours. Well I’m not that bad anymore but I still give her a hard time. I’m always neat and clean so I know I don’t have borderline personality disorder. I just wanna know if its some kind of personality disorder or what? Both my parents are nice and calm. Sometimes being aggressive gives me a feeling of pleasure , is that a sign of a psycho?
MoniqueNovember 14th, 2014 at 7:02 PM
I am writing these words because I am not sure what my problem is or exactly a diagnosis.
I am 40 year old divorced woman, out of an abusive relationship with an alcoholic.
When I was in that relationship I was meek and subdued. Things changed when I got out of it and started dating other men.
It was not so bad when I dated for a while, although I started drinking out of loneliness (being out of 15 -year old marriage) then I met Paul…..
When I entered this relationship i swear I think I acquired personality disorder or a disorder of some kind.
Paul has been nothing but nice, caring, considerate man. He has his faults , too. He cares for his older daughter more than anything and puts her in front of me. He also still texts and calls his ex-wife. I caught him , too , doing some “online stuff”. Yet, I forgave him for being gentle and kind to me. And of course I fell in love with him beyond understanding.
In the process of me falling in love with him passionately, I became an unbelievable fiend. When I have some wine, I am very sarcastic to him, bring up his ties to his ex and other women in a very blunt and an emotional manner. I cry, i curse, I write him very intense poetry with questions about us he refuses to answer.
How he told me to move out of his place, yet he wants to see me on weekends.
What is wrong with me? I don’t want to ruin things,my life, and others any more. I really dont. Please give me your honest opinions.
Lynn SomersteinNovember 19th, 2014 at 5:57 AM
You were in a long term relationship with an abusive alcoholic, left him, but are carrying over that experience into your present relationship and have become an “unbelievable fiend,” a reenactment of abuse where you are the abuser. This happens sometimes, and I advise you to seek therapy to help you out of this process so you can lead the life you want and deserve.
Take care and good luck, and let me know how things go,
katlynNovember 23rd, 2014 at 7:00 PM
I’m 15 years old and I also have a lot of anger. I use to be so kind and thoughtful when I was younger. My parents got divorced about 2 years ago but I’m not sure if that’s the reason I’ve changed. I hate being angry but I feel better being angry. That might be weird. I currently have a boyfriend and I take a lot of my anger out on him. He is very emotion and I upset him constantly. I don’t like upsetting him but it also makes me feel better. I have a lot of family problems and I know that’s a part of it but I’ve also been depressed on and off. I was severely depressed probably about a year ago but fortunately I am better now. The only problem is I’m never happy. I feel like something is holding me back from happiness. I use to be constantly happy. I really want to be that way again. I keep telling myself it’s because I’m 15 and I’ll grow out of it but I honestly have no clue what my problem is. My parents are a mess and my siblings both have anger issues but I have always been nice and happy to literally everyone. I just have seemed to lost that part of me and I still want to be nnice I just can’t be anymore. I’m mean to my mom and my boyfriend constantly. My dad use to be really abusive towards my mom and I just hope I don’t end up like him. My 13 year old brother also is very angry a lot but mines much worse. I know I have problems controlling my anger when I get really mad but I don’t think that’s what this is. I’m not very social but I never have been. Nothing has really changed in my life lately. My dad and me have never had a stable relationship and my mom is constantly with her soon to be husband. I’m usually alone and I want to talk to my boyfriend at bout everything but every time I try I just end up making him cry. I hate being like this and I really love being nice all the time. I just feel overwhelmed with hatred and I have been questioning maybe it is the birth control I’m on. The hate started in around April last year and I started taking this b-yaz birth control last January. That could be messing me possibly but I just want my old self back.
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SLNovember 25th, 2014 at 1:20 PM
Irene you are a star xxxx
NaomiNovember 28th, 2014 at 12:54 PM
I have problems that relates to some of yours. Ever since I was 15 years old in freshmen year, things changed slowly negatively with my mom. I’m now 17 and I somehow feel like her housekeeper as my part time job with no pay and I want an actual job away from home. I feel insecure from hanging out with my friends all because my mom controlls my life with everything. Since I cannot get enough with her commands and strictness, I started to disobey her so I could earn my own freedom. Feels like my life is blocking my happiness from me and I used to be a happy person. But now I don’t like my life anymore. Either I want everything the way it used to be or just past on from my teen years. I constantly have to watch my siblings 4 and 5 years old and I easily get annoyed and angry with them. I’m afraid someday I’ll really hit them if my keeps up with me babysitting them and I don’t want that to risk my life. I’m used to getting angry at them and I don’t know why. I’m very curious when I’m calm. I have no clue if it was because my parents’ divorce or my mom’s ex fiance have influenced me for the past 4 years of his behavior towards my mom. Her physic said that about 5 years or so, I’ll be happy when my parents get back together and said that my dad is secretly feeling lost with his wife and stepdaughters, even though he’s forgetting about me. I guess my step mom is just being used so my dad is not lonely. My parents think my life is normal when I feel down and sad in the inside. I’m not very social but kinda am. I’m nice to everybody else but not my mom. When this will ever pass on?
