Dear Members and Visitors to GoodTherapy.org,

Today a virtual gathering of 112 GoodTherapy.org Members enjoyed the second teleconference in our 2009 Teleconference Series: ‘Conflict Resolution: Skills for Couples & Counselors’ presented by Susan Heitler, Ph.D. Thank you Susan for sharing your work and teaching us about the art of conflict resolution.

Dr. Susan Heitler, Ph.D. graduated from Harvard in 1967, earned a masters degree in education at Boston University and then a doctorate in psychology from New York University. Susan has been a private practice clinical psychologist in Denver for 30 plus years and has made significant contributions to the theory and practice of psychotherapy. Her primary mission has been to highlight for therapists the importance of becoming an expert at conflict resolution. Read the rest of this entry

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A GoodTherapy.org News Update Presented by Jolyn Wells-Moran, PhD, MSW

Conventional wisdom has insisted on complete abstinence for people who have drinking problems, but moderation may be better advice. The current issue of the Harvard Mental Health Newsletter reports that it may be best to recommend that men have up to two drinks per day and women, one drink per day. This is certainly a conservative definition of moderation for many drinkers, but an amount unlikely to cause ill health effects. The authors explain that individuals who are alcohol dependent will probably not be able to control the drinking to that extent, and therefore, may realize their alcohol dependence and seek help.

After all, how many people who are dependent on alcohol take advice from anyone to abstain? It’s common that alcoholics who eventually accept treatment, do so because of some type of serious consequence of their drinking. The loss may be of a marriage, a home, a job, relationships with children, prison, serious health problems or something else. No one can say what will convince a particular dependent person to quit drinking, but advice is rarely a motivation. Some people with alcohol dependence never quit for good. Learning for oneself that just a drink or two per day isn’t possible may provide an individual with evidence that he or she needs treatment.

For other drinkers, moderation can prevent the terrible sinkhole that is dependency on alcohol. The progression from excessive drinking to dependence to the ill health and social effects of alcoholism is much more easily understood by someone who drinks too much, yet hasn’t developed a dependency and the denial that accompanies alcoholism. Drinking in moderation is attainable for this group and can save them from that dangerously rocky, downhill road of alcoholism.

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By Jeanette Raymond, Ph.D.

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Shantal’s relief at opening her front door lasted exactly one minute. One look at Andre’s face told her that he was overflowing with irritation. She braced herself for the complaints he had stored up during her absence at a work conference. The barrage began right away. Shantal escaped to the bedroom. She crawled into bed without bothering to unpack, and tuned out. She felt like a dumpster being filled with four days worth of stinking trash.

Andre put his arm around his wife and nibbled at her ears. That usually turned her on, but not this time. She said she was tired after her trip and wasn’t in the mood for sex. Andre let out a big sigh. He had been looking forward to making love with his wife. He had hoped that a few days apart would make her want him again. His imagination went wild with images of a frustrating sexless marriage. That would be unacceptable What was he to do? He didn’t want to cheat, and he couldn’t tolerate the thought of Shantal looking elsewhere for sexual satisfaction. Read the rest of this entry

By Will Nuessle, Ph.D.

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“I feel fine every time she’s around me now
And she’s around me now, almost all the time
When I’m well you can tell she’s been with me now
And she’s been with me now such a long, long time
And I feel fine”

“Every now and then the things I lean on lose their meaning
And I find myself careening
Down to the place I must not let me go.
She has the power to go where no-one else can find me
And silently remind me
Of the happiness and good times that I know.”
~James Taylor from “Something in the Way She Moves”

The words in this James Taylor song express the need for love and understanding that we all want from a safe nurturing relationship. Unfortunately many times it is difficult for people to form the secure trusting relationship bond that leads to a calming effect on upset emotions. Instead relationship conflict can often send a couple into a seemingly endless and very destructive cycle of either blame and recrimination or pained withdrawal. Read the rest of this entry

A GoodTherapy.org News Update Presented by Jolyn Wells-Moran, PhD, MSW

Persuasive evidence of the same genetic cause for bipolar disorder and schizophrenia was published this month in Lancet, January 16, 2009. The study, conducted by medical scientists in the Department of Medical Epidemiology and Biostatistics Karolinska Institutet, a Swedish university medical center, included two million families. There has been a growing body of evidence that suggests a link between the disorders, but the researchers claim this study shows positive proof, according to a press release from Karolinska Instituet.

