Comments on: The NY Times Rounds Up Readers’ Top Tiffs with Therapists

By: Dannika

Dannika — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 10:09:32 +0000

I think we need to remember that we are not the only ones the therapist are listening to. They have to go through this all day long and although i’m not a therapist nor been to one, I’m sure this is a very tough job.

By: Robin

Robin — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 04:46:45 +0000

Every once in awhile my therapist does yawn – and you know what- I find it exceptionally human! I mean I yawn, my friends yawn – at 3 o’clock in the afternoon we have some sugar lows – I don’t take this as a sign of not being present with me – My therapist has always been there for me – but I also need her to be real like I am which means she gets sick, tired, etc. So come on people – eating, being late, asking you if you like her – I understand those… but let’s give the people who are there for us – listening, caring – most of the time – a break.

By: tabitha

tabitha — Sat, 11 Apr 2009 18:26:58 +0000

I hope other therapist don’t get the raw end of the deal just over a few bad apples.

By: Lisa Brookes Kift

Lisa Brookes Kift — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 20:30:21 +0000

As a therapist myself, this piece was shocking. I guess I never imagined there are others out there who actually fall asleep, eat or do some of the other things that were mentioned in this piece.

Yikes!

By: Jes

Jes — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 10:22:36 +0000

If I ever had a therapist fall asleep or yawn while i was in session, I think I would just walk out and find another who is willing to pay attention to my needs. I would almost not want to pay the annoying therapist, but that wouldn’t be right. I can’t imagine wasting money on something that is suppose to help me get thru something just to have the therapist act as if she is not intereted.

By: Lela

Lela — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 10:30:33 +0000

There’s a lot of talk about the Bad in the therapists, but I think if we do some research and checking up on a therapist if one is needed, we could find several good ones. I don’t think it’s fair to judge other therapist to the ones who are insincere and are too busy with their ownselves.

By: Taryn

Taryn — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 10:09:41 +0000

I guess there are good therapist and some not so good. I would hope that if I ever needed a therapist, that I wouldn’t get one who was more concerned about other things going on around THEM instead of focusing on the help I need.

By: Jeannie

Jeannie — Mon, 06 Apr 2009 23:12:33 +0000

How about someone who constantly interjects to tell you more about what is going on in their own lives instead of listening to you? If I faced this I would be wondering if this was a therapist who was in the right line of work after all.

By: Mica

Mica — Sun, 05 Apr 2009 18:43:41 +0000

I think Lindsay has a good point. I don’t think I could sit all day long and listen to everyone’s problems. I know everyone has them, but to listen to them ALL DAY LONG. I’m sure this gets to the best of the therapists.

By: Lindsay

Lindsay — Sat, 04 Apr 2009 17:39:05 +0000

Just to play devil’s advocate, we all have to remember that being a therapist is a tough job. You have to listen to the problems of others all day long, help patients process those problems and all the while maintain your own sense of sanity. How difficult all of that juggling must be! I wonder how many therapists have to seek help of their own just due to the stresses of having to help other people with their problems all day long? I am not saying that leering at the clock or yawning in the middle of sessions is acceptable but we do have to cut them some slack sometimes which I know is hard to do when we feel like we are paying them good money for their time. Sometimes I guess there is just no real winning situation.

By: Brandi

Brandi — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 12:14:42 +0000

One has to wonder if it is even worth going to therapy if all you are going to have to do is worry if the therapist is even listening to you. Whether she’s busy looking at the time, looking off or whatever. Jotting notes, I don’t think would bother me, since it tells me she is taking the time to do that

By: Megan

Megan — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 04:11:58 +0000

I was in therapy for kleptomaniac tendencies in my teen years. I think I rectified my act just to avoid going to my therapist who enjoyed digging his nose inside out. I know this is disgusting but I just had to say it here.

By: Nikki

Nikki — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 00:28:40 +0000

I had a counselor once who jiggled her leg the whole time and for some reason that annoyed the heck out of me. I could not concentrate on anything but that.

By: darlene

darlene — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 18:34:43 +0000

Ginny, you are so lucky to have found a therapist that is caring. I hope there are more therapist that are out there looking out for the best in their patients.

By: Belinda

Belinda — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 23:17:09 +0000

I’m sure there are still very good therapist out there who aren’t this bad. Ginny you are lucky to have a good therapist who really truly cares.

By: Ginny

Ginny — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 15:02:22 +0000

Maybe I am just lucky but I have found a wonderful therapist who never does any of those annoying things. She is always prompt and I never have the feeling that she has one eye on the clock during our sessions together. I get from her a sense that she genuinely cares about what is going on in my life and that she really cares about me and getting me to a happy place. Just knowing that she cares really helps me a lot.

By: Wendi

Wendi — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 10:32:47 +0000

This is a very good article and I enjoyed reading it. I can’t believe some of the therapist would do this, but I guess some are just out for the money

By: Tara

Tara — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 10:25:23 +0000

I can see why these would annoy a client. If I was a client and seen her/him yawn, I would think my problems were not important. It’s sad to think a therapist, who knows better, would do such things in front of their client knowing full well that sooner or later the client would pick up on this.

By: Dave

Dave — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 09:28:11 +0000

Probably why a lot of people dont opt for therapy is one friend with a bad experience with therapy can totally discourage a person from trying it themselves.

By: Amy

Amy — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 08:51:08 +0000

Hey, I think if I was a patient I would feel totally unimportant if my therapist asked me questions through a mouth full of food. A lot of people who go to church rarely do get a much needed siesta because they are bored. That explains the yawning therapist. If the therapist is genuinely tired then he should refrain from keeping too many appointments.