Lynn SomersteinNovember 29th, 2014 at 12:33 PM
Naomi, this will pass on,eventually, but it will pass on faster if you have some help. Why not speak to a therapist or a guidance counselor? Having someone on your side may be just enough to give you more strength.
Take care, thanks for writing,
nateDecember 1st, 2014 at 5:41 PM
I don’t know if it’s still relavent or not but I feel the same way.. pissy.. easily angered.
. Anxious.. impatient.. Just want to throw my hood up on my jacket and be alone.. simple questions or comments bug the hell out of me.. I don’t know whats wrong with me either but I’m pretty sure it’s some kind of depression. Your not alone
NicoleDecember 14th, 2014 at 12:16 PM
hey I think im in a depression mode. I never been depressed before. I dont know why It started 2 week ago and I get irrated and sad and moody latley. I dont understand why? I just got married 5 month ago for the first time. Move a away from home and into the middle of nowhere. And I have a stepson. My job isnt getting enough hours money wise.I feel like no matter what inside I just want to crawl up in a ball and never wake up. I just dont understand why Im feeling this way.
Lynn SomersteinDecember 15th, 2014 at 8:39 AM
You’re in the middle of big changes and adjustments– new marriage, new home, new location, new stepson, and your job is unsatisfying. You have plenty of reasons to feel depressed. Why not speak to a counselor and see if that helps?
Take care, and let me know how it’s going,
alexDecember 19th, 2014 at 5:12 PM
I snap alot. My missus takes the brunt of it but anyone walking past at the wrong time is in danger from me. I live in a rough neighbourhood and standing up for yourself is necessary however wanting to hospitalise someone for no perticular reason isn’t. My anger scares me. Anyone with advice let me know. Counciling is not an option I hate 1 on 1 convos and am more likely to hit a stranger than talk to em.
Lynn SomersteinDecember 25th, 2014 at 6:44 PM
Snapping a lot is dangerous for yourself too, as well as to others. I hear that you’re scared– I think you should visit a doctor who can help find out what is causing you to snap, and maybe find a way to help you feel less angry.
Let me know how this works,
hollidaeDecember 29th, 2014 at 8:22 PM
Seems were not alone…
I have these same problems and I feel sad because I get so easily irritated and just yell.. ugh :( what is wrong with me? I read books to help, I try to exersize. .. I try to eat healthy and take vitamins and try breathing tactics. Isn’t helping.. could I be bipolar? Or depressed?? I have anxiety…I know that
hollidaeDecember 29th, 2014 at 8:23 PM
Good to know we’re all on the same page! We’re not alone.. tons of us are going through SOME sort of depression..
Lynn SomersteinDecember 30th, 2014 at 5:55 AM
You have plenty of company with these kinds of feelings, and I see you are dealing with them. Good. Exercise, reading self help books and a healthy life style all help; you might also like to talk to a therapist who could back you up and give you a hand too.
Have a shiny New Year,
LucyJanuary 3rd, 2015 at 2:36 PM
I’m 24 and writing because I’m at my wits end. I get agitated so easily but I can mask it around most people – as my boyfriend and I live together he feels the brunt of mood swings. I had the implant for years and had it taken out to see if this helped which it clearly hasn’t. I’m always on edge, sometimes he only has to say one thing to me and I just snap – it’s like I can’t stop the words before they come out of my mouth! It’s wearing him down and i feel terrible – I want to see if anybody has any suggestions before I go to the doctors. It’s definitely worse when I don’t eat well but I’ve been like this for as long as I can remember. Help!
elizabethJanuary 3rd, 2015 at 11:51 PM
hey im seeing alot of things on here i can relate to. does anybody have any idea what these symptoms are? im a 35 yr old mother with 5 kids and a husband. my kids are great but lately i have been getting so crazy for a while and i notice its getting worse and worse. i dont feel im depressed but i get up get ready do things throughout the day i dont feel like woes me my lifes so bad. im actually very fortunate great husband n great kids. but i have been flying off the handle of course i yell and dole out xtra chores when kids dont listen. but im getting to the point where im screaming more to get my kids to do things. im starting to get physical grabbing my kids and kicking their butts yelling/screaming grabbing kitchen chairs and pounding them against the floor and then after all that going into my bedroom and crying for the way iv just acted to my kids and in front of the smaller ones. i dunno wats going on with me am i overwhelmed? depressed? do i have some obsessive compulsive disorder. i dunno nor does my husband. all my dr wants to do is load me up with drugs and i dont really believe in taking drugs id rather like to know wats going on with me and deal with it in a more natural way. anybody have any ideas would be great. thanks
elizabethJanuary 4th, 2015 at 12:00 AM
oh also forgot to mention tried counseling and they never really told me what my symptoms were just more like b.s.ing and talking about stupid everyday crap. then just annoyed me more and angered me i was paying 75.00 for no results the 4x i went i cud of talked about the same stuff with my girlfriends for free. anyway sorry ranting again and getting agitated and angry again….lol thanks
ChristinaJanuary 4th, 2015 at 8:13 AM
I feel like I’m losing my mind. I get angry at a drop of a hat. I want to just run down the screaming and break things. My home situation has changed when my husband decided without me to let his troubled soon move in full time. We have a 7 year old son together and I felt this was a bad idea but had no say. I feel hatred toward my step son and husband right now. I can’t shake how I feel. I thought I had anxity bit those meds do nothing. I dint know what to do. I feel like a failure as a mother and wife.