Karolinska’s researchers looked at records of 35,985 people with schizophrenia, 40,487 people with bipolar disorder and their relatives. Both genetic and environmental factors were considered and they found that genes played a remarkably larger part in determining incidence of both disorders than did environmental factors. They concluded that: 1) people with a relative who has schizophrenia or bipolar disorder are at greater risk of developing one of the disorders; 2) people with a relative who has one of the disorders are likely to have another relative with either one of the disorders and; 3) people with schizophrenia are more likely to develop bipolar disorder than others. The study found that sisters and brothers of people with either disorder were nine times more likely to develop bipolar or schizophrenic disorders.

This news is important to researchers who, for decades, have studied the disorders independently of each other. Bipolar disorder is classified as a mood disorder and schizophrenia as a psychotic disorder in the current and previous DSM, the most commonly used diagnostic manual in North America. This information is also likely to be of interest to genetics counselors and families in which one or more members have or had either or both of the disorders.

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No one appreciates the onset of a headache – whether dull or sharp, behind the eyes or covering the surface of the skull, a headache can interfere with work, school, playtime, and one’s overall ability to focus and cope with the stresses of daily life. But for over thirty million Americans, headaches are far more debilitating. This group is afflicted by migraines, a type of headache notable for its intense pain and sustained duration, causing extreme sensitivity to noise and light, and making even the simplest of tasks difficult. Most migraine sufferers find that medicines – whether over the counter or prescribed by a doctor – have little effect on their symptoms. This can result in serious problems in one’s professional and personal life, and is a major concern in modern health care. But a new study published this month in the journal General Hospital Psychiatry suggests that those with depressive disorders are at high risk for migraine headaches, and the converse is true as well.

Those with a long history of migraine headaches are often concurrently diagnosed with depression in a variety of forms, which can stem from feelings of helplessness and futility in connection with migraine symptoms. Working with data compiled by the German National Health review, the new study’s researchers found that those with anxiety and related disorders were significantly more likely to report instances of migraines, as well. In fact, as much as eighty three percent of migraine sufferers were also afflicted by anxiety or a depressive disorder. These conditions may cause more suffering for victims than the headaches themselves, leading doctors to urge patients to seek treatment and therapy for psychiatric complaints as well as actual migraines. The researchers suggest that introducing a course of therapy for either problem will naturally benefit the other.

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When flipping through the stations of a radio while on the go, it’s a common treat to come upon a song that strikes a certain inner chord – for its sound or for its lyrics, we can easily become attracted to new music. But an even more fascinating phenomenon lies within the experience of tuning into an old classic, whether it’s a long-time favorite or simply something heard long ago during formative years. For most people, hearing and recognizing an old song brings back vivid memories. Certain events or periods in life may flash through the mind, or detailed scenes may replay, all at the stirring of those special notes. But recently a psychology team at Kansas State University wanted to find out if it was the actual hearing of old songs that brought about vivid memories of the past, or whether the brain can produce these scenes and images without the aid of aural stimulation.

Researchers compiled lists of older songs from a broad range of students at the university, creating a body of music sure to ring bells for the test subjects. Control groups were shown the list, exposed only to the titles and artists, while test groups were exposed to clips of the songs themselves, and others were given printed lyrics or album art. Participants then wrote detailed memories associated with given songs. Interestingly enough, those shown only the list of titles and artists produced memories and images that were just as detailed as those who were exposed to the sensory stimuli, leading the research team to conclude that that our own inner representations of songs are as powerful as the experience of actually hearing them. So next time you long to hear a favorite childhood tune, just hum along or recall its chorus and you’ll be on your way down memory lane.

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By Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT

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My psychotherapy practice has always revolved around family of origin work in some way – and I’m very passionate about the work itself. Watching people make deep, fundamental shifts in how they view themselves and the world is powerful to observe – and potentially life changing for them.

So what is family of origin work?

