After the Affair: From Trauma to ... Forgiveness?

Presented by Janis Abrahms Spring, PhD, ABPP on 02-20-2015 at 9 a.m. Pacific

Even experienced therapists can become overwhelmed by couples ravaged by infidelity as partners display rage and despair and precipitously drop out of therapy. Both partners battle feeling hopeless and helpless. Janis Abrahms Spring’s 37 years of pioneering work inform her strategies for helping couples tackle and transcend the trauma of infidelity, including the particular challenges presented by affairs in cyberspace.

You’ll learn a revolutionary approach for handling secrets in couple therapy. You’ll also gather skills for helping wounded and unfaithful partners normalize the emotional avalanche of their experience so they don’t feel so crazy, shattered, or alone. You’ll be able to help them identify current life stressors, family of origin experiences, and other factors that made them vulnerable to an affair; appreciate the power, addiction, and illusion of romantic love; and make thoughtful, self-interested decisions about whether to fight for the relationship or end it. If the couple chooses to stay together, you’ll also learn strategies for helping partners rebuild trust, rekindle an intimate connection, and earn forgiveness.

The emphasis of this workshop will be on providing practical and concrete tools for helping partners take responsibility for their share of the relationship damage, grow as individuals, and, perhaps, bond together as a couple more strongly than ever before.

This web conference is intermediate instructional level and designed to help clinicians:

  1. Employ a revolutionary open-secrets policy that helps couples and therapists manage secrets in therapy;
  2. Identify what makes cybersex so tempting and addictive;
  3. Explain how recognition of contributing factors is critical to reducing a couple's susceptibility to future affairs;
  4. Describe a trust-building exercise that cultivates connection between partners after an affair.

If you have any questions or concerns about this web conference or would like more information, please contact us here.

How the Web Conference Works

Attendees who register for this event will log in to the web conference center by using a computer and calling in to the teleconference line. Attendees will be able to ask live audio questions via phone and/or submit text chat questions via computer. Live streaming video and/or document sharing will also be available to participants. Alternatively, attendees may dial in to the teleconference line only, though attendees dialing in by phone only will be unable to ask questions.

Before the scheduled event, all registered attendees will be sent a reminder email with specific instructions on how to log in to the web conference center, as well as links to optional handout materials if applicable.

This event will include lecture and question-and-answer periods. A recording of the web conference will be available to members in GoodTherapy.org's Continuing Education Archives within two weeks. After the live event, a written transcript of the event will be available in the Member's Area. Members of GoodTherapy.org can receive continuing education credits for attending this event by logging in to the GoodTherapy.org Member's Area.

405.5CE hours and counting!

All are available to GoodTherapy.org members at no additional cost.

Continuing Education (CE) Information

Two CE credits will be provided by GoodTherapy.org for attending this web conference in its entirety.

GoodTherapy.org is also an Approved Education Provider by NAADAC, The Association for Addiction Professionals (provider #135463). Of the eight counselor skill groups ascribed to by NAADAC, this course is classified within counseling services.

GoodTherapy.org is an NBCC-Approved Continuing Education Provider (ACEPTM) and may offer NBCC-approved clock hours for events that meet NBCC requirements.

GoodTherapy.org, provider #1352, is approved as a provider for social work continuing education by the Association of Social Work Boards (ASWB) www.aswb.org, through the Approved Continuing Education (ACE) program. ASWB Approval Period: March 30, 2016 through March 30, 2019. Social workers should contact their regulatory board to determine course approval. Social workers participating in this course will receive two clinical continuing education clock hours.

GoodTherapy.org is approved by the American Psychological Association to sponsor continuing education for psychologists. GoodTherapy.org maintains responsibility for this program and its content and is solely responsible for all aspects of the program.

GoodTherapy.org, SW CPE is recognized by the New York State Education Department's State Board for Social Work as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed social workers #0395.

Registration Information

This web conference is available at no cost to GoodTherapy.org members.

This event has already taken place. An audio recording for this event may be available in the Member's Area.

Event Reviews from Members

"The most useful part of the learning for me was how Dr. Spring identified concrete ways to help encourage couples to build trust again." - Ellen Schrier, MS, LPC

"The entire workshop was insightful and helpful. I have read her books." - Corinna Merriman-Morris, CAGS

Meet the Presenter

Janis Abrahms Spring, PhD, ABPP

Janis Abrahms Spring, PhD, ABPP

Janis Abrahms Spring, PhD, ABPP, is nationally recognized as an expert on the topics of intimacy, trust, and forgiveness. She is the author of After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful, which sold more than half a million copies. The second edition, recently updated, includes a chapter on the “new infidelity”—affairs in cyberspace. Dr. Spring’s book Life with Pop: Lessons on Caring for an Aging Parent, which explores the moments of grace and personal struggles associated with caregiving and growing old, was awarded the Living Well Award Silver Medal. How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, The Freedom Not To, was a finalist for Best Psychology Book from the Books for a Better Life Award.

Throughout 37 years of private practice, Dr. Spring’s innovations and rich clinical experience have made her a distinguished presenter and a popular media guest on programs such as Good Morning America and NPR. She received the Connecticut Association of Marriage and Family Therapists Award for Distinguished Family Service and the Connecticut Psychological Association’s Award for Distinguished Contribution to the Practice of Psychology. She is Board Certified in Clinical Psychology and was a clinical supervisor in Yale University’s department of psychology.

Dr. Spring lives in Westport, Connecticut with her husband. They have four grown sons and five grandchildren. For additional information on Dr. Spring, please visit www.janisaspring.com.

Continuing Education Provider Approvals

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    GoodTherapy.org is Approved by the American Psychological Association to sponsor continuing education for psychologists. GoodTherapy.org maintains responsibility for this program and its content. APA approval applies to all events listed after May 2011.
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    GoodTherapy.org has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 6380. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified. GoodTherapy.org is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs.
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    This course has been approved by GoodTherapy.org, as a NAADAC Approved Education Provider, for educational credits. NAADAC Provider #135463. GoodTherapy.org is responsible for all aspects of their programming.
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    GoodTherapy.org, provider #1352, is approved as a provider for social work continuing education by the Association of Social Work Boards (ASWB) www.aswb.org through the Approved Continuing Education (ACE) Program. GoodTherapy.org maintains responsibility for the program. ASWB Approval Period: 03/30/2016 – 03/30/2019. Social workers should contact their regulatory board to determine course approval for continuing education credits. Social workers participating in this course will receive 2 clinical continuing education clock hours.
  • GoodTherapy.org, SW CPE is recognized by the New York State Education Department's State Board for Social Work as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed social workers #0395.