Lynn SomersteinJanuary 4th, 2015 at 2:10 PM
Anger and anxiety problems are extra hard to manage; it takes time. If you choice is therapy, please make sure you give it enough time and energy. If your choice is medication, that takes time time too. Some people find a combination of therapy and medication works very well. Just remember, these problems are real and really hard to deal with. Give it your all. Don’t give up.
chelseaJanuary 5th, 2015 at 6:54 AM
I always get angry when its not my way and I upset my family they think I have a bad attitude to life I’ve lost my friends and I’m gonna lose my boyfriend because I get angry at him if he does the slightest thing he says I make everyone depressed because I’m depressed and that I don’t like anyone being happy and that IM gonna be alone if I don’t change the way I am and then I start crying because I feel so guilty help me what is wrong with me
HelpJanuary 5th, 2015 at 7:46 AM
Help, at wits end to tame an anger that’s raging all the times. I get upset and irritated at the slightest provocation, with people that I hardly knew and meet on a daily basis. There is an ongoing mean streaks in me and lashes out frequently, at top it off by being very sarcastic]c and judgmental.
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DJanuary 6th, 2015 at 7:12 AM
Folks, we’re all on the same page here it seems, but there’s very few proposals towards real answers/solutions. Here are my thoughts, and I hope they resonate somewhere somehow and perhaps generate talk that extends beyond venting.
Let’s stop hating ourselves. For being heavier than we would like, for being busier than we’d like, for being more tired and worn out than we’d like, for being less generous than we can afford, for not being as successful as quickly as we’d like…
We are unique. For whatever reason, we are so sharp to observe every little flaw in anything around us, we’re so quick to observe short-comings. Mostly, we are fortunate to be in the company of someone that creates a tiny ‘safe-zone’. This zone we use to express all of our fears, worries, concerns, frustrations, anger much as everyone else – except the manner is much more direct and intense. The ‘brunt’ our loved ones experience of our venting is more abrasive than others.
We want to avoid this. We want to stop this.
We’re loving, caring, sensitive, intelligent, hard working, insightful, passionate, funny, attractive, energetic, ambitious… that’s why we’re here right now having such a self-critical conscious discussion. So lets first and foremost refresh our awareness of those qualities.
Secondly, I give you permission. I give you permission to not feel like the whole world is your responsibility. All these traits we possess give us almost super powers… sight, hearing, touch, heart. Not everyone has the abilities I listed… they are completely oblivious to all the things we can see, through no fault of their own. They are not deficient or lacking… we are gifted. It is a gift to be so empathetic. We take it for granted, because there has never been any other way than to be thoughtful and kind, and considerate to your neighbors. It’s natural for us to assume this role as the good Samaritan, the selfless individual who gives and never asks.
We are a very special group, that will only find solace and comfort amongst ourselves. Those outside this group will always leave us wanting, or disappointed. Don’t misunderstand this as a hopeless cause. I’m letting you all know this, because you need to be told it to be aware of it in the first place.
Once you appreciate just how special you are, you will stop all this ridiculous talk about how bad you are.
Your actions, of frustration – the yelling and screaming, the nit-picking, mood swings, and grumpy disposition all the time are the cause of something incredibly simple.
You’re tired. You’re overwhelmed. You’re burnt out. You need a break.
I give you permission to not beat yourself up. It’s ok to put yourself first, your health.
Look after your health.
Eat well – cut out the sugar, comfort, and processed foods we love that give us that instant gratification every time we need them without fail.
Sleep well – you are just as human as everyone else, stop trying to do too much, for too many people, too much of the time.
That’s it. I promise you. Be kinder to yourself, in your thoughts and actions – and you will feel better. People around will feed off your brightness, and that’ll make you feel even better. It’s called a positive loop.
See you when you come around.
