Comments on: Aversion to Favors and Gifts http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/aversion-to-favors-and-gifts/ Exploring Healthy Psychotherapy Fri, 10 Feb 2012 01:06:51 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Sara http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/aversion-to-favors-and-gifts/#comment-22218 Sara Mon, 21 Sep 2009 14:32:35 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/aversion-to-favors-and-gifts/#comment-22218 You make a great point Renee. Most people are not expecting something in return and if they are then they are giving the gifts for the wrong reason to begin with and quite frankly that is not your problem. You make a great point Renee. Most people are not expecting something in return and if they are then they are giving the gifts for the wrong reason to begin with and quite frankly that is not your problem.

]]> By: Renee http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/aversion-to-favors-and-gifts/#comment-22136 Renee Sun, 20 Sep 2009 17:36:31 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/aversion-to-favors-and-gifts/#comment-22136 Take the gifts for what they are probably meant as, tokens of love or appreciation, and you can always find a way to give back in ways that does not always have to revolve around money. Offer babysitting or pet sitting services, or even just send someone a quick thank you card. Most people are not so shallow as to always expect you to reciprocate. Take the gifts for what they are probably meant as, tokens of love or appreciation, and you can always find a way to give back in ways that does not always have to revolve around money. Offer babysitting or pet sitting services, or even just send someone a quick thank you card. Most people are not so shallow as to always expect you to reciprocate.

]]> By: Holly http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/aversion-to-favors-and-gifts/#comment-22032 Holly Sat, 19 Sep 2009 04:01:04 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/aversion-to-favors-and-gifts/#comment-22032 Sometimes I do not like to recieve gifts or favors because then that makes me feel obligated to give something back in return even though I know good and well that this is probably not something that is expected at all. But when you feel obligated to give something in return and you do not necessarily have the funds to make that happen it can make you feel even worse! Sometimes I do not like to recieve gifts or favors because then that makes me feel obligated to give something back in return even though I know good and well that this is probably not something that is expected at all. But when you feel obligated to give something in return and you do not necessarily have the funds to make that happen it can make you feel even worse!

]]> By: Samm http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/aversion-to-favors-and-gifts/#comment-22015 Samm Fri, 18 Sep 2009 22:27:59 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/aversion-to-favors-and-gifts/#comment-22015 Interesting find, according to me...but a true one too... people who are troubled and under stress sometimes feel like others are trying to do them favors when in fact they are just trying to help. This feeling stems from the fact that they are not able to do or acquire a particular thing themselves and get a false inferiority complex and any help in such a situation is viewed as a favor and they reject it in most of the cases. Interesting find, according to me…but a true one too… people who are troubled and under stress sometimes feel like others are trying to do them favors when in fact they are just trying to help. This feeling stems from the fact that they are not able to do or acquire a particular thing themselves and get a false inferiority complex and any help in such a situation is viewed as a favor and they reject it in most of the cases.

]]> By: Yolanda http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/aversion-to-favors-and-gifts/#comment-22007 Yolanda Fri, 18 Sep 2009 20:14:15 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/aversion-to-favors-and-gifts/#comment-22007 Hey, how about this for a reason to refuse help? Businesses you can count on turning up. Friends and family you can't. They forget or just can't be bothered. Using a company's simpler. Obviously the no-shows don't feel that sense of obligation the article talks about! LOL Hey, how about this for a reason to refuse help? Businesses you can count on turning up. Friends and family you can’t. They forget or just can’t be bothered. Using a company’s simpler.

Obviously the no-shows don’t feel that sense of obligation the article talks about! LOL

]]> By: CraigH. http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/aversion-to-favors-and-gifts/#comment-22002 CraigH. Fri, 18 Sep 2009 19:09:32 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/aversion-to-favors-and-gifts/#comment-22002 The first thing I do when I hear a friend is moving is offer to help and I don't expect anything in return. Often times they will say no they have plenty and when the day arrives I get a call because of no-shows. I don't get why people offer and then don't go do it. The first thing I do when I hear a friend is moving is offer to help and I don’t expect anything in return. Often times they will say no they have plenty and when the day arrives I get a call because of no-shows. I don’t get why people offer and then don’t go do it.

]]> By: Pearl http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/aversion-to-favors-and-gifts/#comment-22001 Pearl Fri, 18 Sep 2009 18:44:24 +0000 http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/aversion-to-favors-and-gifts/#comment-22001 It's a shame you can't take a gift purely on face value without having to think about what the payback will be. It’s a shame you can’t take a gift purely on face value without having to think about what the payback will be.

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