Comments on: Is Your Body Totally Happy With Your Career Success? http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/body-career-success/ Exploring Healthy Psychotherapy Thu, 18 Mar 2010 00:50:37 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9 hourly 1 By: Dr. Jeanette Raymond, Ph.D. http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/body-career-success/comment-page-1/#comment-24803 Dr. Jeanette Raymond, Ph.D. Sun, 08 Nov 2009 01:17:33 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/?p=5575#comment-24803 Thanks for your comments Kennedy. I can understand your confusion if the idea that your body could have feelings and start acting out is new to you. When we have deep personal conflicts that are difficult to resolve, it becomes overwhelming and virtually impossible to live with this duality inside us. Often we hold onto one side of the conflict with our conscious minds and awareness, and our bodies become the receptacle for the other side. In the article I wrote Nadine was reminded by her body that if she became very successful she would have something very important to loose. It reminded her that she was only focusing on one part of her desires and forgetting that she had others that were in conflict. By making her feel heavy and ugly her body brought her back to the middle of the two sides of her conflict, so she couldn't be disloyal to one or the other. It was a wake up call that she really needs to deal with this dilemma. Our bodies speak for us when we become overwhelmed with emotion and never had the chance to speak of it early in life. That's when our bodies connect us back with our feelings. It acts as a proxy until you are ready to deal with the issues that have overwhelmed you. I hope this is of some help in understanding the concept. Thanks for your comments Kennedy. I can understand your confusion if the idea that your body could have feelings and start acting out is new to you.

When we have deep personal conflicts that are difficult to resolve, it becomes overwhelming and virtually impossible to live with this duality inside us. Often we hold onto one side of the conflict with our conscious minds and awareness, and our bodies become the receptacle for the other side.

In the article I wrote Nadine was reminded by her body that if she became very successful she would have something very important to loose. It reminded her that she was only focusing on one part of her desires and forgetting that she had others that were in conflict. By making her feel heavy and ugly her body brought her back to the middle of the two sides of her conflict, so she couldn’t be disloyal to one or the other. It was a wake up call that she really needs to deal with this dilemma.

Our bodies speak for us when we become overwhelmed with emotion and never had the chance to speak of it early in life. That’s when our bodies connect us back with our feelings. It acts as a proxy until you are ready to deal with the issues that have overwhelmed you.

I hope this is of some help in understanding the concept.

]]> By: Kennedy http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/body-career-success/comment-page-1/#comment-24771 Kennedy Fri, 06 Nov 2009 22:28:17 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/?p=5575#comment-24771 I dont know if i'm the only one but this actually sounds weird to me! i mean, why would my body not be happy with my own success...? On the other hand, there might well be complex reactions and things that happen with our body,which i don't know or understand about... anyway, it has been an education reading this article, something very new to me. I dont know if i’m the only one but this actually sounds weird to me! i mean, why would my body not be happy with my own success…?

On the other hand, there might well be complex reactions and things that happen with our body,which i don’t know or understand about… anyway, it has been an education reading this article, something very new to me.

]]> By: danny http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/body-career-success/comment-page-1/#comment-24759 danny Fri, 06 Nov 2009 18:00:28 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/?p=5575#comment-24759 Interesting article...although I had not read about something like this before, I have sometimes felt the way described here...didn't quite know, but now when I reflect back, I feel I have experienced it too. Interesting article…although I had not read about something like this before, I have sometimes felt the way described here…didn’t quite know, but now when I reflect back, I feel I have experienced it too.

]]> By: Jason http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/body-career-success/comment-page-1/#comment-24733 Jason Thu, 05 Nov 2009 23:48:45 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/?p=5575#comment-24733 Sometimes the body is more intuitive that what we choose to believe. we just have to do a better job at listening to those internal signals to find out the things that are going to be good for us in life. Even though you may achieve something that you may think that you have always wanted it may not necessarily be the right thing for you, or maybe just not the right time, and we need to pay more attention to those cues that could be giving us the messages that we so desperately need to clue into. Sometimes the body is more intuitive that what we choose to believe. we just have to do a better job at listening to those internal signals to find out the things that are going to be good for us in life. Even though you may achieve something that you may think that you have always wanted it may not necessarily be the right thing for you, or maybe just not the right time, and we need to pay more attention to those cues that could be giving us the messages that we so desperately need to clue into.

]]> By: Dr. Jeanette Raymond, Ph.D. http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/body-career-success/comment-page-1/#comment-24722 Dr. Jeanette Raymond, Ph.D. Thu, 05 Nov 2009 20:49:18 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/?p=5575#comment-24722 Thanks for your comment Harold. Deep emotional conflicts are very tough as you suggest and that's why your body plays up. It is kind of saying that the conflict is making you sick. It is a huge sign that you aren't able to manage it alone and it's time to get some professional help. Digesting the stuff that keeps the conflict alive eases the burden and shows you a pathway out of the mess. One place to do that is in therapy with a skilled professional who you are comfortable with. Thanks for your comment Harold. Deep emotional conflicts are very tough as you suggest and that’s why your body plays up. It is kind of saying that the conflict is making you sick. It is a huge sign that you aren’t able to manage it alone and it’s time to get some professional help. Digesting the stuff that keeps the conflict alive eases the burden and shows you a pathway out of the mess. One place to do that is in therapy with a skilled professional who you are comfortable with.

]]> By: HAROLD A H http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/body-career-success/comment-page-1/#comment-24718 HAROLD A H Thu, 05 Nov 2009 17:38:59 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/?p=5575#comment-24718 This is really a very difficult situation to make for anybody in that situation and position. And yes, I have been through such situations myself. Maybe not as stressful and tough, but I have surely been through conflicting thoughts arising from my own self. This is really a very difficult situation to make for anybody in that situation and position. And yes, I have been through such situations myself. Maybe not as stressful and tough, but I have surely been through conflicting thoughts arising from my own self.

]]>