Therapists Are Human Too!
February 17th, 2009 |
A GoodTherapy.org Featured Column written by Greg Madison, PhD
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At times I can be didactic and preachy with clients. I fall into believing that I have some special knowledge about life. I believe that I’m expected to pass along little gems of wisdom in sessions as if I know what life is really about. My client and I collude in forgetting that this is my first life too, what do I know? Outside the consulting room I am not always so wise. I can lose my soft-spoken reflective stance and be as reactive and unreasonable as the next person. I would say it’s worse for therapists when this happens – we have the extra layer of shame that comes from feeling we should know better. What if a client saw me arguing with the bank teller, pushing my way onto a crowded train…
Who do you have to be to be a therapist?
I am coming to the realisation that some of the most significant and poignant moments in therapy are not really about the content of the discussion. Not really about behaviour change or unravelling the past. In fact, in a sense, not really about the client’s trouble at all. In the deepest moments of therapy I am freed by my client and my client is freed by me. Read the rest of this entry