anneJanuary 14th, 2015 at 7:12 PM
Elizabeth, I can really relate to your story. I was always a pretty balanced and even-tempered person. Yes, I’d get grumpy when I was tired or stressed out, but after sleep and a bit of relaxation, I’d go right back to my cheerful self. A few years ago (late thirty’s), I became increasingly irritable, annoyed and had bouts of irrational and uncontrollable angry fits, like you describrd. And i was constipated, which didnt help. Sorry if that’s tmi! Not fun, and I just wanted my old self back. I suggest you check out the book, the mood cure. Google ‘the mood cure questionnaire’ before you buy the book to see if it would be helpful for you. I found i related to a serotonin deficiency. The book basically suggests that mood disorders and depression are caused by body and brain chemistry malfunction and recommends different ways to restore your individual chemistry. If nothing else, this book got me to LISTEN to my body. A disclaimer that the book suggests a billion supplements which i followed rather loosely. Its a pretty complicated regamin. After reading the book, i decided to start taking a quality multi vitamin (prob good for overall health, right?), fish oil supplement (a known mood-booster) and a calcium/magnesium supplement (which helps with constipation). I was already taking vitamin d which my doctor recommended based on deficiency found from blood tests. I did not take the specific brand of vitamins/suppliments suggested in the book, but I did purchase rather expensive multi-vitamins. I just wanted to get better:). I also temporarily took tryptophan 2x a day which is recommended in the book for serotonin deficiency (the book explains why). I started with one, as the book suggests, but needed to move up to two. I felt an easing of my anger almost immediately (2-3 days, I think). After 2 months, i started redcuing the tryptophan until i stopped taking it at about 2 1/2 months after starting. I felt almost (90%) back to my normal self by then. Which was awesome! In retrospect, this all started during a stressful time in my life. I’d just had my fourth child and wasn’t getting enough sleep. My husband had started a new job and was working late. I think I just got out of whack chemically and hormonally and couldnt get back to myself. Currently, I take the multi, calcium/magnisum, fish oil, vitamin d. When I’m feeling stressed out, I add a bcomplex in the morning, which seems to give me some energy if I slept poorly. I’ve also learned a few things about myself that will put me in a tailspin: I can’t be sleep deprived for more than two days…. And I have to, ummm – stay regular. Sorry, tmi again! Apparently, serotonin is produced in the gut. Or, so I’ve read. Anyway, definately a relationship there for me. Its been about a year and I don’t have all my answers yet… For example, i’ve recently been experimenting with taking Gaba at night when worry is keeping me awake, because I know lack of sleep is a bad thing for me. Also, spending a little time on a sunny day outside or in a sunny room helps me sleep better. Still, my outlook on life is 500x better than a year ago. And I’m a much better mother and wife. My kids have even said, ‘mom, you arent so grumpy anymore’.
My most important suggestion to you is to keep a journal of your mood and anything you think is relavent – diet, sleep, activity (for me, sunlight, sleep and bms!). This is especially important if you start taking supplements and vitamins because you WILL forget how your felt each day.
Good luck to you Elizabeth!
LoserJanuary 17th, 2015 at 6:44 AM
I read these posts and it’s me. I remember feeling this way my entire life.. i used to write poetry about how sad I was and always felt like I should end it with a line about it will get better one day. well I I’m 44 years old and it’s worse.
Lynn SomersteinJanuary 20th, 2015 at 12:12 PM
Writing poetry can help, but a consultation with a mental health worker and a physician may help even more. WHy not try it?
Lynn (also L)
LoserJanuary 28th, 2015 at 8:24 PM
I’ve tried therapy but no medicine can change the fact that I have been a hated loser by everyone who has ever known me my entire life. No talking will change that I have been a failure at everything I have ever tried. My family hates me and has cut me off. I am a failure in my career. A failure in my relationships and the best I can do for friends is a couple of guys who can tolerate my once every few months. I have to pretend I like being the annoying guy. I try so hard to figure out how not to be so hated. I try so hard to make people like me. I try so hard to do something well. I am so tired of being so hated. I am so tired of being jealous of characters in tv and movies for their pretend life I so desperately want. I am just so damn tired.
lynnJanuary 30th, 2015 at 11:20 AM
I have the same situation
mJanuary 31st, 2015 at 5:16 PM
I was lead here through google because I am EXACTLY the same as you! I have put it down to my age (over 40) I simply have no time for idiots in my life anymore. If I do not relate well to a person (have nothing in common with them and do not understand them) then I have absolutely no time what so ever for them! I do not think that you or I need to seek medical attention or therapy I think life has taught us one thing to live by. “Life is too short to waste time with inconsequential people”. Do not beleive the hype that you have depression, this is just your personality and nothing to be ashamed of!
lynnJanuary 31st, 2015 at 7:06 PM
My thing is I just don’t want to hurt my family but yet I don’t know how. I don’t know how to hold my tongue or my anger. I feel like I already told them over and over and that they should know me by now just as I know what and how they want things done their way. I feel like if I’m working hard and taking care of all my family why can’t they show appreciation and clean after themselves or look out for each other just as I taught each of them and do it for them. I can’t stand selfish people and have no tolerance for them. Although sometimes I wish I was more like that and less considerate or compassion. Its a burden to me. I’m more bitter each passing year where I think to myself ..I should just disappear instead of living wasting my life being bitter and angry all the time.
Lynn SomersteinFebruary 1st, 2015 at 4:30 PM
I know how it feels to be angry and frustrated with people. I try to remember that we humans “are all more alike than different.” That’s a tall order, and starts with feeling compassion for oneself. And then remembering it over and over, and spreading it around, paying it forward. Good luck to you. It’s hard work, but it pays off to value your life and your family’s life too.
MarisolFebruary 3rd, 2015 at 4:14 PM
well, my 50th birthday is this friday. I cannot believe it, I have been unhappy almost my entire life, now its even worse struggling with insomnia and menopause. Very negative, angry, alone, apathetic & afraid I will never feel any better. Can’t work anymore, besides being exhausted, work made me miserable, don’t know what I am going to do. Tried supplements, herbs, vitamins, etc. Been on antidepressants & antianxiety meds that make me feel worse. I bought the Mood Cure last week, tried Tryptophan, it made me sick and bloated with a pain in the side of my head! Why do these things work for others, but nothing works for me? I Do Not Have Insurance or Money for Therapy! So to keep recommending therapy is fruitless when you need to have high quality insurance or money to pay for it.
