Category: Shame and Guilt
The Good Therapy Blog
October 22nd, 2010 |
Seth Walsh, 13, Asher Brown, 13, Billy Lucas, 15, Tyler Clementi, 18, Raymond Chase, 19, all died within the last three weeks as a result of suicide. All of them were bullied or harassed for being perceived as gay. And these are just the names that we know. There are many others out there suffering and struggling through the discovery of their sexuality.
Every day gay teens or teens who are perceived as being "outside the box" are bullied and harassed for simply being who they are. This bullying can come from fellow students but there are also negative messages from families, teachers, television,... Read More
September 7th, 2010 |
Most of us are aware that communication and trust are key ingredients in any relationship, yet these pivotal ingredients are often negatively impacted by the vestiges of a traumatic experience.
Someone who has survived a traumatic event often struggles both with expressing her/himself and also with listening in an active manner. Active listening requires a certain amount of concentration as well as the absence of hypervigilance. However, post-trauma most people’s concentration level is below their pre-trauma baseline and their level of hypervigilance is higher than their pre-trauma baseline.... Read More
August 4th, 2010 |
How to De-activate the Shame State, Part III of Series is edited from Right Use of Power: The Heart of Ethics* by Cedar Barstow
Here is the final section on how de-activate shame, first in yourself, and then with others. Part I was about shame as a debilitating state of mind; part II addressed how to recognize the shame state. These continue to be available through GoodTherapy.org. I have had a number of responses to parts I and II. I’d like to share several... Read More
June 14th, 2010 |
This is a continuation of last month's article, "Are You Your Own Worst Enemy?" Here are seven reasons why people attack themselves:
1. Imitating Parents
We all learn how to take care of ourselves from imitating how our parents (or other caretakers) take care of us. So when parents or caretakers attack children emotionally, verbally, or physically, children learn to attack themselves like their parents do. Practicing over and over, people become good at self-attack and carry the skill into adulthood. It becomes an integral... Read More
May 19th, 2010 |
Unemployment is a downright monster. Most often, we see a lot of support for the unemployed person - building the resume, interviewing, networking, staying busy and being positive. I certainly hope and pray that our economy improves soon and each unemployed person finds work that is fulfilling in both meaning and income.
But how about support for the partners of unemployed people? Ms. Y*, for instance, came in the other day saying, Read More
April 30th, 2010 |
One of the consequences of being the social animals that humans are is the potential to be uncomfortable or anxious around other people. Sometimes we are born with this tendency and are labeled shy. Shy children tend to be more inhibited and fearful around people they don’t know well.
If in childhood they are adequately encouraged and supported these children often outgrow the shyness. Adolescence is another time in life when self-consciousness and discomfort with oneself is a difficulty. It is a time when how one fits into their peer group is of tantamount importance and effects their growing... Read More
March 17th, 2010 |
I spoke to a friend the other day who, like many others, has been hit hard by the economic downturn. In spite of health problems and the great difficulties he is undergoing, he so badly wanted to offer the work he does (in the field of healing), that he conducted a workshop and donated all of the proceeds to the institution that allowed him to use their facilities. So it surprised him when, upon turning in the donations and asking for some reimbursement for some copies he had to make for the workshop (a paltry amount), that he was then told about others who used the facilities who were able to... Read More
March 11th, 2010 |
A psychology teacher asked her ethics class, “All of you agree with the rule about no dual role relationships, right? “ (All heads nodded.) Then he said, “So, let’s get real here. I won’t report this, but I’m curious. How many of you have had a dual relationship with a client? How many of you have betrayed confidentiality? How many of you have had to deal with feeling attracted to a client? How many of you have caused harm, even if you didn’t intend to? Or how many of you have made a big mistake?” Most hands go up.... Read More
November 2nd, 2009 |
Recent debates about the acceptability of torture in certain situations has led to renewed academic interest in the subject, and a study at Harvard University has examined the effects of complicity on perceptions of guilt among people submitted to pain or stress. The study split participants into those who met and did not meet a woman who was later heard being “tortured” over an intercom by having her hand placed in ice water, based on... Read More
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September 27th, 2009 |
A GoodTherapy.org News Summary
Much of modern society is often termed as “shameless,” especially in terms of media and product promotion. But shame is still very much a part of the average human experience, and while some people may quickly and easily be able to overcome the feeling of shame, others may become debilitated. Shame, whether arising from a perceived faux-pas or other shortcoming, or from a traumatic event, can sometimes take hold of a person's self-image and cause them to feel powerless and essentially wrong or... Read More
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April 13th, 2009 |
A GoodTherapy.org News Update
Times have been harrowing for professionals in nearly every field of late. As the unemployment rate rises and media attention to the recession shows no signs of taking a break, workers are finding themselves thrust into a financially unhappy situation at larger numbers every day. It's perfectly understandable that those laid off from their jobs are susceptible to depression, anxiety,... Read More
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