Category: Right Use of Power
The Good Therapy Blog
July 7th, 2011 |
"When trust and confidence--at both the personal and institutional levels--are high, democracy works better, the economy develops with fewer problems, interpersonal relations are easier and more straightforward, people behave more altruistically, and standards of living increase."
-Aitor Riveiro: The costs of a skeptical society, June 21, 2011: El Pais reporting on results of several pieces of sociological research.
This may not be a surprising conclusion, but I find the idea that... Read More
May 6th, 2011 |
I enjoy reading the responses to my articles. Responses to the most recent one of Feedback: The Single Most Important Skill, focused on the complexity of giving and receiving feedback. I want to now add a few comments to those responses. Here are some challenges I have named related to using feedback.
A. A Fear of causing pain or disregard for causing pain
"D" says, "someone may have done a very bad job and you could be furious with him or her, or you may be a frank person, but this does not entitle you to shout at the person... Read More
April 12th, 2011 |
A GoodTherapy.org Announcement
Are you interested in the topic of bullying? Worried about how bullying is affecting you or your kids? Wondering what can be done about bullying? This Friday, April 15th at 4:00 p.m. Pacific (7:00 p.m. Eastern), GoodTherapy.org will be hosting There's a Bully in All of Us presented by Judith Barr, MS, LMHC, LPC, CCMHC. Designed for non-mental health professionals, this FREE sixty minute Web Conference is open to the public. In this presentation, Judith will discuss the tragedy of bullying, and... Read More
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January 25th, 2011 |
Now that you understand what co-dependency is and how it develops, where do you start your healing process. It involves changing some lifelong beliefs and behaviors.
Belief #1: I am responsible for everybody and everything.
No, you are not. You are responsible for yourself, your feelings, your choices and taking care of yourself. You have a responsibility for your minor children, but you do not have much control over what they do. You can encourage their good behaviors and discourage their negative ones. Accepting your powerlessness over others will give you a tremendous sense of relief.... Read More
January 24th, 2011 |
NOT power OVER, but power WITH! How often have you heard this phrase, almost a chant, seeming to clarify, simplify, and resolve issues about power with just these six words. I’d like to invite you to look deeper.
From my perspective, there are two significant ways to misuse professional and personal power: over-using it and under-using it. In my Right Use of Power programs, I ask people, literally, to line up on a continuum based on their own assessment of where they tend to find themselves, One extreme end of the continuum is overuse of power and the other extreme end is underuse of power.... Read More
December 29th, 2010 |
As adults, we are teaching our children how to follow rules, get along in society, and determine right from wrong. To do so we have to provide discipline, guidance and help our children to correct their mistakes and learn from them. This can be a difficult process, making us as adults feel guilty, nervous, and worried about disciplining the right way. To go along with your own thoughts and feelings, here are a few more tips and ideas. What consequences... Read More
December 27th, 2010 |
Since many people spend more waking hours at their workplace than at home, the dynamics of the work environment can certainly impact their mental health. High-stress work environments increase the need for stress and anxiety counseling, and intense, dangerous work increases the need for individual therapy, trauma debriefing, and counseling for PTSD. Within an office environment, the company culture, and even how employees are grouped, impacts how people feel about perceived injustices in the workplace. A new study from Rutgers... Read More
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December 7th, 2010 |
Walking through a large local discount store recently I was struck by the urge to buy things that I didn’t originally come to the store for. The item I had been shopping for was not on the shelf, and the similar items didn’t appeal to me. Still, somehow I was drawn toward displays of odds and ends. I noticed a thought creep into the back of my mind “Hey, maybe you could use one of these, it’s not that expensive.” It was difficult to walk away. I wondered though what the attraction was. Is it just the sheer volume of merchandise that makes it impossible not to see something else that you... Read More
August 16th, 2010 |
Self-esteem is a relational term. It describes a relationship between you and yourself. Having a solid sense of esteem for yourself puts you squarely in a partnership that is nurturing and accepting, as well as motivating and energizing.
Where does this relationship with you come from? How is it determined?
The answer for most of us is that our earliest relationships in life set the tone for our inner dialogue. This is good news, because it means that we can explore the origins of low self-esteem and intentionally create new relationships that fuel a more positive view of ourselves. Our... Read More
August 4th, 2010 |
How to De-activate the Shame State, Part III of Series is edited from Right Use of Power: The Heart of Ethics* by Cedar Barstow
Here is the final section on how de-activate shame, first in yourself, and then with others. Part I was about shame as a debilitating state of mind; part II addressed how to recognize the shame state. These continue to be available through GoodTherapy.org. I have had a number of responses to parts I and II. I’d like to share several... Read More
March 11th, 2010 |
A psychology teacher asked her ethics class, “All of you agree with the rule about no dual role relationships, right? “ (All heads nodded.) Then he said, “So, let’s get real here. I won’t report this, but I’m curious. How many of you have had a dual relationship with a client? How many of you have betrayed confidentiality? How many of you have had to deal with feeling attracted to a client? How many of you have caused harm, even if you didn’t intend to? Or how many of you have made a big mistake?” Most hands go up.... Read More
May 14th, 2009 |
The Story of Sharon
The discussion of corporate power, its misuses and abuses, abound in our world today. The story of John (see GT Blog 5-7-09) took this issue to a deep place: the place where change must occur in order for our world to recover. This place is within each of us. How do we use our personal power? Misuse and abuse of personal power can undermine the potential of any corporation.... Read More
May 7th, 2009 |
The Story of John
The discussion of corporate power, its misuses and abuses, abound in our world today. To name a few: companies allowing tainted products to go to market; corporations laying off loyal employees while the “higher ups” enjoy exorbitant salaries, bonuses, and big profits; corporations receiving huge bailouts and continuing to spend and spend on “perks” . . . including continuing to lobby congress for further bailouts. And still more: mortgage lending abuses leading to widespread... Read More
April 9th, 2009 |
Recently the U.S. backed President of Afghanistan, Hamid Karzai, reportedly signed a law which legalizes the rape of a wife by her husband by not allowing her to refuse sex, and prevents women from leaving the house without a man’s permission. This is a blatant attack on womanhood…and another example of the abuse of power that is rampant in our world. But this abuse is now out in... Read More