LoserFebruary 4th, 2015 at 4:50 AM
Therapy is great for a person who had a trauma to help them get back on the path. I was never on the path. ..it’s not a frame of mind…something about me makes everyone around me hate me..always has always will….therapy can’t help that any more than telling a hungry child that someone else has less food will make them full… I’ve tried to believe that things could get better but time and experience have proven that’s a lie.
Lynn SomersteinFebruary 4th, 2015 at 4:43 PM
You are trying hard and not getting much for you efforts, that’s for sure. You do need help, and there are resources for low cost therapy at schools and at institutes where people learn therapy. Hard to find, yes, but possible.
Menopause can be tough, I know, but take it from me, it will get better with time.
Take care and good luck,
Lynn SomersteinFebruary 4th, 2015 at 4:44 PM
Therapy is great for a person who had a trauma, as you say, and I agree, but it might help you too.
SarahFebruary 23rd, 2015 at 11:22 PM
I’ve always been ‘that’ person who couldn’t stand to ‘wait their turn’ in line; who couldn’t wait to get what they needed as soon as possible; I’be always been that way. And it keeps getting worse. Idk. I meant for that to be inspiring but it went nowhere tbh
unidentifieduserFebruary 24th, 2015 at 11:06 PM
Hey I use to be just like you but I outgrew it. I even say hello to the people that use to Bully me. I know it’s harder around that age. My father was real strict so I got picked on for being quiet like you. What is your talent in? You could probably get people to like you like that and be careful everyone that says hi to you is not your friend. Everyone has some thing special about them. Don’t let that girl ruin your life. Why she is at home most likely enjoying hers. You could probably meet some cool friends you can trust. I use to want to be popular to but people with alot of friends go through things like it’s always someone fake in those grpups find you a few small close friend think about those girls who don’t think it’s funny when you’re getting picked on and the ones that don’t pick on you. I met a few great friends and my best friends through middle school and high school and we keep each others secrets until this day and build each other up. When one of us is falling. It’s not as bad as it seems. You are unique and beautiful because of the way that. God made you. Everyone gets picked on the people that are picking on you are insecure so they are picking on you to be cool because as soon as they don’t. They will get picked on that is still no excuse though. My diary use to help me you can try writing in that or your journal. Everyone in this world is judged by people in a good and bad way. The people picking on you. They have gotten picked on too. Remember someone loves you and thinks of you in a better way than they do. God your mom etc some people on the I
comments I love you too because you are my little sister through God I hope I could help. live simple and enjoy life. Don’t let that ruin your young years because it’s some people in there that would be your friend. make sure you observe people first don’t be friends with that girl or people that pick on you or laugh at the people that pick on you jokes. Try this promise yourself you will say hi to 1 person and start a conversation. You could say something like nice jacket etc. or discuss stuff teens discuss like prom, how cool your favorite teacher is. Favorite celebrity, favorite movie, Favorite TV show, It’s been so long since I was a teen even though I was getting bullied U miss my teen years. It’s when you create who you are becoming that’s high school but years will fly by most of the people picking on you. You will not see again after middle school and high school think about it like this. I have to get out of this she’ll so I can get a job and earn my own money. When I get older. Or you could escape by going into lala land day dreaming that worked for me to keep your head up!!!
unidentifieduserFebruary 24th, 2015 at 11:08 PM
Sorry my phone meant you will miss your teen years
unidentifieduserFebruary 24th, 2015 at 11:10 PM
Excuse all the typos it’s seriously this phone I hope you can understand what I meant with the typos!
DdadFebruary 25th, 2015 at 8:04 AM
I know what it is like. Depressed. Isolated and lonely. I’d like to die but the fear of dying depresses me further.
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MikeMarch 17th, 2015 at 5:54 AM
2 words. Adderall. 😊 anti depressants and anxiety meds make you “ok” with being a “loser” and those types of meds make you satisfied with your current situation. Objectively though your abilities or performance in social settings or at work might not change much. I like adderall because I take life “by the horns” and change the shit I don’t like.
LoserMarch 18th, 2015 at 5:02 PM
Alone in a Crowd
Each man walks as if though alone
Knows of pain, feeling nothing
Dreams of a tomorrow never to come
Oblivious to the passing hour
What then is one to do?
With whom? For we ourselves are the enemy
Cry out then? STOP!!!!
But who will pause to listen?
So we continue on our chosen paths
and pretend to see no pain than our own.
We seek solace in this forced ignorance
Until the world begins to fade around us
and we truly walk alone.
Another soul has died….and no one cares.
AmommaMarch 28th, 2015 at 4:32 AM
Dearest (not a)-Loser
If you are being honest here, it’s time to take a long, hard look in the mirror. We, as humans, are all responsible in some way, for everything that happens to us in our lives beyond the age of 12 years old. Sometimes it’s a direct connection and sometimes it’s an indirect connection. You say that people have hated you your whole life. It’s more likely they hate your actions, something about your looks, your opinions or etc. Normally I would say other people hating on you is more about themselves than you, but if this is something you’ve been dealing with your entire life, it has something to do with your actions being perceived as attacks on other people. If you aren’t trying to upset people then it is your responsibility to make sure people understand you and the point you’re trying to make. Consider the most common reasons people get upset with you. Are you insulting people? Are you being obnoxious? Do you respect people’s personal bubbles? Do you put other people’s needs above your own? Are you unreliable as a friend, colleague, or boyfriend? It’s not always about you in this world but if everyone is getting angry with you for the same reasons, you might want to consider trying to change. If none of this is making sense to you, you might go to the doctor and be tested for high functioning autism or Aspergers (sp?) syndrome. Just a thought. Above all keep in mind you don’t have to be a loser. It’s up to you to change your path.
