Category: Divorce / Divorce Adjustment
The Good Therapy Blog
May 6th, 2010 |
“And what’s romance? Usually, a nice little tale where you are everything as you like it, where rain never wets your jacket and gnats never bite your nose and it’s always daisy-time.” —D. H. Lawrence
D. H. Lawrence reminds us that “romance” isn’t what we live with day to day. Marriages often end because fantasies do not become realities and attempts to maintain the marriage and challenge the fantasies are not successful.
So, what is divorce?
Is it a legal construct? Is it a financial puzzle to unravel? Is it a psychological event?
It generally includes some or all... Read More
April 1st, 2010 |
When two people divorce or end a relationship and they have children, they are faced with the need to continue a relationship that has not worked.
For some, this is not a difficult transition. They set up their separate households, work out a parenting plan, communicate efficiently about the needs of the children and move on to whatever comes next in their lives, while co-parenting.
Others experience some amount of rancor towards each other, argue about decisions regarding the children (including those they disagreed on in the marriage), carry the hurt feelings and blame into each discussion... Read More
February 11th, 2010 |
Horror of horrors—you’ve just caught your spouse listing his name on internet sites for meeting sexual partners. What now!! You are furious, and you let him know it in no uncertain terms.
Now fast forward one month later. What used to be a lovely marriage has turned into a nightmare. You are perpetually irritated. Nothing your husband does seems right in your eyes, and you let him now this in no uncertain terms as well. At first your husband looked remorseful about his internet searches. Now he tells you that he only does... Read More
January 25th, 2010 |
Your relationship with your children’s other parent has ended. It has taken some amount of soul searching after being told that your relationship is over. It may not have been an easy transition. Perhaps you have felt some combination of hurt, anger, depression, relief, guilt, uncertainty or hopefulness.
You've taken the time to address your feelings and find you are ready to think about getting into a new relationship. Or, you have left your relationship... Read More
January 15th, 2010 |
This article offers a few questions and answers on the topic of self-esteem and divorce.
Is it selfish or frivolous to worry about your self-esteem in the middle of a divorce?
No. Self-esteem increases your ability to take the emotional hit that divorce inevitably deals. It also gives you a reserve of personal resources to share with your kids, if you have them. When you increase your esteem for your authentic self, it’s like a single person planting a tree. If enough people do it, the whole environment benefits. And by... Read More
December 22nd, 2009 |
Many of you have been in the position of either deciding to divorce or having been asked for a divorce. Either way, you will be making very important emotional, legal and financial decisions with a person with whom you are most likely in some kind of conflict.
As you consider how to go about setting the wheels in motion for the next stage of your life, balancing your needs with the needs of your soon-to-be ex-partner and your children can be very challenging. This may be a time when you are feeling fear, disappointment, anger,... Read More
July 20th, 2009 |
A GoodTherapy.org News Update
Divorce is one of the more unpleasant experiences faced by people in the modern world, yet it remains one of the most common. Though ideas differ wildly about the wisdom of divorce and its potential effects on a family, there is little debate over the idea that the event can be especially difficult for children. Each year, however, a large number of children experience the impact that divorce can have on the concept of a family, with some circumstances more emotionally forgiving than others. In a... Read More
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July 1st, 2009 |
“I became a lawyer 20 years ago to represent children’s rights. I became a mediator to assist partners restructure their lives in the face of a divorce, and in doing so minimize the deleterious effects of separation.”
More and more couples are participating in divorce mediation to effectively communicate about their financial and parenting matters. Particularly where families are involved, all other dispute resolution processes are dwarfed by the advantages and benefits of the mediation process. The legal fees, costs and... Read More
August 12th, 2007 |
After what was hopefully at least a 2-year courtship, you now find yourself engaged. You’re excited and nervous as the big day approaches. You think you’ve got all the important questions asked and answered. Are the guests seated properly? Did we give the florist a deposit? Are all the relatives travel and lodging arrangements finalized? Has everything been done that needs to be done? While these are all important questions, many people fail to take the time to ask themselves key questions about how their life will change... Read More
