By Lynn Somerstein, PhD, RYT, Object Relations Topic Expert Contributor

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The magical age thirty scares people. Women especially start hearing their biological clocks ticking louder and louder, the alarm goes off, and they get frantic about establishing family and career.

Men sometimes feel this urgency too, and men and women both need to put down roots about this time, or they may never, instead floating though life, head in the clouds, feet off the ground, then find out when it’s very late in the game that they are alone in space. Read the rest of this entry

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Quarrels between couples are well-known for sometimes having lasting effects on mood, energy, and other important daily factors, but how such arguments manifest within the brain itself have largely been unknown. In a recent study performed by several researchers from Harvard University and the University of California at Berkeley, couples were given brain scans while viewing positive, negative, or neutral images of their partners. The study found that increased activity, interpreted as improved function, within the lateral prefrontal cortex predicted better moods in the days following feelings of conflict. The research may help counselors, therapists, and couples themselves better understand how to efficiently recover from arguments.

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By Jim Hutt, Ph.D., Family Problems Topic Expert Contributor

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In this article I want to focus on one particular aspect of recovering from an affair: punishing the offending partner.

I am frequently asked: “How long is this pain going to last!?” That’s impossible to answer, but I can give you one way to shorten the life span of your pain, and perhaps shorten the recovery process: If you’re punishing your partner, stop. Why? Because punishment can slow the recovery process, thereby extending the pain you are working so hard to reduce. Read the rest of this entry

By Pamela Lipe, MS, LP, Relationships & Marriage Topic Expert Contributor

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Do you and your spouse fight when you do your income taxes? Do you dread going over your expenses and income each year and so put it off until April 14? Do you brace yourself against the inevitable disagreements that come up when you talk finances with your spouse? You can keep a happy marriage during income tax season with some planning ahead.

To begin with, make some early decisions. When you agree on some basic premises about tax preparation, the process is smoother. Most relationships fare better if both partners are involved in decision making. Ask yourselves these questions: Read the rest of this entry

By Dana Vince, LMHC, Infidelity / Affair Recovery Topic Expert Contributor

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There are more than 400 million active users on Facebook. It has grown into a huge social networking site. While it is useful in that it gives you access to all your networks of friends and family and helps you stay in touch, there are some dangers to be aware of.

In my practice, I have had a steadily increasing number of couples with complaints that Facebook has become an issue in their relationship. It doesn’t have to be, but if you are not careful, it can certainly wreak havoc. Read the rest of this entry