AmommaMarch 28th, 2015 at 4:37 AM
One more point I forgot to make…if you find that people are always mean to you or angry with you, it could be because you attract people like that to you. Try smiling at everyone you meet and really feel the smile. It releases a chemical in our bodies which makes us feel happier almost instantly. And when you’re smiling you tend to attract other happy people. Surrounding yourself with happy people can go along way in making you a happier person. I truly and sincerely hope your life turns around sir. No one deserves to live their life in sadness, pain, anger or the loneliness. Blessings to you.
nikkiApril 1st, 2015 at 11:38 AM
I need help.. I’ve struggled my whole life with the irritability and anxiety.. lately its REALLY bad… I have two boys aged 2 and 1 and I feel like all I do is yell.. I want to be normal n play n be silly with my children.. but I can’t bc I’m worried about them getting hurt. Its so bad if they’re on my couch and stand up I start having a mini panic attack. I yell and burst into tears all the time. Its overwehlming irrational and exhausting. Every little thing sets me off anymore and I feel like I’m losing control again :( I don’t wanna live every day feeling like this anymore
MarthaApril 1st, 2015 at 9:16 PM
Dear Amomma, I think your comment is practical, thoughtful and insightful. I think it shows you are aware and observant of how humans interact within the brief time we are given to live our lives on earth. Well said and, I believe, kindly meant.
Scribz nApril 20th, 2015 at 6:50 AM
Adderrall is a drug that should be illegal it is even more potent and definitely stronger that cocaine. As well it is more damaging.
PaulaApril 23rd, 2015 at 5:49 PM
Wow, that was beautiful Loser, do you write that or was it by someone else ? I would love to use that poem, with permission of course.
loserApril 24th, 2015 at 3:11 AM
That’s all me.. as Freud said.. “an understanding of the rules of human behavior does not excuse you from them”. I have been accumulating my poems for many years. Thank you. I’m glad you liked it.
MichelleApril 29th, 2015 at 6:25 PM
Nikki, I feel your pain. When my oldest was younger, around 2, I found myself constantly yelling. I am sure you are getting it double with two kids. So my first advice is step back, breathe and say to yourself, the situation is not bad. You’re a good mom. You just are frustrated. That’s ok. Next, when the babies do something that you find yourself wanting to yell, ask yourself if it’s a serious situation? Are they about to hurt themselves or someone else? Then breathe. Then decide what is an appropriate reaction to the situation. For example, you find them with Sharpies and your walls are now black along with the carpet, their hands, clothes and well, everything. You’re going to flip at first. They probably just ruined quite a bit. But instead of yelling, just stop, and laugh. Force it if you have to. Think about how funny the story will be to tell when they are teenagers and their friends are over. Then take away the markers, tell them that their art is appreciated on paper and buy some Magic Erasers. Oh, and at least it’s not poop.
The next piece of advice, have girlfriends that you can hang out with and leave the little ones with when things get too much. You need a break and adult time.
Third advice, if you are still feeling irritable, talk to your doctor. Might be more than just two kids that are angels when they sleep.
Hope you find peace.
MichelleApril 29th, 2015 at 6:31 PM
Ddad, I hope you are feeling better. If you want to talk, feel free.
DeadMay 3rd, 2015 at 2:54 PM
Things got better for awhile but as usual I’m right back to where I started.
WesleyMay 8th, 2015 at 3:34 PM
.. hmm .. a lot of this . i like my solitude, and i have a small social group and blah .. isolation or self decided or self created isolation is possibly a major part of the problem . as because we cut off what we don’t want to deal with, that the next closest thing, becomes something to have to deal with .. being the small social group or close family .. it also assists with making sure that we have less experience with interacting with .. nonsensey people .. so any nonsense that turns up becomes something to have to deal with, rather than water off a ducks back stuff to just brush off easily .. maybe even . like . over protecting ones little bubble of fake peace ..
also something along the line of . because we’re always in control of our own little bubble, things usually go our way within that bubble. when things dont go our way, we’ve spoilt ourselves with always having our own way, that we dont cope decently well with those pooey experiences outside our bubble environment, or we might be taking it so personally that nonsensey stuffs trying to intrude our peaceful bubble ..
duno . just noticing and thoughts .. am slightly same, else i wouldnt have looked this up and be here and stuff :P .. bleh ..
Dr. Lynn SomersteinMay 8th, 2015 at 5:42 PM
thanks for noticing, thinking, writing. . .
