Category: Worry
The Good Therapy Blog
November 21st, 2011 |
Many people come to therapy wanting to know why they have certain problems. They’ve been struggling with this problem for a long time and they want to understand why, because if they could just figure out the cause of the problem, they might be able to solve it. They might say something along the lines of:
“I just always have these thoughts about how other people are constantly judging me and criticizing me, and even though I know it’s probably not true, I can’t help the thoughts from being there. I don’t want to have to worry so much about what other people think of me. Why am I like... Read More
August 25th, 2011 |
Every one in a relationship wants to feel loved by their partner. To feel loved, many individuals will put on a happy face and maintain a persona that everything is fine, even when it isn’t. Often people are so good at acting like they are happy that the partner has no idea anything could be wrong.
Unfortunately, if you are projecting a happy demeanor when communicating with your partner, you may feel stuck in one place and very much alone. That’s because a lot of other feelings; sad, disappointed, mad, irritated, frustrated, fed up, discouraged, disheartened, worried, nervous, unsafe etc.... Read More
August 9th, 2011 |
Continuing in this series of how depression is experienced differently by different people, this is one that especially confuses people. Most people expect that depression will look like sadness, self-hate, despair, lack of ambition, and suicidal thoughts—and all of these are indeed ways that depression is experienced for some people some times. But for other people, depression manifests more like anxiety than anything else.
People with this type of... Read More
June 30th, 2011 |
If our children are experiencing anxiety, beginning to panic, to feel so sick they refuse school or activities we want to help them. Nevertheless, how can we help a child when they are so anxious all they can seem to think about is the stressor that is provoking their anxiety? As a parent, you do not want to make the situation worse. There are solutions to help children the following ideas can be used together or separately and with repeated practice, children can learn to decrease... Read More
June 8th, 2011 |
Most parents are uncomfortable when their children are upset or cry. But some parents are much more troubled by their children’s feelings when the child is reacting to physical separation. For these parents, leaving their child with a babysitter when they go out to dinner or dropping them at daycare or preschool when they go off to work, is emotionally unbearable. For parents who find the process of separating with their children so intolerable,... Read More
April 28th, 2011 |
This month our Paramita, or practice on the path towards happiness, is Patience. The practice of patience involves a shift in our perspective. Buddhist teacher Sylvia Boorstein says patience “…remains present as long as the mind remembers that things end…when their conditioning causes end...” Conditioning causes are the elements that are coming together in this particular place and time that are causing us stress. In other words, have patience, this too shall pass.
Note: stress could be celebrated as the only opportunity we have to practice patience. Of course, our habitual tendency... Read More
April 21st, 2011 |
If you were handed good health, laughter, and joy would you take it?
As far as I can tell, it is much more difficult to explain play than to experience it. Spring is the perfect time to try out some new ways to play, revisit some of your favorites, and most importantly bring a playful attitude to areas of life that feel less than playful. Play and your health improves without a doubt. With rates of obesity climbing for children and adults, social media depression as a new phenomenon, and more time spent in front of the computer and television than outdoors playing (to name a few changes due to... Read More
January 31st, 2011 |
The Bring Your Marriage Back into Balance series is designed to inspire and equip you with the very best tools, techniques, and tips for communicating your way back into balance. Here are Part One and Part Two in the series.
Today I bring you the third and last article in the series: Where Do We Go from Here?
Last month, I wrote about the need to be honest and vulnerable with your feelings. Hopefully... Read More
January 25th, 2011 |
Now that you understand what co-dependency is and how it develops, where do you start your healing process. It involves changing some lifelong beliefs and behaviors.
Belief #1: I am responsible for everybody and everything.
No, you are not. You are responsible for yourself, your feelings, your choices and taking care of yourself. You have a responsibility for your minor children, but you do not have much control over what they do. You can encourage their good behaviors and discourage their negative ones. Accepting your powerlessness over others will give you a tremendous sense of relief.... Read More
January 19th, 2011 |
Anima(ls) meaning breath….soul
By encouraging the soul’s interest in animals, we can embrace what animals have: resilience, pleasure, and a link to the elemental forms that sustain and renew us all.
-Neil Russack, MD
Most of us have encountered animals as pets, wild creatures, or dream animals. Connecting with animals often helps us break through barriers we create as humans and opens the door to new ways of living.
As you read this post, I hope your imagination is stirred with the hope of re-connecting you to your animal life. Animals (other than the human variety) bring... Read More
December 27th, 2010 |
Cancer. HIV. Diabetes. Heart Disease. Just a few of the words no one wants to hear from their doctor. You may have had nagging symptoms for months and come prepared for difficult news. Or you may feel just fine, with no idea that your lab results or physical examination may show worrisome results. Either way, being on the receiving end of a serious medical diagnosis brings a myriad of feelings and concerns.
What does this mean?
What treatment is recommended?
Can I talk... Read More
December 27th, 2010 |
Since many people spend more waking hours at their workplace than at home, the dynamics of the work environment can certainly impact their mental health. High-stress work environments increase the need for stress and anxiety counseling, and intense, dangerous work increases the need for individual therapy, trauma debriefing, and counseling for PTSD. Within an office environment, the company culture, and even how employees are grouped, impacts how people feel about perceived injustices in the workplace. A new study from Rutgers... Read More
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December 14th, 2010 |
Holidaze is not a misspelling. I use it because it is so indicative of what the holidays can feel like—a holy daze! As we run around buying gifts and preparing our foods and celebrations, it is so easy to forget ourselves and go far beyond our limits. When the gift opening or the meal or party that we’ve been so busy planning and preparing for finally arrives, we wonder why it’s hard to enjoy it. We wonder why we feel so exhausted, strung out and stressed. This article is a reminder to remember yourself in the rush of the holidays. What would it be like to really nurture yourself during... Read More
November 29th, 2010 |
We are what we think.
All that we are arises with our thoughts.
With our thoughts we make the world.
attr. to Buddha
I hope that many of you will have had a warm, happy Thanksgiving, surrounded by people you enjoy and care for, feeling a deep sense of connection. For those of you who were fortunate in those ways, I feel grateful on your behalf!
As November comes to an end, I’m reflecting on just how much we may not only want to be, but believe that we should be (even must be), happy and healthy, surrounded by loving friends and family, really enjoying it all – especially during... Read More