I define “family of origin work” as the exploration of a person’s experiences with parents and/or primary caregivers to uncover unhelpful belief systems (core beliefs) negatively impacting their adult functioning. Read the rest of this entry

Dear Members and Visitors to GoodTherapy.org,

I want to play for you a version of the Star-Spangled Banner that moved me and my friends to tears Tuesday morning while watching President Obama take office.

Click here to Play the Updated Star Spangled Banner

This version of the Star-Spangled Banner was written by Karen Stocker, a friend, colleague, and heart-centered therapist in the Seattle area. I’m sure you will feel her inspiration when you read the words below or listen to the recording. For me her song is about ‘patriotism revised’, an anthem for the human race, not just Americans; for we are all in this together.

You are welcome to leave comments for Karen below and, if you’d like to contact her, I can forward your request. Just contact us using the support form

May this open all our hearts to what the world needs now…love sweet love.

Noah Rubinstein, LMFT
Executive Director GoodTherapy.org

Karen’s Star Spangled Banner:

Love
has called me to sing
to the new
Daybreak Star
all I’ve longed
to believe
that my country’s flag stands for;

Whose bright hearts
and great minds
can no more
study war
but now cherish
the Earth
and her yearning, tired and poor;

Till our power
to care
for this Life
we all share
Restores
the world’s Hope
that our soul is still there.

Today may my people
prove brave and truly free
to lift every voice
in the Harmony
of Just
Peace.

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by Noah Rubinstein, LMFT
Executive Director GoodTherapy.org

In even the darkest of times, there is one particular essence of the human spirit which compels us to prevail and prosper; though we may experience great trials and witness ourselves and our lives subjected to disappointing and sometimes painful circumstances, hope is a part of the human experience which belies our deeply positive and creative nature. Hope may come in a variety of forms, from the simplest symbol, like the vibrant petals of a crocus emerging from winter’s snowy blanket, to the greatest acts of perseverance, as in those afflicted with terminal illnesses who nevertheless accomplish amazing things. But whether hope is embodied in a metaphor or brazenly displayed in our actions, it has the power to nourish and heal; to improve and uplift; to bring about a brighter future.

There is perhaps no greater embodiment of hope for the future today than the figure of Barack Obama, who will attend his inauguration and become the forty-fourth President of the United States before the sun has set. For millions of Americans and the people of distant nations all around the world, the inauguration marks a new devotion to peace and prosperity, as well as big hopes for the years to come. Through the past eight years, the United States has seen war, aggression, several domestic tragedies, financial upheaval, and an administrative show of disdain for many of those values that Americans and their friends abroad hold dear. But though the events themselves, as well as the rapidly growing discontent with the government and the image of the people projected by its policies, may have threatened, the collective will to reinvent and reconsider, they stand today as obstacles inviting the country to forge a new path.

Many people are counting on the new President to follow through with those initiatives and policy changes that affect them most. Some may be awaiting the return of a loved one from military service in Iraq, celebrating Obama’s commitment to a swift and gracious homecoming for US troops. Others are concerned about the state of the environment and how we regulate our interaction with it, ringing in the inauguration with visions of green technology and a greater devotion to ecological living. Still others eagerly anticipate the refinement of health care, trusting that a new administration will work hard to deliver its ideals of universal care in ways that will improve and empower their lives. From the small towns and metropolises of America to the most poverty-stricken places on Earth and the intellectual centers of Europe and Asia, dreams await their realization, and hardships taste their end. Though there are innumerable wishes and personal victories being uttered in homes across the nation and the globe today in tandem with Obama’s official inauguration, they all represent our innermost attribute, timeless and immortal: hope.

United in dreams of a better future, and in our determination to help create a happier and more prosperous world, American citizens and human beings from every nation have come together to witness the change in presidency and experience the beginning of what promises to be a new and joyous era. With hope in our hearts and a vast hunger for understanding, knowledge, patience, and brotherhood, we make our way towards a world where children can be happy and free, elders can be healthy and at peace, and adults can work with and respect one another. And though these goals may be lofty, though they may need many years or even decades to accomplish, and though the new American President may not fulfill every promise or realize every goal, our hope tells us that all we truly need to make it happen is precisely what we know, today, we have: the opportunity.

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