SIYANDAMay 17th, 2015 at 12:10 PM
PLEASE HELP ME BEFORE I LOOSE PEOPLE I LOVE.RECENTLY AM MOSTLY IRRITATED AND GET ANGRY EASILY OVER SMALL THINGS,AN I TAKE MY FEELINGS ON PPL I LOVE AND IT HURTS THEM AS MUCH AS IT HURTS ME AFTERWARDS,IV NEVER BEEN LIKE THIS BEFORE BUT I DNT KNOW IF AM WRONG BUT I THINK THIS IS THE UNCONCIOUS FEELINGS AND PAIN FROM MY PAST(I THINK) AND AM ONLY FEELING THEM NOW UNAWARE BUT BY SAYING THAT AM NOT DIAGNOSING MY SELF I REALY REALY NEED UR HELP PLEASE
Lynn SomersteinMay 18th, 2015 at 11:29 AM
You sound like you’re in great pain.I advise you to seek counselling as soon as you can, so you can find out what is the cause of these feelings and what might help you deal with them.
BecMay 18th, 2015 at 3:11 PM
Thank you so much D
AmberJune 2nd, 2015 at 9:52 AM
Hi.im constantly depressed over everything and it’s like anyone I see I feel like I hate them or they’re judging me. I’m always over thinking or being paranoid, im always anxious no matter how “normal” I try to be I know I’m anxious. I always think my boyfriend has probably cheated with me,or is going to leave me before we get married or leave me at the registry office. He gets annoyed with me because sometimes I don’t ask him for money when I say I haven’t got any money and say I haven’t ate and i ask my mum he gets annoyed,well I say annoyed because of my depression,I think he’s getting annoyed with me, and he said why don’t you ask me for money, is it because you don’t love me? And that question angered me so much because I feel like my depression and trust issues is going to take over for good and then he’ll get fed up and leave like my so called friends did. I have tried to get help but am not aloud medication because I am 17. I was bullied badly and feel like I shouldn’t have a boyfriend, because I’m always having thoughts of he’s probably cheating, he’s probably lied to me a lot about not having ever drank or done drugs, I can’t even trust anyone because of the way I have been treated and I don’t want to lose him or start accusing him of stuff he probably hasn’t done. .I love him loads but sometimes I think he doesn’t see it , and we’re getting married just in three months time and I’m worried about everything because of my mum and my family, they don’t like him because he’s not English, they make me feel more worried than ever because they always say foreign people never last, they lie and they forever keep secrets from you..I don’t believe this but then my depression makes up stories and scenarios so then ill start getting stressed out. ..
Lynn SomersteinJune 2nd, 2015 at 5:06 PM
Amber, is you’re old enough to think about getting married then I wonder why you’re not old enough to take medication, if in fact you do need.
Clearly you are in pain. I think your best bet is to be in therapy and work on these issues so you can get some clarity and peace.
JoelleJune 5th, 2015 at 5:30 PM
Hello.. I really need help, I get irritated over everything… I just feel sad like no one really likes me not even my family… I just don’t know anymore
June 6th, 2015 at
I’m sorry to hear you feel so alone. YOu might find it helpful to talk this over with a counselor and see if that helps.
wesleyJune 7th, 2015 at 1:42 PM
whats the bully part about ? . as u seem to imply it affecting ur perception n feelingz of life stuf .. note . consider . how we are affects how others may b too . when we show how we dont want to accept sumin from others . sometimes its a hurtful behaviour at others. maybe pause n breathe befire reacting or giving a final answer reaction behaviour .. or sumin?
wesleyJune 7th, 2015 at 1:43 PM
do u notice if u do thingz that or to upset others around u? .. do u listen properly and actively listen when around ur fam?
RachellJune 9th, 2015 at 12:24 AM
I feel exactly the same. I was so angry tonight, I felt like kicking, throwing the vs around. I didn’t. I would had to replace things, which I don’t hAve funds to do so. I don’t have friends near by. I don’t know how to make them. I have boyfriend for 4 years. I am tormented to leave or stay. Oh, this is about u not me.
RachellJune 9th, 2015 at 12:29 AM
Yes I do,after the damage. Feeling bad and sometimes apologize. I have no control at times. Some is said that I think I need to defend myself.
RachellJune 9th, 2015 at 12:33 AM
I am on meds for these outbursts. .still angry especially with my boyfriend. He won’t commit till his daughter leave home. 19 and 33 years old. I’m 58, look like 40. So I was told.
RachellJune 9th, 2015 at 12:42 AM
I guess I am a bully, since I tried to get along with girls. They are so spoiled by their father. He does everything for them. But they still bring dogs in peeling pooping and don’t clean up. I can’t live like that. He tells them about it. Cry and clean that day only. I don’t want say any thing else.
RachellJune 9th, 2015 at 12:56 AM
Sorry u feel alone..I feel alone too. I shouldn’t I have my God. I have family members who are all married. Except me asked. But was left because of my outbursts or some thing. I get blackouts and don’t recall what I did. That’s shy I’m on meds plus other emotional problems.
BriannaJune 9th, 2015 at 2:03 PM
I have the same problem I really don’t know we’re it comes from but it started a few month ago. I can be so happy one second and the next I don’t want to be around anyone. I just need to know is there something wrong with.
NikkiJune 9th, 2015 at 7:51 PM
Turned out to be more than the kids…I ended up going to my dr.. I’ve been diagnosed with depression before..he sent me to see a therapist and I ended uo gettinv diagnosed with bipolar II.. been on meds for about two months now..said I’ve probably been like this most of my life and never got diagnosed…I feel so much better :)
Lynn SomersteinJune 10th, 2015 at 11:04 AM
Nikki, I’m so glad that you are feeling better. Thank you very much for the update.
WesleyJune 10th, 2015 at 3:05 PM
hmm .. sumtimes not wanting to be around others may relate to wanting sum time to recharge energy to get to be around others in a little while soon after :P .. * unsure */ obviously not all the time * .. just sumtimes
Lucy gucyJune 14th, 2015 at 3:06 AM
I too suffer the frustration of being annoyed often by others stupidity… I am judgemental and wish people thought like me.. but what I also know is that it isn’t them with the problems, it’s me…I am the one whom struggles to play nice, to keep remarks to myself, make believe I sympathize when I actually want to tell them what an idiot they are.. I realize I have overwhelmed myself with others issues that I should be able to blow off.. So the real problem is why can’t I… One thought that keeps me grounded on occasion is We see in others what we believe about ourselves…So Maybe I really believe I am the stupid one so all their shortcomings that irritate me are really the beliefs about myself thAt I hate so much….
Lucy gucyJune 14th, 2015 at 3:31 AM
The other side of the coin for me is worrying about the after effects of a unintended remark or judgement I may have made during a conversation, I replay the conversation and the body language etc..over and over in my head for hrs sometimes days, (again exhausting for me ) and I usually determine they didn’t like me, I came off condescending, rude, mean etc.. and I feel remorse and sadness, cause I don’t want anyone to not like me. This is a very mad and vicious demon, it has almost taken over my life..I have my good days, but far and few between.. As I get older and no longer like to travel alone to visit family and friends…I realize many of these relationships were based on the convenience of me traveling to them and this hurts. Some of them are annoyed that I am no longer conveniently available to attend every holiday or function….. texts and calls are almost non existent now, in hindsight most were just about when I would be visiting and how long I could stay..Most contact now comes from me and if I can’t visit, they are annoyed, this has been painful and difficult to let go after 20 years.. I hope this is a big part of feeling annoyed and once they realize things have changed for good. They will stop with guilt trips….
LoserJune 14th, 2015 at 12:19 PM
I know exactly what you mean. Sometime you try so hard to get along. you think about every word you say – what people want to hear – how to get them to like you – your true feelings you keep to yourself – no matter how hard you try you can see the disdain in their eyes – you can see they don’t want to be with you – you see everyone else in the world going about life and having it intermingle with others and for whatever reason – you are never a part of it. you might sometimes be in the same room – but never a part of it –
when i was young i just didn’t go to anything – no dances – no prom – not anything – it didn’t take a any great brilliance to realize they didn’t want me there so i stayed away.
but i too replay every single conversation over and over again – what did they mean – what did that hand gesture indicate. i feel that due to their disdain and the social rules of etiquette it is highly unlikely that anyone, forced to speak to me will likely be honest – so i have to deduce what they truly mean. beyond of the course the obvious – i wish they guy would just go the f away and not talk to me.
the hulkJune 25th, 2015 at 11:13 AM
I don’t like people, there all the same, bunch of two faced snakes out to f*** u, your mom your wife. We live in a F*** u f*** me f*** everyone society barely able to survive and we’ve Forget that we r all brothers and sisters and Jesus Christ Is are heavenly father.
Now we all have Anxiety depression bi polar probably a dozen disorders who f*** knows its pissing me off the attacks are embarrassing quit taken meds and started ripping everyone’s a** . I stick to my self and my kids only two I enjoy being around.
Lynn SomersteinJune 25th, 2015 at 4:58 PM
As I remember the Incredible Hulk has a sweet side too. True?
Who caresJune 28th, 2015 at 1:21 PM
Do u have all limbs? I hope so and you should be thankful for that and another day of life….get out and travel, smell the fresh air, walk around the park when u feel dwn get a hobby MAKE friends….just know theres people out there having a real struggle like cancer or something uncurable or a husband beating them etc. Even though theres an answer for that but its hard bn there done that!!! 😕 Sometimes I feel like I hate my life because of so many things and I get angry like I never have before and don’t understand why my blood boils with little things but I try and keep it in and breath because my husband would just make it worse and make me feel so much worse if he realizes that I am so angry over REALLY nothing….so My blood boils for a bit thn I start putting my mind on something else or leave and take a short drive and then im over it….but really start thinking about how much worse I could have it…my mother in law got sick a couple months ago and so many things started happening to her and last wk they had to amputate one of her legs 😔 but guess what she was always complaining abt life and NOW shes realizing how much she should appreciate life and I hope she continues that attitude ….just letting everyone know it could be worse….GOD BLESS EVERYONE…I know ths is old posts but felt like I had to say something.I hope everyones well! More positive thinking for all of us! (Me2)
Lynn S.June 28th, 2015 at 4:25 PM
Dear Who Cares-
You go, girl!
JoJuly 1st, 2015 at 9:45 AM
Yes. This. You have expressed this so well!
GambitAugust 10th, 2015 at 3:26 PM
You are so right!!! The world is full of two faced snakes! People don’t seem to want to see you succeed which is actually sad.
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